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FFS you don’t own her. You sound like an insecure man child
As such, I'm open to paying for her to use some form of financial coach or advisor to help hold her more accountable and teach her without having to constantly feel like the parent. Also hoping that coming from someone other than me she will be more willing to listen.
She's not the one who needs to be more willing to listen. You are.
You're complaining that you don't want to “constantly feel like the parent” but you're still literally looking to parent your partner, you're just looking for a proxy to do it on your behalf. You're using phrases like “hold her more accountable” and “teach her”. It shows complete disrespect for her autonomy and agency as an adult. So let me try on her behalf to explain to you one last time what she has been trying to tell you all along:
She doesn't want you to hold her accountable. She doesn't want someone to teach her how to manage her money. SHE IS HAPPY WITH THE STATUS QUO.
YOU are the one who is unhappy, and while I understand why, what YOU don't seem to understand is that you have two options going forward, and neither of them involves “holding her accountable” or “teaching her” to manage her money.
She likes who she is, she doesn't want to change, and if you continue to push her you're only going to ruin your relationship slowly and over a long time. So your choices are as follows: 1) Accept her as she is, a spendthrift who will never be particularly responsible with money and will likely continue to rack up credit card debt, and deal with the stress because you want to be with her, or 2) break up with her because you have incompatible financial values. But don't waste your time hiring someone to parent her on your behalf. She's already told you twelve ways from Sunday that she doesn't want that, so all you're going to do is waste your money, insult her, and ruin your relationship further.
What advice do you have for having this conversation?
Don't have it. It's patronising, and you've already had it multiple times, and she has already made her feelings abundantly clear to you. You're not listening. Now you're just being controlling. Frankly, you should just break up. You say that you love her, but you don't; you love an idea of who she could be once you've “fixed” her, and that's not who she is or wants to be. So just make like Elsa and let it go.
Meh, it happens. I mean, you and your wife like each other, so it's not out of the realm of possibility that your respective siblings would like each other too.
No biggie, to me.