Emotional affairs are a thing and everyone has different boundaries,YOU and only you can define what counts as cheating. What can be caussing you to feel so uncomfortable is the secrecy and the fact that he isn't offering you enough care and affection. I'd 100% suggest having a serious talk about your feelings before things get worse:(
Im a solid foot taller then my gf and have no problem being on top. Little awkward at first but you can get used to it. Sounds like a lazy selfish lover to me.
He said I was end game material and he didn't know if he was ready for that yet.
If he said that, then went off and fucked a 19-year old and got her flowers, which he never did for you, he clearly doesn't think you're HIS endgame.
I agree with everyone in the comments. Report him for taking advantage of a student, leave him, and find a guy who won't blame you for his difficulties. You deserve better.
You're ignoring the context of his making comments and expressing potential doubt previously. She offered the reality that she's a tall woman, and recessive genes do weird stuff, as a reasonable explanation – but she DID have to offer an explanation. So, there IS added context you're ignoring that makes it less likely to be a random fun things.
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That’s totally where I’m coming from instinctively, I think. It just feels a bit unnatural for me personally, to feel like I’m controlling any aspect of his life. But you’re right though, it was necessary to make a big deal out of.
I can't believe what I'm reading. If you can't see what's happened to your son here then you are as bad as your husband. Get him to the ER immediately and tell them exactly what has happened. Hopefully when CPS get involved they'll decide that you're only guilty of incredible stupidity – although to be honest for me that's no excuse.
The age gap can be a tricky thing. Presently there’s a 15yr age gap between me and my gf. Most of the time, it’s not an issue though I am a bit more conservative and old fashioned than she is. ESP on certain topics. For us, as long as we remember it’s “us against the problem” and not “us against each other”, it works out very well.
The moment you attempt to exert age or wage or life experience in a dominant role in an attempt to gain or regain control in a situation – you’re going to have issues.
I was like you – in that I thought the age gap would be an issue. (She very vehemently pursued me). While she is an “old soul”.. I was still worried about the age gap. Much to my surprise.. minus a few topics.. it’s really not much of an issue.
We do differ wildly on politics and some of the more feminist ideas she has.. but at the end of the day.. we’re on the same page 99% of the time. With her.. I told myself “judge her for who she is.. what her actions show her to be.. and not her age”.
I’ve encouraged her to further her education (from masters to phd), spend time w her friends, and that if she ever wants out – she doesn’t owe me anything – to simply be upfront about it & I will understand.
For.. whatever reason.. she wakes up and chooses me every day. So.. I focus more on enjoying her for who she is and how our lives just kinda.. click together.
She loves my son as if he were her own.. and my kid.. when he’s not displaying some of my less desirable personality traits.. loves her like a 2nd mom. Though we’ve made it a point that he never has to refer to her as such unless that’s what he wants.
Obv there are limitations to viewing someone like this which fall firmly outside social and legal norms.. but generally speaking, I prefer to judge a person for who they are.. not their age or how they started life.
Let them show you who they are and judge accordingly. Everyone is keen on telling you who they are and what they want… which is fine.. but actions, speak a lot louder than words.
Emotional affairs are a thing and everyone has different boundaries,YOU and only you can define what counts as cheating. What can be caussing you to feel so uncomfortable is the secrecy and the fact that he isn't offering you enough care and affection. I'd 100% suggest having a serious talk about your feelings before things get worse:(
Im a solid foot taller then my gf and have no problem being on top. Little awkward at first but you can get used to it. Sounds like a lazy selfish lover to me.
He said I was end game material and he didn't know if he was ready for that yet.
If he said that, then went off and fucked a 19-year old and got her flowers, which he never did for you, he clearly doesn't think you're HIS endgame.
I agree with everyone in the comments. Report him for taking advantage of a student, leave him, and find a guy who won't blame you for his difficulties. You deserve better.
You're ignoring the context of his making comments and expressing potential doubt previously. She offered the reality that she's a tall woman, and recessive genes do weird stuff, as a reasonable explanation – but she DID have to offer an explanation. So, there IS added context you're ignoring that makes it less likely to be a random fun things.
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That’s totally where I’m coming from instinctively, I think. It just feels a bit unnatural for me personally, to feel like I’m controlling any aspect of his life. But you’re right though, it was necessary to make a big deal out of.
I can't believe what I'm reading. If you can't see what's happened to your son here then you are as bad as your husband. Get him to the ER immediately and tell them exactly what has happened. Hopefully when CPS get involved they'll decide that you're only guilty of incredible stupidity – although to be honest for me that's no excuse.
Why isn’t she your type ?
Seriously? You can’t make your own lunch for work or bring your plate to the kitchen after dinner? This is just so pathetic. I hope she dumps you.
The age gap can be a tricky thing. Presently there’s a 15yr age gap between me and my gf. Most of the time, it’s not an issue though I am a bit more conservative and old fashioned than she is. ESP on certain topics. For us, as long as we remember it’s “us against the problem” and not “us against each other”, it works out very well.
The moment you attempt to exert age or wage or life experience in a dominant role in an attempt to gain or regain control in a situation – you’re going to have issues.
I was like you – in that I thought the age gap would be an issue. (She very vehemently pursued me). While she is an “old soul”.. I was still worried about the age gap. Much to my surprise.. minus a few topics.. it’s really not much of an issue.
We do differ wildly on politics and some of the more feminist ideas she has.. but at the end of the day.. we’re on the same page 99% of the time. With her.. I told myself “judge her for who she is.. what her actions show her to be.. and not her age”.
I’ve encouraged her to further her education (from masters to phd), spend time w her friends, and that if she ever wants out – she doesn’t owe me anything – to simply be upfront about it & I will understand.
For.. whatever reason.. she wakes up and chooses me every day. So.. I focus more on enjoying her for who she is and how our lives just kinda.. click together.
She loves my son as if he were her own.. and my kid.. when he’s not displaying some of my less desirable personality traits.. loves her like a 2nd mom. Though we’ve made it a point that he never has to refer to her as such unless that’s what he wants.
Obv there are limitations to viewing someone like this which fall firmly outside social and legal norms.. but generally speaking, I prefer to judge a person for who they are.. not their age or how they started life.
Let them show you who they are and judge accordingly. Everyone is keen on telling you who they are and what they want… which is fine.. but actions, speak a lot louder than words.