I was in a two year relationship and he only did that shit ONE TIME. Only ONCE.
Like yes- we are all visual creatures and we will take a little look from time to time- but it’s a matter of respect….like it’s very easy to control yourself and/or to hide it.
The fact I only caught my ex checking another girl out ONE TIME in the 2 years we were together…..
Girl this shouldn’t be something you just accept in your relationship.
When I called my ex out he denied denied denied and it made me furious. I was like “excuse me…you’re sitting across from your gf. hello? it’s me your gf. I didn’t know I was standing across the street outside of this restaurant.”
he laughed nervously and that’s when I went in very hot. like TF? and he said he “just appreciates her dress and thought I would look great in it.”
I went hard again….
That’s when he said…”okay yes I’m horny and I haven’t seen you in days and we haven’t f*fled and I haven’t had time to watch porn and yes I like her dress and yes I think you would look great in those dresses and yes I was checking her out and I’m checking you out too. I’m sorry.”
And then I was like okay babe. Punishing you when we get home. And I laughed it off.
All I personally want is honesty. But at the same time that was the first and last occurrence of my ex checking another girl out ever so blatantly in front of me.
People are different and relationships are different. Some couples are just fine pointing out the hotness of others. With my ex I was not fine with it. But I’ve been in other relationships where I loved it. Even talking about it during sex.
Different people bring forth different relationships- each dynamic is different. If you’re not okay with it…you shouldn’t have to accept it. And most importantly- you shouldn’t be made to feel crazy.
Came to say a paper trail and honestly beating the rapist to it. If she gets an idea that he’ll report the assault she will try to flip it in him.
He’s gaslighting you.
I was in a two year relationship and he only did that shit ONE TIME. Only ONCE.
Like yes- we are all visual creatures and we will take a little look from time to time- but it’s a matter of respect….like it’s very easy to control yourself and/or to hide it.
The fact I only caught my ex checking another girl out ONE TIME in the 2 years we were together…..
Girl this shouldn’t be something you just accept in your relationship.
When I called my ex out he denied denied denied and it made me furious. I was like “excuse me…you’re sitting across from your gf. hello? it’s me your gf. I didn’t know I was standing across the street outside of this restaurant.”
he laughed nervously and that’s when I went in very hot. like TF? and he said he “just appreciates her dress and thought I would look great in it.”
I went hard again….
That’s when he said…”okay yes I’m horny and I haven’t seen you in days and we haven’t f*fled and I haven’t had time to watch porn and yes I like her dress and yes I think you would look great in those dresses and yes I was checking her out and I’m checking you out too. I’m sorry.”
And then I was like okay babe. Punishing you when we get home. And I laughed it off.
All I personally want is honesty. But at the same time that was the first and last occurrence of my ex checking another girl out ever so blatantly in front of me.
People are different and relationships are different. Some couples are just fine pointing out the hotness of others. With my ex I was not fine with it. But I’ve been in other relationships where I loved it. Even talking about it during sex.
Different people bring forth different relationships- each dynamic is different. If you’re not okay with it…you shouldn’t have to accept it. And most importantly- you shouldn’t be made to feel crazy.
(28F)