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Every day I consider what I’ve done wrong. If I’ve done wrong. And indeed do I have regrets … imho I don’t have regrets but I regret not communicating to her. I regret it every day. I’ve gone way passed asking, hinting, asking to do things, initiating and so on.
My wife is beautiful to me but she just works and works and the rest of her life takes second fiddle.
Sad.
Communicate how you feel but you’ll most likely get a minor increase in Sexual activity and then straight back to what you have within a matter of weeks.
If I could go back I’d have tried harder sooner and if it failed I’d have bailed.
Okay, so I'm probably going to be a unique voice here for a few reasons. I (22m) am an orthodox Catholic whose ideal end goal is to be a sole provider to a large family living a modest lifestyle with a woman I trust homeschooling heading up the homeschooling of our kids. let's put aside whether or not that's realistic for me because that's not what this is about. I'm not him. The only reason I do bring that up is because I feel like I understand where he's coming from. For my community in particular, 5 months of dating before a proposal isn't particularly unusual because we're dating with the serious intent of finding a spouse and raising a family in mind. And in general, I don't think other men care too much about how much a woman makes. In fact, my father always said the fact he made less than my mom bothered him because it made him feel inadequate as a man. So, when I read the situation you've described, my exact thoughts are “shared goals/ beliefs, obvious affection, and as he's the one shouldering all the financial burden he obviously trusts you and has faith in the relationship. so, what's the problem?” and if I'm being honest this boyfriend of yours seems like he's about where I want to be in 5 years or so.
bottom line, from an outsider looking in his decision makes sense. and if the only thing that's got you confused is the obvious financial risk, the only answer I can give you as to why that doesn't bother him is he believes that won't be an issue. he has faith in the relationship, and I fail to see why that's particularly baffling. and if you don't share that optimism then I don't know what to say to you other than ' why not?'
Responding to your 2nd point, I’ve got a pretty recent example as to why:
While my wife and I are currently living with my best friend of the last 12 years or so, we’ve quickly learned that his baby-momma is intolerable, and that this friendship/living dynamic does not work. We’d given them a car, 100% free asking nothing in return, because they desperately needed one and we were in a position to make a car payment where they were not. We’ve given them rent. We’ve bought food for them and the house.
This has put a serious strain on everyone here. We agreed we’d be here until the end of March, but after several conflicts, this changed to “by the end of the month”. They’ve used our cards to pay for stuff, blown through our food, she had a conversation in Spanish with her mom standing right next to me while talking shit on us (I speak Spanish..)
Friendships come and go, even 10 years or more down the road. Life changes. As much as I love my friends and would bleed for them, they’re not the ones I made or am making a lifelong commitment to by signing up for a romantic relationship. I’ve also learned that sometimes our partners or potential partners can be a good non-biased outside source and can see things in others that we don’t see or have become blinded to.
I’ll never understand why some western women settle for this shit. How can they not realize they are just being fetishized and used as a place holder is beyond me. It’s not offensive that these men consider you fair game to party and sleep with but not take home to the parents? Is hypocrisy just baked into these cultures or what? Like, it’s ok to fuck western women, just don’t marry them. And yet, it’s always white westerners getting accused of being racist lol
You admit that 1) you feel your jealousy is irrational and 2) you’ve had zero luck in finding your way into one of these wild experiences that this relationship will “close the door to” for you. I think it’s fine/normal to feel jealous or envious when people are getting to have experiences that you really want to have yourself, but you then need to recognize and understand that’s how you’re feeling and move on. This will be her first orgy but if this is something she is into (you mentioned she’s hooked up with this couple in the past) you don’t know for sure if this is something that will be off the table forever. It is usually recommended that you take time to build up trust and respect in your relationship before opening it up, so you can discuss with your girlfriend the possibility of joining another couple or looking for a third once you are a more established couple. Also it seems like you like her and the sex must also be good because you’re already fwb and she seems sexually adventurous so maybe you should think more in the way of would you not be satisfied with just her? Would being in a monogamous relationship with her TRULY cut off other sexual opportunities (that you want) for you? Are you unable to accept knowing that she has had these experiences once you are in a relationship? I am not a particularly jealous person so I might be seeing things differently here but to me it seems like right now your just her fwb. She is going on a trip she has already planned to take part in something she was looking forward to but she still feels a personal connection with you that she wants to explore further. If you really are interested in her too, what’s the big issue?
You need to tell her that she needs to talk to your ex. SInce they are best friends. You're already making the same mistake by going behind her back AGAIN. She is currently not being a best friend. Be upfront with her, about how you feel about each other. And that you'd really hope she'd be okay with you two seeing each other.
