Like trying to quit smoking cause she don't like . So I have to sneake out hear and there . You know they have those virtual reality goggles . She thinks your playing a game or something . Lol or Substitute the porn with her .
She is untrustworthy and has shown that to be the case repeatedly. You cannot date someone you can't trust – it will drive you insane. You will always be thinking about it and wondering if she's lying.
I had a situation very similar to this happen, where it just snowballed and I couldn’t pinpoint why or how it got so bad. Last week I found out that dear friend died suddenly of an aneurysm. I can’t tell you how much I regret not reaching out, I’m Absolutely devastated.
Don’t be me.
Just reach out. Send a pic, do anything! Life is just too short for regrets.
My read, as a total outsider, is that your friends might have wanted to save you from more post-breakup heartache if the separation was messy. Since you went no contact, that’s what I have to assume. Additionally, your friends were probably thinking (about your best friend): “Well, that’s your shitshow, girl.” I wouldn’t be surprised if they left it up to your best friend to tell you, because it’s “her” business. That’s not great friendship, imo.
It’s also worth asking then how much they knew. Relationships don’t just solidify in a day outside of Vegas. If it’s just two friends hanging out and supporting each other (at first), which then turns into more, your friends would have to balance the privacy of your best friend and your ex’s (individually) with your own. Especially if they didn’t known exactly the severity of the “relationship” at any given time. That might cause unnecessary friction within the friend group if the details are hazy. No one wants to be the one to cry wolf.
If your best friends and ex were bed wrestling in the first week after your breakup, though, and your friends group knew, well, that’s fucked up.
What’s more fucked up is the silent ultimatum that has been delivered. If things aren’t good, then it’s clear someone is going to be forced out of the friend group. Your best friend called shotgun and has lumped that pressure onto your shoulders. If you still have a foothold with your friend group, you could make a pretty good case they tell your best friend to take a hike instead. It’s very “her or me”-sounding.
Frankly, I have a friend group where I wouldn’t be surprised if this happened to me. Many of them went to the same local high school and have known each other for decades. They’re rides or dies. So, those bonds run deep, deep, deep. I came along after all that. They might not feel as bad about it if you’re in the same pool as I am.
Overall, it feels like a very complicated betrayal. You can ask your friends why they kept it from you, but you don’t have to accept their answers. If you end up super pissed and want to go full bridge burner, consider that they kept a secret from you. You probably know just as many secrets about them. Junk food for thought.
Well we’ve been committed for two weeks. We’ve been dating for two months. I guess it’s early to say I love you but I don’t really know if that’s a determining factor for anything??
Where do you think morals came from? Our era of godlessness self indulgence was not pushed by good forces.
No one has forced you to god. You actively deny him and made a choice. You decided to pretend there is no consequences until the bill occurs.
I’m saying you have a very low understanding of the subject as a whole. It’s one thing to be unsure of god but to flout him all together is extraordinary unwise.
But there is one entity that would respect your views and the message you push.
Are you really falling in love? Or is that loneliness (horniness) talking?
Has she given any real indication that she wants to spend (unpaid) time with you? She might just be stringing ypu along emotionally to keep her as a paying customer.
Do you have a savior (save-her) complex? Thinking you will “rescue” her from her current lifestyle? And she will be forever “grateful” to you in return? If this turns into a real relationship that makes for a huge power imbalance.
Do you even know the real “her” behind the escort? Or is she just playing a fantasy role of who you want her to be?
A day of scrolling Reddit can’t end much better than this. Absolutely heartwarming and wholesome. Logging off this app now to do something productive with the rest of my night ?
My ex did the very same thing. The condoms just went missing, and he denied their whole existence and then got mad at me for even opening the drawer and making up stories.
I understand as I have to deal with anxiety and overthinking too.
One way I cope with it is when I recognize I am overthinking too much, I just say “fuck it!” and do it.
Sometimes it works to my favor. Sometimes it doesn't. But I have been choosing to do it this way instead of regretting that I did not do it like my other past regrets when I was younger.
Are you taking antidepressants?
If so, it's not your gf drugging you, it's you.
Like trying to quit smoking cause she don't like . So I have to sneake out hear and there . You know they have those virtual reality goggles . She thinks your playing a game or something . Lol or Substitute the porn with her .
