He’s pretty open with me, which is why I was leaning towards medical. That’s why I asked him to see a doctor. I’m pretty close to the family that he keeps in contact with, and honesty is a big thing with us, so I don’t think he’s experiencing anything he wouldn’t tell me about. I’m not very fond of the idea of going through his phone. He’s perfectly fine with it, but I’d rather not.
I figured the headaches might have been from the lack of food. But getting him an MRI and bringing him lunch at work are both excellent ideas. Thank you.
Honestly it doesn't sound totally shady, based on “allowed to bring a plus one” someone else is paying for his stay and he's allowed to bring someone along for the ride. Whoever's paying him to go bought him one room.
If you can get this guy to assure you there won't be any funny business, then I'd say agree to go with him, and find out where you'll be staying and book your own room separately, on your own dime. That way you'll have somewhere private to wind down and turn in.
You told him in the middle of sex that you aren't into him anymore after 3 years. Then began seeing someone else. now you want him to come back and be completely respectful? You yourself say it was only about sex so he came over and only had sex. What is it you're hoping for here?
Idk what your issue is I often convince random women to let me film them get gangbanged by random black men in the nightclub's bathroom. With drugs on tap.
Often, I also threaten my friends' relationship and act clueless when they try to ruin mine. Because why would anyone attack me so ?
Also, everytime my relative relay to me something a random individual says, I take it as gospel because I heard it from the relative and not the random. This makes a lot of sense when you're a retarded fiction writer
When monogamous relationships open up, it is because one wants to cheat. They are usually over at the suggestion. If they linger, most are like a crashing automobile going down an embankment. Never do anything you don't want to. No it was not perfect or you would not be here. You just didn't know.
No you’re not overreacting. I’m unsure why people are trying to sway your opinion about why you chose not to watch porn. You know what’s best for yourself.
The real issue is you set boundaries in the beginning of your relationship which she agreed upon and she said she would break up with you if you watched it, now the tables are turned – dump her. You’re gonna have even more trust issues and draining arguments to deal with if you stay especially if you already had standing trust issues. She knew the consequences, so don’t feel bad about kicking her out.
I want to believe so strongly that everything he said is genuine and he really loves me. I want to believe that he really is sorry and regretful of everything he did to me. But the fact he slept with others hurt because that's not what a lovesick person will ever do. In a way, I feel manipulate.
Yes going through the divorce. No, she moved out and has her own house. She is in a same sex relationship with another woman (her roommate from rehab).
Don't let her move in right now. If you had children and no privacy anyway, it would be one thing. Maybe a condo near by might work. She is too young to be putting this on you. Stand your ground.
Maybe start with just one thing, the driver's licence. Offer to get her a driving course and arrange care for the kids so she is able. Too many “demands” can seem overwhelming. Sit down and talk to her about why she is afraid of it, and see what can be done to quell that fear and nervousness. However you can't force someone who just flat out refuses to help themselves.
This can happen when you haven’t been having sex regularly or you haven’t had sex in a while. Nothing to worry about, just keep practicing and it should get better.
Good luck OP.
Stop drinking commit fully to whatever he requires after you ask him how he can trust you again
People like you are the reason people don’t like their partners to have friends of the opposite sex. Leave this man alone.
To you maybe. To the situation and how OP feels? Probably not. To me whose comment you responded to? Not one bit relevant.
why are you dating an adult who you don’t this is “capable of thinking things through”?
He’s pretty open with me, which is why I was leaning towards medical. That’s why I asked him to see a doctor. I’m pretty close to the family that he keeps in contact with, and honesty is a big thing with us, so I don’t think he’s experiencing anything he wouldn’t tell me about. I’m not very fond of the idea of going through his phone. He’s perfectly fine with it, but I’d rather not.
I figured the headaches might have been from the lack of food. But getting him an MRI and bringing him lunch at work are both excellent ideas. Thank you.
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Try dbt! Regular therapy does not work for those of us with bpd
Do I need to call her and ask her what is going on?
Why is a crime perpetuated against your girlfriend about your feelings? What is wrong with you? She didn’t do anything wrong he’s a grub.
Honestly it doesn't sound totally shady, based on “allowed to bring a plus one” someone else is paying for his stay and he's allowed to bring someone along for the ride. Whoever's paying him to go bought him one room.
If you can get this guy to assure you there won't be any funny business, then I'd say agree to go with him, and find out where you'll be staying and book your own room separately, on your own dime. That way you'll have somewhere private to wind down and turn in.
Well if the guy cant make a decent move and resorts to a creepy move to share a hotel. That is a red flag.
You told him in the middle of sex that you aren't into him anymore after 3 years. Then began seeing someone else. now you want him to come back and be completely respectful? You yourself say it was only about sex so he came over and only had sex. What is it you're hoping for here?
Okay… bit of a weird question but does she do it when nobody is around? Or when she's just going through her chores as well?
I'm not sure what the correct term is but maybe she's using it like stimming?
Idk what your issue is I often convince random women to let me film them get gangbanged by random black men in the nightclub's bathroom. With drugs on tap.
Often, I also threaten my friends' relationship and act clueless when they try to ruin mine. Because why would anyone attack me so ?
Also, everytime my relative relay to me something a random individual says, I take it as gospel because I heard it from the relative and not the random. This makes a lot of sense when you're a retarded fiction writer
Maybe you guys should just eat your own foods on your own plates… seems a bit childish to fight about ketchup tbh
When monogamous relationships open up, it is because one wants to cheat. They are usually over at the suggestion. If they linger, most are like a crashing automobile going down an embankment. Never do anything you don't want to. No it was not perfect or you would not be here. You just didn't know.
No you’re not overreacting. I’m unsure why people are trying to sway your opinion about why you chose not to watch porn. You know what’s best for yourself.
The real issue is you set boundaries in the beginning of your relationship which she agreed upon and she said she would break up with you if you watched it, now the tables are turned – dump her. You’re gonna have even more trust issues and draining arguments to deal with if you stay especially if you already had standing trust issues. She knew the consequences, so don’t feel bad about kicking her out.
Came here to say this lol.
I want to believe so strongly that everything he said is genuine and he really loves me. I want to believe that he really is sorry and regretful of everything he did to me. But the fact he slept with others hurt because that's not what a lovesick person will ever do. In a way, I feel manipulate.
Yes going through the divorce. No, she moved out and has her own house. She is in a same sex relationship with another woman (her roommate from rehab).
Don't let her move in right now. If you had children and no privacy anyway, it would be one thing. Maybe a condo near by might work. She is too young to be putting this on you. Stand your ground.
Maybe start with just one thing, the driver's licence. Offer to get her a driving course and arrange care for the kids so she is able. Too many “demands” can seem overwhelming. Sit down and talk to her about why she is afraid of it, and see what can be done to quell that fear and nervousness. However you can't force someone who just flat out refuses to help themselves.
This can happen when you haven’t been having sex regularly or you haven’t had sex in a while. Nothing to worry about, just keep practicing and it should get better.