I don't get why you think your son is faultless in all this?
In my dictionary a “broken home” is living in a house with two parents who can't get their crap together and get along. Not two parents who are divorced but happy and can give a child stability and an emotionally safe environment.
And you don't have custody agreements, lawyers, etc.? Rights of the child are considered more than the rights of the parents these days.
Yeah, he was dumb and made a bad decision. A part of life is dealing the consequences of your actions. He knew what he was doing. He made a conscious decision to lie to his wife and hurt her. Sorry, but this is all on him.
He chose to go to the massage parlour with the intent on having a happy ending while in a relationship. He even admits he knows it's cheating but he did it anyway.
Depression doesn't make someone cheat. He's using that as an excuse.
Now it's up to you to decide if you can continue the relationship or not. Don't let him manipulate you into staying because “you should support him” through this.
The dude knew what he was doing, lied about it for a year and is only telling you because he felt guilty and new it was wrong and unfair to you.
Exactly ! OP I want you to ask yourself something:
If you had self esteem and self respect , what would you be doing about this?
Would you be thinking about staying with him because you feel desperate and scared ?
Or would you value yourself enough to get rid of someone who is so utterly despicable to you?
What would your life look like if you actually took care of yourself?
Maybe take out “Life is too short for this crap.” It leaves you wide open as that door.
I don't get why you think your son is faultless in all this?
In my dictionary a “broken home” is living in a house with two parents who can't get their crap together and get along. Not two parents who are divorced but happy and can give a child stability and an emotionally safe environment.
And you don't have custody agreements, lawyers, etc.? Rights of the child are considered more than the rights of the parents these days.
Yeah, he was dumb and made a bad decision. A part of life is dealing the consequences of your actions. He knew what he was doing. He made a conscious decision to lie to his wife and hurt her. Sorry, but this is all on him.
Yea, this wasn't a mistake, this was a choice.
He chose to go to the massage parlour with the intent on having a happy ending while in a relationship. He even admits he knows it's cheating but he did it anyway.
Depression doesn't make someone cheat. He's using that as an excuse.
Now it's up to you to decide if you can continue the relationship or not. Don't let him manipulate you into staying because “you should support him” through this.
The dude knew what he was doing, lied about it for a year and is only telling you because he felt guilty and new it was wrong and unfair to you.