The gf (30F) won’t workout and it’s making me personally (31M) not want to marry her.

We have been with each other for a decade. She is my best friend and I love her. Through the years, I have stayed active plus regularly go to the gym and he or she has chosen not to and has gained a lot of weight. Along the way, I have encouraged her to join me at the gym, encouraged the girl to join gyms that better suit what she wants to do, and have tried the best to positively reinforce the girl taking the gym and diet plan seriously. She keeps producing excuses to not go yet acknowledges that’s she needs to lose weight in a healthy way so I thought we were on a single page, then 4 many years passed and nothing has changed. What usually happens will be she’ll get excited plus hit the gym really good for 2 weeks then something occurs and she won’t go for a 30 days. How can I help her modify this? She is expecting myself to propose this year and am know life long love is all about more than just looks but preserving a decent figure is important in my experience and I’ve lost lots of my sexual attraction to her… not a very comforting feeling when you’re about to propose. I’m not inquiring her to be model slim but I don’t want to marry someone who is on the cusp of obesity when they are usually 30. I want us to become active, I want our long term kids to be active, I would like us to live! long healthful lives, and I want my spouse to be sexy (why will this feel wrong to say? It shouldn’t). At a certain point it comes off as her not caring regarding me because I have tried so hard to get her to commit to fitness like the girl used to be and she knows essential it is in my life and she still chooses not to. It’s getting to the point where I can really feel my resentment building each time she makes an excuse in order to skip the gym and I know that’s not going to lead anywhere healthy. How do I bring this up to her respectfully so she can sense the particular urgency but without ruining the relationship and making her feel horrible? I want the girl to feel encouraged.

If I break up with the girl for this it might surprise the girl because I’ve always been unaggressive and walked around the issue because I don’t want to audio so vain but girl, you’re losing me and I so desperately want you to definitely change that!