If she is really so loyal to her best friend, she won't date you because it's against her wishes. Then she needs to do the right thing here.
a nice letter might be best, you can describe your fellings and that the lack of phisical contanct don't affect you care for him, sincerity in these case is the best policy
I know you invested so much of your time to this relationship. It's frustrating that you can't get those years back. And you will miss him and your heart will feel like someone punched a giant hole through it for a long time. BUT………………………………..I can promise you, there is someone out there you haven't met yet or maybe you already have met them but weren't available to them at the time. In spite of all the personal turmoil, please leave a little open space for a new begining. It will happen, by fate or action, you will come through this ready for a new and refreshing relationship. I promise! It happened to me and it truly was the best thing that could have happened (even though I wanted to crawl into an active volcano and never return to the surface of this planet). I have had a great and fulling personal life and career because I didn't marry the wrong person (but I loved him with all my heart). It's because when it was over, it was over! I stood up and dusted myself off and marched into my new future. You can, too.
Good luck on your Boards, the timing is terrible, I know. But let your studies distract you. Join a study group if that is an option. Wishing you well.
Your bf is insecure and I hate to break it to you but no amount of proof would satisfy him. He seems to only want your autonomy stripped and that’s not healthy.
I’d give him an ultimatum: either he apologizes and does better next time, or you walk. If he gets jealous like this again, show him the door.
Yes telling someone you don't want them to meet/see a new friend because it makes you personally uncomfortable is controlling. If you trust her the what does it matter? If you don't then just leave. Tired of people not trusting their partner and whinging about every tiny thing.
Do you trust her? Yes or no. If yes, she can have whatever friends she wants. If no, it doesn't matter cause you should leave. It's simple.
He has no friends because he has no friendship skills. Set a limit, such as “if we hung out together, no need to video chat that evening” and also tell him he needs to make some friends, besides you, to hang out with.
Of course that means you don't get to give him grief because he's always with his friends and you feel excluded!
I can think of plenty of scenarios where I go out and socialize without my husband. That's not what this is about though. This is about having a choice between 20 people I kinda know and 20 people I kinda know plus my best friend at my primary birthday celebration. No practical concerns, just a choice between having them there or them waiting at home.
I like a “girls night” sometimes. Personally, I would prefer not to have one on the day of my actual birthday because I want to spend it with the most important person in my life.
Every day I consider what I’ve done wrong. If I’ve done wrong. And indeed do I have regrets … imho I don’t have regrets but I regret not communicating to her. I regret it every day. I’ve gone way passed asking, hinting, asking to do things, initiating and so on.
My wife is beautiful to me but she just works and works and the rest of her life takes second fiddle.
Sad.
Communicate how you feel but you’ll most likely get a minor increase in Sexual activity and then straight back to what you have within a matter of weeks.
If I could go back I’d have tried harder sooner and if it failed I’d have bailed.
Okay, so I'm probably going to be a unique voice here for a few reasons. I (22m) am an orthodox Catholic whose ideal end goal is to be a sole provider to a large family living a modest lifestyle with a woman I trust homeschooling heading up the homeschooling of our kids. let's put aside whether or not that's realistic for me because that's not what this is about. I'm not him. The only reason I do bring that up is because I feel like I understand where he's coming from. For my community in particular, 5 months of dating before a proposal isn't particularly unusual because we're dating with the serious intent of finding a spouse and raising a family in mind. And in general, I don't think other men care too much about how much a woman makes. In fact, my father always said the fact he made less than my mom bothered him because it made him feel inadequate as a man. So, when I read the situation you've described, my exact thoughts are “shared goals/ beliefs, obvious affection, and as he's the one shouldering all the financial burden he obviously trusts you and has faith in the relationship. so, what's the problem?” and if I'm being honest this boyfriend of yours seems like he's about where I want to be in 5 years or so.
bottom line, from an outsider looking in his decision makes sense. and if the only thing that's got you confused is the obvious financial risk, the only answer I can give you as to why that doesn't bother him is he believes that won't be an issue. he has faith in the relationship, and I fail to see why that's particularly baffling. and if you don't share that optimism then I don't know what to say to you other than ' why not?'
hope that helps.
Responding to your 2nd point, I’ve got a pretty recent example as to why:
While my wife and I are currently living with my best friend of the last 12 years or so, we’ve quickly learned that his baby-momma is intolerable, and that this friendship/living dynamic does not work. We’d given them a car, 100% free asking nothing in return, because they desperately needed one and we were in a position to make a car payment where they were not. We’ve given them rent. We’ve bought food for them and the house.
This has put a serious strain on everyone here. We agreed we’d be here until the end of March, but after several conflicts, this changed to “by the end of the month”. They’ve used our cards to pay for stuff, blown through our food, she had a conversation in Spanish with her mom standing right next to me while talking shit on us (I speak Spanish..)
