I wish we could all chip in a few bucks so you could get out of there. Sounds like you're in a really tough spot, but you need to leave. Somehow you just have to Gone Girl yourself. Good luck! Will be praying for your safety!
A lot of dudes think this sort of piggish behavior is inevitable and normal because of their gender. It is not, it’s some problem with you, how you were raised and the company you keep. My advice is to fix it.
BTW I’m talking the texting not the porn. I get the feeling you that this is either an issue with what specifically you were watching or an issue because your talk about her friend and lack of sex already made her feel unnwanted.
I’d honestly be more willing to get over my partner getting drunk and having sex with someone than going through the process of falling in love with someone else while leading me on again.
I worry he won’t allow me to visit as much as I would want to. It’s jsut a huge major change to me. We entered this relationship with the intention of staying in my hometown forever. I never wanted to leave. It’s the perfect place to raise a family. And now I feel like my kids are going to grow up without a great education and their options limited to farming or something. Mainly the life I dreamed of is changing. I guess it just hurts and I don’t have anyone to talk to about it.
Yeah, as a PI, I totally second this. A google search can reveal enough info to help OP put two and two together. Also a search for marriage records and a family court search for divorce records.
Body pillows are the BEST. Apart from the obvious problem of her unreasonable jealousy which everyone else has covered. Maybe get her to actually try taking a nap with it. Much better than a pokey human.
“… Should be considering his daughter your own STEPchild”
?
No.
If you're a single parent in a committed on-line in relationship, you are obligated to take care of yourself and your children. Full stop. They do not become the other person's responsibility just because you live together, nor do you. Handle your business, you're not a ward.
You’re probably not the first person to notice this about them but you’re probably the first person to feel like you need to intervene. They’re an adult they don’t need your pity. They’re using it to manipulate you and it’s working. Please don’t try to fix them or pity them. They are not an incapable child or someone who needs help. Best of luck!
He’s a sociopath for doing it in the first place so what makes you think he’s man enough to admit it? The important thing is you know the hard truth so it’s up to you to decide what to do next.
He's 36 and still wishy washy girlllll if you're an Eastern euro woman you are most likely fine as hell so don't waste your youth on this flop and oth the other things you mentioned, you do sound like a prize and he sounds petty and taking advantage of you especially over the soup thing.
From one eastern euro woman to another, leave this bum. He can go back to his mom and criticize her cooking and ask her whats the latest women can have kids by. Or he can go to India and do a downward facing dog like the bitch he sounds like he is all day every day.
Disgusting comments from someone who doesn’t sound like they even love you. He’s going to try and keep breaking your self esteem until there isn’t much left and you don’t feel like you can do any better than him. You don’t need to stop being resentful, you need to stop being with him.
As a motorcycle rider myself there are 3 types of riders. 1. Thouse who have gone down. 2. Those who will go down. 3. Thouse who have gone down and will go down again.
In my first 2 years of riding (Orange County CA) I was in 4 crashes, 2 serious, 1 minor, and 1 funny but with no harm.
As a motorcycle rider you need to be EXTREMELY comfortable with your own mortality and understand every time you swing a leg over a bike, you have a high chance of getting killed.
Just because you two may look like a perfect match on paper doesn't mean you two are right for each other. Human connection is way more complicated than that
Now you get to say “The best part of you ended up in your moms backpack” for the rest of your life.
I would have laughed. Unless you ruined something I guess, then I would be annoyed but still laugh. “Great, now my bag is pregnant.”
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I wish we could all chip in a few bucks so you could get out of there. Sounds like you're in a really tough spot, but you need to leave. Somehow you just have to Gone Girl yourself. Good luck! Will be praying for your safety!
My first husband told me several times that he knew how to kill a person, by one very hot hit in the chest.
Guess who got all her ribs broken a short time later?
Those situations are tricky. It’s a damned if you do, damned if you don’t kind of thing.
A lot of dudes think this sort of piggish behavior is inevitable and normal because of their gender. It is not, it’s some problem with you, how you were raised and the company you keep. My advice is to fix it.
BTW I’m talking the texting not the porn. I get the feeling you that this is either an issue with what specifically you were watching or an issue because your talk about her friend and lack of sex already made her feel unnwanted.
Ya….that shitshow is a-comin'
I’d honestly be more willing to get over my partner getting drunk and having sex with someone than going through the process of falling in love with someone else while leading me on again.
I worry he won’t allow me to visit as much as I would want to. It’s jsut a huge major change to me. We entered this relationship with the intention of staying in my hometown forever. I never wanted to leave. It’s the perfect place to raise a family. And now I feel like my kids are going to grow up without a great education and their options limited to farming or something. Mainly the life I dreamed of is changing. I guess it just hurts and I don’t have anyone to talk to about it.
Yeah, as a PI, I totally second this. A google search can reveal enough info to help OP put two and two together. Also a search for marriage records and a family court search for divorce records.
End this.
He stays in another town so how would I know he was truly at home resting.
Body pillows are the BEST. Apart from the obvious problem of her unreasonable jealousy which everyone else has covered. Maybe get her to actually try taking a nap with it. Much better than a pokey human.
“… Should be considering his daughter your own STEPchild”
?
No.
If you're a single parent in a committed on-line in relationship, you are obligated to take care of yourself and your children. Full stop. They do not become the other person's responsibility just because you live together, nor do you. Handle your business, you're not a ward.
Maybe I can put it into perspective.
Your GF is:
high on weed 24/7
ventures into hard drugs
fiscally irresponsible
not too much into dating (whatever that means)
… but hey, at least she’s vegan!
Dude. Wake up. You’re her wallet, not her boyfriend.
You’re probably not the first person to notice this about them but you’re probably the first person to feel like you need to intervene. They’re an adult they don’t need your pity. They’re using it to manipulate you and it’s working. Please don’t try to fix them or pity them. They are not an incapable child or someone who needs help. Best of luck!
No, this is an update not an advice seeking post. OP already acted on the advices he received on his previous post
He’s a sociopath for doing it in the first place so what makes you think he’s man enough to admit it? The important thing is you know the hard truth so it’s up to you to decide what to do next.
He's 36 and still wishy washy girlllll if you're an Eastern euro woman you are most likely fine as hell so don't waste your youth on this flop and oth the other things you mentioned, you do sound like a prize and he sounds petty and taking advantage of you especially over the soup thing.
From one eastern euro woman to another, leave this bum. He can go back to his mom and criticize her cooking and ask her whats the latest women can have kids by. Or he can go to India and do a downward facing dog like the bitch he sounds like he is all day every day.
No rush. Give it time.
I can but i also want to explore the places we were going to explore.
Their behaviour comes in waves so it is somewhat tollerable but i just feel sad sometimes. Thanks for your reaction
Yup, nothing screams “I value my partner as a person” like talking about them like an object you've bought.
Disgusting comments from someone who doesn’t sound like they even love you. He’s going to try and keep breaking your self esteem until there isn’t much left and you don’t feel like you can do any better than him. You don’t need to stop being resentful, you need to stop being with him.
She cheated on you, and divorce is the only thing currently on her mind.
As a motorcycle rider myself there are 3 types of riders. 1. Thouse who have gone down. 2. Those who will go down. 3. Thouse who have gone down and will go down again.
In my first 2 years of riding (Orange County CA) I was in 4 crashes, 2 serious, 1 minor, and 1 funny but with no harm.
As a motorcycle rider you need to be EXTREMELY comfortable with your own mortality and understand every time you swing a leg over a bike, you have a high chance of getting killed.
Just because you two may look like a perfect match on paper doesn't mean you two are right for each other. Human connection is way more complicated than that