Leave him. This is a seriously worrying level of disregard for your comfort and safety. The fact he continues after you confirm that something hurts is scary.
Get checked for endometriosis, it can often cause sex to be painful.
Very inappropriate, talk to her first and gauge her response, and ask her if that's what you guys talked about earlier. It seems really weird and I myself would start to wonder about it. Talk to her first and see if it's necessary for him to apologize. I hope that you forgot about that conversation and I hope that she didn't have that conversation with him about it. It's actually a very funny gift to give a single woman
Okay first and foremost, I wouldn’t ask about what kind of porn he watches. For me that is kind of private and if my SO asked me that I would get uncomfortable. You should try to take control of the situation and spontaneously try something new. If he still doesn’t want to, I would consider breaking it off. Is this something you would be able to online with for the rest of your life? My SO and I are pretty sexually compatible, but if one of us wants to try something new, the other person is always down! It’s literally night and day from my last relationship. Hope this helps!
There's nothing unethical about a young girl making a dancing tik tok. Plus she's not the adult in this situation. The 35 year old who creeps on young girls who post dancing tik toks is.
This man is responsible for his own behavior. He's the adult.
Its not always that easy. Some women are just flirty. It's fine to shoot your shot but if you don't get a date, move on. You don't need to be weird or pushy about it.
Not such a small thing. 18+ years of legal financial obligation and emotional output. Trust but verify is well justified. The mother never has to wonder if they are the mother.
Heck, if a man can’t have an opinion on abortion because he can’t get pregnant, then a woman can’t have an opinion on a DNA test as she never has to question her own paternity.
Um, he never stopped being an addict. It is a focal point in his life, and you're essentially a sidepiece to it. It's apparent he has no self control and he can't stop even though he tries. How is this not addict behavior? It's just a matter of time before he gets caught at work and he'll 100% lose his job over it. Why do you choose to stay in such an unsatisfying and risky relationship?
I’m honestly quite torn on this one because normally I advise people that it’s very normal and natural for their partners to notice the passing attractiveness of others and that you can’t expect your partner to never think of anyone other than you as desirable. But that’s not what you’re asking here – your boyfriend has actively told you that he wasn’t drawn to your looks initially, but that he is drawn to the appearance of other women immediately (even if it’s no more than an unintentional stare, which I think is pretty normal). Being told that kind of information even in the context of a very loving relationship is something that’s difficult to deal with and I don’t think you’re at fault for feeling conflicted here.
As someone who has literally walked into a shopping cart because I was staring at a very hot woman I get that you can’t always help it, but he’s set up a very shaky foundation for that kind of occasional accident by telling you what he told you. Part of me is inclined to think that many people feel greater attraction to their partners over time, so it is something to try and get past; part of me wants to tell you that you shouldn’t settle for someone who thinks you’re anything less than the best thing that’s ever happened to them (and he may indeed feel that way about you, in which case I hope he tells you so often). For what it’s worth I’d consider myself fairly average looking, but my husband always tells me how incredibly attractive he finds me and that I’m literally the ideal body type to him. So you don’t have to look like a model to find somebody who feels that way about you.
I guess what bothers me about your situation is that YOU are the one looking to do something to fix this, and not your boyfriend. As far as I’m concerned, he should be the one on here asking for advice. He should be saying hey, I unintentionally made my wonderful girlfriend feel insecure by mentioning that I wasn’t immediately attracted to her physically but sometimes am to other women – how can I possibly reassure her that I love her more than anything and that she’s the only person I desire and want a future with despite my stupid comments? I’m not saying he’s wrong for feeling that way, but what possible purpose did it serve to tell you any of that information? It was a silly and thoughtless thing to say and he should recognise it as his fuck up, and his job to repair. You shouldn’t have to make yourself feel like you don’t need to compare yourself to others – he should be making you feel that way, or at least doing a lot of work towards it.
Our partners can’t totally fix our insecurities but they can certainly do a lot to heal them – is your boyfriend doing that for you? Because if he’s not then I’d definitely consider this settling, and I know that’s not what you want for yourself.
Two weeks is not a “short trip”. Especially when you’re married or have a child. If you don’t want commitments and things tying you down, don’t get married or have children.
ContentEwport8866, In the comments she writes she drives him to work and talks to his professors for him because he’s failing school. She’s being his mommy
So she's emotionally cheating with you. I've never heard of that turning into a relationship. Like she isn't even attracted to you enough to fully cheat, and that would be doomed to failure in and of itself. Good luck.
They may sincerely see qualities in you that make you a great catch
Maybe they think he is NOT a great guy
Or they just saying something nice to make you feel better.
Or for some other reason. Sorry I was no help. Good luck
Leave him. This is a seriously worrying level of disregard for your comfort and safety. The fact he continues after you confirm that something hurts is scary.
Get checked for endometriosis, it can often cause sex to be painful.
Please get tested for STDs and dump his ass.
honestly, i think im just in denial. thank u.
