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You dropped a friend for screwing your fiance, before you ever dated, knowing there are no feelings? You have a very fragile ego. Good luck.
Spoiler: his dick is bigger, she's just telling you whatever it takes. Not that it matters, but it matters to you, and she knows it.
At this point I would let it go but keep your guard up. Tell him the fun stops now and that any further interactions with these numbers outside of deleting them will be taken as him being a willing participant.
Been with my husband for 8 years, and we have kids. This sunday he surprised me with cinema and dinner when I thought we were going to buy tools. He had brought my favorite snacks too. I thought that was very romantic. I wouldn't call it an epic love story, but those words make me think of stories like beauty and the beast. A story in which they sacrifice themselves to save the other. There aren't many of those in real life.
You may not get the fairy-tale. But you can get a partner that takes time and makes you happy, that remembers what you like and use it to make your day special sometimes.
I like Pokémon and when I moved in he bought a bunch of the stuffed toys and hid them and then gave me one whenever I had a bad day. I also thought that was very sweet, thoughtful and romantic.
The thing is you have to do the same for your partner and make him feel special too. And when you keep doing it will remind him to do the same.
OP, it’s not worth it to say with someone like this. I tried. I even married mine, and my sexual past made him so insecure that he insisted we needed an open relationship so he could catch up on what he missed out on. He wanted to have his experiences and wanted me to just sit idly by and encourage him to do so. I’m not saying that’s how your situation would be but, they never let it go once it starts bothering them. He became suspicious of everything I did and everyone I talked to and it was not worth it. I now have a loving and truly supportive partner and he doesn’t care at all about my sexual past.
Not every conversation needs to end with a series of “take care, you too, goodbye, goodbye to you, best wishes, good luck”.
Well, I do, that’s why I’m asking for advice on how to approach the subject
This is the way
Call the police
Y’all aren’t just dating you guys are married. Going to lunch with another woman besides your wife is disrespectful
It sounds like you're viewing this as a potential compatibility issue, and I don't think you're wrong, it absolutely can be! I have a couple questions and a bit of clarification, tho.
1) What kind of smart is your girlfriend? 2) And how does she think? 3) Are those places where she's better at things than you places where you will appreciate having complementary skills as you co-life together?
Explanations for the above: my partner and I have very different intelligences. She thinks in straight lines and I think in webs of relational meaning. This means she is MUCH better at understanding things deeply (like interstellar, probably!) and I'm better at using contexts to make informed inferences about the world. How does this work irl? She'll explain jokes to me, tell me how code works, she'll learn how to build us a table in a weekend. She used to teach math. I'll explain to her the emotional temperature of a room, why that person was acting shitty, the transactions at the heart of this or that political debate. These skills we have are HIGHLY complementary, especially where there's less overlap. We make each other better.
I feel like I'm noticing in your post that you seem to value your particular type of intelligence more highly than hers. What happens if you do activities together where she has the opportunity to explain something to you that's above your head? You might still find that you don't value her ability to contribute in that way, and tbh I think that's fine – we all have different values. But IF you want the relationship to have legs, one of the things you could start doing is actively practicing gratitude for her and looking for things she can teach you.
What might that look like? (I'm making all this up but insert her skills and interests as applicable) “Hey gf, you make really good [food, craft, music]. How do you get that flavor/texture/effect?” “Wow you navigated that [social thing] with like, zero discomfort. How did you do that?” “How do you know what to get ppl for gifts so well?” “Show me how you handled [work thing] so effortlessly?” “How do you bend like that? Can you teach me?”
If you want a long relationship, really valuing your partner is how you do it. Be wary of contempt – once you feel that, it's pretty well over imo.
This situation is way over my pay grade, but I do think one thing is important: ultimately May is the one who made the choice and therefore have to take responsibility, don't blame yourself for not be able to “save” her in the end.
Sounds like you have no problem buying her out, so buy her out and then give her notice to move out of your house.
But don't tell her you're going to kick her out. Those will be some cards you're going to hold close to you without revealing it to her.
I mean, they're rarer but they exist. I dated a guy uptight like that once- horrified by the idea of everything I had/or would do. Not fun at all, didn't last.
I suppose you'll find out if he ever responds or you get a chance to talk about this.
He sounds creepy. I’d just walk away honestly
As a 30F my age range would be 25 to 35 🙂 i possibly would have dated a 22 year old when I was 26ish if we had lots in common and were on a similar page in life.
You don't know that….that just your personal take on he situation.
She knows better….ever been to a naked beach? To a lot of people it's not that big of deal
Ha Ha yes they do view her in that way. At least most of the guys.
Make a plan to get coffee or something with no “we need to talk” subtext and then bring it up in person. But keep your expectations low. It sounds to me like this person is not interested in you the way you are with them but you'll never know if you don't talk about it. Just be prepared for it to not go the way you want it to.