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everytime T is mentioned she lies
She is untrustworthy and has shown that to be the case repeatedly. You cannot date someone you can't trust – it will drive you insane. You will always be thinking about it and wondering if she's lying.
Dump her
would want to hear her side of it but yeah y’all’s relationship is on its last leg
I had a situation very similar to this happen, where it just snowballed and I couldn’t pinpoint why or how it got so bad. Last week I found out that dear friend died suddenly of an aneurysm. I can’t tell you how much I regret not reaching out, I’m Absolutely devastated.
Don’t be me.
Just reach out. Send a pic, do anything! Life is just too short for regrets.
Well, that’s complicated.
My read, as a total outsider, is that your friends might have wanted to save you from more post-breakup heartache if the separation was messy. Since you went no contact, that’s what I have to assume. Additionally, your friends were probably thinking (about your best friend): “Well, that’s your shitshow, girl.” I wouldn’t be surprised if they left it up to your best friend to tell you, because it’s “her” business. That’s not great friendship, imo.
It’s also worth asking then how much they knew. Relationships don’t just solidify in a day outside of Vegas. If it’s just two friends hanging out and supporting each other (at first), which then turns into more, your friends would have to balance the privacy of your best friend and your ex’s (individually) with your own. Especially if they didn’t known exactly the severity of the “relationship” at any given time. That might cause unnecessary friction within the friend group if the details are hazy. No one wants to be the one to cry wolf.
If your best friends and ex were bed wrestling in the first week after your breakup, though, and your friends group knew, well, that’s fucked up.
What’s more fucked up is the silent ultimatum that has been delivered. If things aren’t good, then it’s clear someone is going to be forced out of the friend group. Your best friend called shotgun and has lumped that pressure onto your shoulders. If you still have a foothold with your friend group, you could make a pretty good case they tell your best friend to take a hike instead. It’s very “her or me”-sounding.
Frankly, I have a friend group where I wouldn’t be surprised if this happened to me. Many of them went to the same local high school and have known each other for decades. They’re rides or dies. So, those bonds run deep, deep, deep. I came along after all that. They might not feel as bad about it if you’re in the same pool as I am.
Overall, it feels like a very complicated betrayal. You can ask your friends why they kept it from you, but you don’t have to accept their answers. If you end up super pissed and want to go full bridge burner, consider that they kept a secret from you. You probably know just as many secrets about them. Junk food for thought.
Still is weird she’d wear some other person clothing
Well we’ve been committed for two weeks. We’ve been dating for two months. I guess it’s early to say I love you but I don’t really know if that’s a determining factor for anything??
Where do you think morals came from? Our era of godlessness self indulgence was not pushed by good forces.
No one has forced you to god. You actively deny him and made a choice. You decided to pretend there is no consequences until the bill occurs.
I’m saying you have a very low understanding of the subject as a whole. It’s one thing to be unsure of god but to flout him all together is extraordinary unwise.
But there is one entity that would respect your views and the message you push.
Are you really falling in love? Or is that loneliness (horniness) talking?
Has she given any real indication that she wants to spend (unpaid) time with you? She might just be stringing ypu along emotionally to keep her as a paying customer.
Do you have a savior (save-her) complex? Thinking you will “rescue” her from her current lifestyle? And she will be forever “grateful” to you in return? If this turns into a real relationship that makes for a huge power imbalance.
Do you even know the real “her” behind the escort? Or is she just playing a fantasy role of who you want her to be?
“poly relationships are awesome”
Yeah.
I ruined it when I got irritated with him.
A day of scrolling Reddit can’t end much better than this. Absolutely heartwarming and wholesome. Logging off this app now to do something productive with the rest of my night ?
You sound creepy as hell! Why’d you think that was a good idea? She might actually need therapy after that. Wow.
Go to HR and inform them of the affair and get them fired
She sounds really naive.
My ex did the very same thing. The condoms just went missing, and he denied their whole existence and then got mad at me for even opening the drawer and making up stories.
I understand as I have to deal with anxiety and overthinking too.
One way I cope with it is when I recognize I am overthinking too much, I just say “fuck it!” and do it.
Sometimes it works to my favor. Sometimes it doesn't. But I have been choosing to do it this way instead of regretting that I did not do it like my other past regrets when I was younger.
DO NOT DO IT. Nothing good can come of this…it is a HUGE red flag. You don't know him.