Very inappropriate, talk to her first and gauge her response, and ask her if that's what you guys talked about earlier. It seems really weird and I myself would start to wonder about it. Talk to her first and see if it's necessary for him to apologize. I hope that you forgot about that conversation and I hope that she didn't have that conversation with him about it. It's actually a very funny gift to give a single woman
Okay first and foremost, I wouldn’t ask about what kind of porn he watches. For me that is kind of private and if my SO asked me that I would get uncomfortable. You should try to take control of the situation and spontaneously try something new. If he still doesn’t want to, I would consider breaking it off. Is this something you would be able to online with for the rest of your life? My SO and I are pretty sexually compatible, but if one of us wants to try something new, the other person is always down! It’s literally night and day from my last relationship. Hope this helps!
What you can do is get the hell out. It sounds like this is headed to domestic violence. You aren't the problem.
Communication isn't getting him to apologize sk what do I do now?
Probably is hormones lmfao
That really went right over your head, huh? Lmaooo
Bro get out of that, she’s an addict and that’s not the kind of stress you want.
There's nothing unethical about a young girl making a dancing tik tok. Plus she's not the adult in this situation. The 35 year old who creeps on young girls who post dancing tik toks is.
This man is responsible for his own behavior. He's the adult.
Telling someone to go fuck themselves is aggressive and harmful.
I suspect you may be understating how often you do so.
I don't do anything to them. I give them a ride and talk to them.
Its not always that easy. Some women are just flirty. It's fine to shoot your shot but if you don't get a date, move on. You don't need to be weird or pushy about it.
Not such a small thing. 18+ years of legal financial obligation and emotional output. Trust but verify is well justified. The mother never has to wonder if they are the mother.
Heck, if a man can’t have an opinion on abortion because he can’t get pregnant, then a woman can’t have an opinion on a DNA test as she never has to question her own paternity.
Um, he never stopped being an addict. It is a focal point in his life, and you're essentially a sidepiece to it. It's apparent he has no self control and he can't stop even though he tries. How is this not addict behavior? It's just a matter of time before he gets caught at work and he'll 100% lose his job over it. Why do you choose to stay in such an unsatisfying and risky relationship?
I’m honestly quite torn on this one because normally I advise people that it’s very normal and natural for their partners to notice the passing attractiveness of others and that you can’t expect your partner to never think of anyone other than you as desirable. But that’s not what you’re asking here – your boyfriend has actively told you that he wasn’t drawn to your looks initially, but that he is drawn to the appearance of other women immediately (even if it’s no more than an unintentional stare, which I think is pretty normal). Being told that kind of information even in the context of a very loving relationship is something that’s difficult to deal with and I don’t think you’re at fault for feeling conflicted here.
As someone who has literally walked into a shopping cart because I was staring at a very hot woman I get that you can’t always help it, but he’s set up a very shaky foundation for that kind of occasional accident by telling you what he told you. Part of me is inclined to think that many people feel greater attraction to their partners over time, so it is something to try and get past; part of me wants to tell you that you shouldn’t settle for someone who thinks you’re anything less than the best thing that’s ever happened to them (and he may indeed feel that way about you, in which case I hope he tells you so often). For what it’s worth I’d consider myself fairly average looking, but my husband always tells me how incredibly attractive he finds me and that I’m literally the ideal body type to him. So you don’t have to look like a model to find somebody who feels that way about you.
I guess what bothers me about your situation is that YOU are the one looking to do something to fix this, and not your boyfriend. As far as I’m concerned, he should be the one on here asking for advice. He should be saying hey, I unintentionally made my wonderful girlfriend feel insecure by mentioning that I wasn’t immediately attracted to her physically but sometimes am to other women – how can I possibly reassure her that I love her more than anything and that she’s the only person I desire and want a future with despite my stupid comments? I’m not saying he’s wrong for feeling that way, but what possible purpose did it serve to tell you any of that information? It was a silly and thoughtless thing to say and he should recognise it as his fuck up, and his job to repair. You shouldn’t have to make yourself feel like you don’t need to compare yourself to others – he should be making you feel that way, or at least doing a lot of work towards it.
Our partners can’t totally fix our insecurities but they can certainly do a lot to heal them – is your boyfriend doing that for you? Because if he’s not then I’d definitely consider this settling, and I know that’s not what you want for yourself.
Two weeks is not a “short trip”. Especially when you’re married or have a child. If you don’t want commitments and things tying you down, don’t get married or have children.
Report them to their command, then leave.
The short answer is no.
If she cannot fully commit to both you and your daughter this will never work out. She entered the relationship knowing your a pair and what happened.
No need to say more.
ContentEwport8866, In the comments she writes she drives him to work and talks to his professors for him because he’s failing school. She’s being his mommy
Op? You TOLD him you have body image problems.
You have been working out a lot. He never acknowledges it.
He makes “jokes” about your body.
You wore some nice lingerie. He did two things.
He barely looked at you.
He laughed at you.
You are asking how you can communicate with him about his (cruel, insensitive, and demeaning comments) behavior.
My question to you, Op. Why are you putting up with a crappy person?
So she's emotionally cheating with you. I've never heard of that turning into a relationship. Like she isn't even attracted to you enough to fully cheat, and that would be doomed to failure in and of itself. Good luck.
Do you really need someone this messed up in your life?