You really need to put down your foot here because if you leave it for later things will just get worse. As you aren't your mother's weight profile, your child will not be their grandmother's weight profile. But think about your future child's health. While society as a whole is pretty fat phobic if your wife is as extreme as your post leads me to believe she is then your child may develop an eating disorder in their teens (or even earlier than that!). Browse some posts on-line of people with eating disorders and look how many of them say they were pressured by a parent not to eat fat, not to look fat. This is just not about your poor mother and her “grandparent rights”! This is a much bigger and serious issue than that. This is about the trauma your wife may place on your child.
Then just do it movie style and tell him before you move, that way he wont feel pressured to give you a fast answer and you wont be able to see him anyways
Trust your gut, those weird feelings are there for a reason. Don't get caught up in the manipulation, because this is not what love looks like. You got this.
Why
of course he’s not neutered
This is very irresponsible and can partly explain his behavior.
You on-line there! Make an appointment to get the dog neutered! Take the dog yourself, the end! It's very difficult to walk a dog that's not neutered and it's also irresponsible!
You have to make decisions! I understand being unable to get their help, but getting a dog neutered is something you don't need any help. You pick up the phone, make an appointment, and take him.
Yes. Stop whatever you are doing, and go to her. Love her as if life itself depended on it.
Keep yourself busy. Hang out with friends. Play sports. Eventually it will get easier.
Thank you ill definitely try
Yeah it's becoming a bit of a problem. Thanks for your input
I love it. Truly perfect.
A pattern of not so much ignoring me or others but choosing each other and leaving everyone in the dust.
Friends due to uni, we see each other 5 days a week.
Household is not possible to get out of anytime soon, i just put that in to explain why I needed the advice because I'm biased
so what should I do now considering the people on this post and in my dms are basically telling me I'm making a big deal out of nothing.
That's what the human body often does when being in a happy relationship and aging past the 30s.
Sorry, pro tip: no,aining weight is not something ethereal. You pack on weight because you eat more, move less, and/or combination of both. Simple thermodinamics. It has nothing to do with being in a happy relationship nor being over 30.
There are dozens of things you could have done to get yourself off, dude. You could have imagined you and your wife having sex. You could have masturbated to any nudes she sent you. You could write erotic stories featuring you and her.
But you chose the one thing, other naked women, she told you not to do.
Same as any other difficult situation with your wife: validate, apologize, rectify.
Practice that in your head till you get it: validate, apologize, rectify.
Don't defend your actions, don't spin the blame onto her.
Take it on the chin and let her take the lead, once you've apologized.
I so hoped my fatigue would improve after I was diagnosed coeliac and eliminated gluten.
Stay with him, ruin your own life. That's your choice if you really want to. You're an awful person if you really plan to let this man anywhere near children, though. YOU may be “fine” with being abused, but those future kids did not sign up to have an abusive father.
She is a person who will at what is not quite right and is not enough.
I experienced that and I left before it shattered my self-esteem. Those people don't put themselves in someone else's shoes. She destroys slowly her partner.
The only reason to stay would be your desire to convince her that you're enough and boost your ego.
You don't need it. Hey, if you're not satisfying enough, fine. Let's look somewhere else, then.
Yah, that's definitely my first inclination here with the way the amounts are escalating.
My husband is a bit like this. I think he has some sort of OCD or as it’s come light, ADHD. I can clean the entire house and the broom will still be out, he will walk in to the house and say “why is the broom out”, almost like a fixation. He has room piles and I don’t have any clutter, much less than him. But he will see a Piece of paper I’ve left out and be upset, but his clutter is “organized” so it’s different. He won’t clean but he will organize one pile, just to recreate it in another room. Hiring a house cleaner helped. Because now he is annoyed with the housecleaners and not me. The house cleaner also helped him realize his standards are too high. We went through about 3 or 4 of them.
She's probably leaving it out to get you to talk about it to her. If she cared she would bring it up but she seems to want you to be comfortable to talk to her about it. I'm not 25 but I know I wouldn't care.
You're listening to this garbage that this loser is spewing out and accepting it as some kind of objective biological truth. Versus seeing it as evidence that you're dating a loser.
Listen, if my mom told me I was changing my last name to my stepfather, I would've been livid. My stepdad is as chill as they come, but I love my father, and thats not just his name. Its mine. That kids last name is HIS.
Of course everyone is different but I wouldn't change it. That name is a part of his identity, it could cause identity issues later on for him to change it now
I had a patient who was 40 that had a stroke due to poor dental care. He was in the icu and cleaning his mouth made me retch
He was almost killed? Are you serious
I realized sadly a bit too late
Sounds like a clear cut case of deeply engrained gender role expectations
You heard the complaint, but you utterly failed to grasp the motivation — or the emotional content — behind the complaint.
He’s feeling undesired. And he’s feeling like you take his presence in your life for granted.