Friendships come and go, even 10 years or more down the road. Life changes. As much as I love my friends and would bleed for them, they’re not the ones I made or am making a lifelong commitment to by signing up for a romantic relationship. I’ve also learned that sometimes our partners or potential partners can be a good non-biased outside source and can see things in others that we don’t see or have become blinded to.
What movie ?
I’ll never understand why some western women settle for this shit. How can they not realize they are just being fetishized and used as a place holder is beyond me. It’s not offensive that these men consider you fair game to party and sleep with but not take home to the parents? Is hypocrisy just baked into these cultures or what? Like, it’s ok to fuck western women, just don’t marry them. And yet, it’s always white westerners getting accused of being racist lol
Your mom is so right. 11 kids is alarming.
You admit that 1) you feel your jealousy is irrational and 2) you’ve had zero luck in finding your way into one of these wild experiences that this relationship will “close the door to” for you. I think it’s fine/normal to feel jealous or envious when people are getting to have experiences that you really want to have yourself, but you then need to recognize and understand that’s how you’re feeling and move on. This will be her first orgy but if this is something she is into (you mentioned she’s hooked up with this couple in the past) you don’t know for sure if this is something that will be off the table forever. It is usually recommended that you take time to build up trust and respect in your relationship before opening it up, so you can discuss with your girlfriend the possibility of joining another couple or looking for a third once you are a more established couple. Also it seems like you like her and the sex must also be good because you’re already fwb and she seems sexually adventurous so maybe you should think more in the way of would you not be satisfied with just her? Would being in a monogamous relationship with her TRULY cut off other sexual opportunities (that you want) for you? Are you unable to accept knowing that she has had these experiences once you are in a relationship? I am not a particularly jealous person so I might be seeing things differently here but to me it seems like right now your just her fwb. She is going on a trip she has already planned to take part in something she was looking forward to but she still feels a personal connection with you that she wants to explore further. If you really are interested in her too, what’s the big issue?
You need to tell her that she needs to talk to your ex. SInce they are best friends. You're already making the same mistake by going behind her back AGAIN. She is currently not being a best friend. Be upfront with her, about how you feel about each other. And that you'd really hope she'd be okay with you two seeing each other.
If she is really so loyal to her best friend, she won't date you because it's against her wishes. Then she needs to do the right thing here.
a nice letter might be best, you can describe your fellings and that the lack of phisical contanct don't affect you care for him, sincerity in these case is the best policy
I know you invested so much of your time to this relationship. It's frustrating that you can't get those years back. And you will miss him and your heart will feel like someone punched a giant hole through it for a long time. BUT………………………………..I can promise you, there is someone out there you haven't met yet or maybe you already have met them but weren't available to them at the time. In spite of all the personal turmoil, please leave a little open space for a new begining. It will happen, by fate or action, you will come through this ready for a new and refreshing relationship. I promise! It happened to me and it truly was the best thing that could have happened (even though I wanted to crawl into an active volcano and never return to the surface of this planet). I have had a great and fulling personal life and career because I didn't marry the wrong person (but I loved him with all my heart). It's because when it was over, it was over! I stood up and dusted myself off and marched into my new future. You can, too.
Good luck on your Boards, the timing is terrible, I know. But let your studies distract you. Join a study group if that is an option. Wishing you well.
Your bf is insecure and I hate to break it to you but no amount of proof would satisfy him. He seems to only want your autonomy stripped and that’s not healthy.
I’d give him an ultimatum: either he apologizes and does better next time, or you walk. If he gets jealous like this again, show him the door.
Yes telling someone you don't want them to meet/see a new friend because it makes you personally uncomfortable is controlling. If you trust her the what does it matter? If you don't then just leave. Tired of people not trusting their partner and whinging about every tiny thing.
Do you trust her? Yes or no. If yes, she can have whatever friends she wants. If no, it doesn't matter cause you should leave. It's simple.
You already had her name ready, dude. From where I’m standing you’re already cheating.
He has no friends because he has no friendship skills. Set a limit, such as “if we hung out together, no need to video chat that evening” and also tell him he needs to make some friends, besides you, to hang out with.
Of course that means you don't get to give him grief because he's always with his friends and you feel excluded!
Wtf did I just read?!!! Omg.
This sounds tiring. It should not be this difficult to be with someone.
how so?
I can think of plenty of scenarios where I go out and socialize without my husband. That's not what this is about though. This is about having a choice between 20 people I kinda know and 20 people I kinda know plus my best friend at my primary birthday celebration. No practical concerns, just a choice between having them there or them waiting at home.
I like a “girls night” sometimes. Personally, I would prefer not to have one on the day of my actual birthday because I want to spend it with the most important person in my life.