And your response was essentially, “fine, okay, you can have what you said you want, as long as you do all the work to get it.” In other words, “Meh, whatever. I’ll go along with it if you push the issue, but it’s not like I think of you that way AT ALL.”
How much do you suppose that response goes toward solving the real, underlying problem, namely, feeling undesired by you?
why should she be the bad guy?
Because it's her family. The people she's related to. The people who have been continuing to make her pay rent in a place she doesn't on-line anymore. It's up to her to deal with her own family.
You tell them, tell the truth, you want to start to build for a family and you need the money.
Why is his fiance incapable of this?
Let them hate you instead
Yeah, because that's just what a new marriage could use. Spousal hate. If she wants something changed, it has to come from her. OP demanding shit would just backfire.
He did know she was pregnant though. He said he thought she’d get an abortion. Ffs he’s the one in the wrong.
I gave a guy who is prolly 20 years older than me, my insta. Never accepted his follow. Often a man wont handle a no very well and we try to handle it safely. Her taking his number is a lot safer than her saying she's engaged or her giving him her number.
So you insulted him implicitly by saying he shouldn’t give relationship advice, he didn’t react but responded lovingly by complimenting and kissing you. Then you insulted him explicitly by saying you only wanted him for his money, making sure it landed this time and he couldn’t dismiss it. You literally said in easier circumstances you wouldn’t have looked at him twice. Humiliating him in front of a friend who probably previously admired your relationship to ask him for advice. Now you’re acting surprised he’s hurt. He’s still handling it fairly graciously in my honest opinion by just being sad instead of angry. You can’t blame him for having any reaction when you kept pushing for one by saying increasingly hurtful things. If it genuinely wasn’t your intention to sabotage your relationship then maybe consider counselling to work out why you’d subconsciously do that because you did it pretty effectively if you weren’t even trying. You need to work on your issues in a genuine way, a weekend away is not going to cut it.
I know you say you have no where to go, but you really need to figure that out and get tf out of there now. And therapy is a waste of time if you don’t plan on getting back together. You should want better for yourself.. get out of there.
Why get a prenup when you could just not marry a predator?
Feel terrible and go cry me a river you morally deficient peasant. Moral values aren't like the fucking iOS updates that you receive on your phone to keep evolving.
Civilization has evolved enough to reach a fucking saturation point. Anything beyond that is just woke bullshit that wastes other people's time.
Then address them.
Key point here is that “you need to stop being friends with these people” is not addressing the issue. That’s shutting down the issue.
Where do I mentally start? Everytime after He verbally abuses and leaves me, I think this is the end and start to move on. Then after a few days he comes back and starts giving me so much love, until again after a week he starts namecalling and screaming. I feel stuck in a loop. How do I even mentally prepare myself. I get so scared of thinking, if I end it, it will be a lifetime without him. We are each others first. Then also he keeps saying how if its over with me he won't date anyone else and will unalive himself because he is depressed and he verbally abuses me because of his depression, so that if he ever unalives himself I wouldnt be sad. I try to tell him, I will be devastated if he does something, regardless he abuses me verbally or not. and his justification is always, I made him abuse me by doing things, or the abuse is among us, its a private thing. He isnt disrespecting me infront of others or including a third person. it's like everytime I make myself strong. I see his loving side and find it difficult to leave
What do you suggest then lmao
I appreciate this. I’m not exactly sure why this post is so polarizing or why I’m being downvoted into oblivion…so your empathy and understanding means a lot.
I have tried many times over the years to have my parents get together with my fiancé’s family and have even offered to finance their travel. For reasons unknown, it just hasn’t come to fruition yet. I will continue to try, but at this point it seems that they likely won’t even meet with them until my wedding day.
I'm white, so my opinion may not matter much. I'm pretty sure I'd lose my mind, though.
Context doesn't matter. Who it was intended for doesn't matter. He shouldn't be using racial slurs.
First thing I'd probably do is say “Excuse me?”, then I'd probably ask him why the hell he finds talking like that appropriate.
Her trying to isolate him from a rational outside perspective is a classic when it comes to abusers. It makes him easier to control if there isn't anyone else to challenge all the gaslighting etc. Basically the same you see with cults and how they isolate their members from family and friends.
He sounds like he is trauma bonded to her which is something that can happen between victim and abuser. I recommend reading up on that to better understand why he is putting up with being treated so poorly. As others have said then you will unlikely be able to make him see reason but you can be supportive still and be ready to help pick him up when the relationship will inevitably fall apart.
You must have some really bad luck, most people I know aren’t like that and those who are like that can’t keep a relationship long.
Sorry you're going through this. It's a challenging experience, to be sure.
First, and most important thing, is chemistry and attraction are what they are, and are often unique and strange and unexplainable. Every type of person is at least someone's type, and lots of things that are considered “unattractive” by western cultural beauty standards are demonstrably desirable to lots of people. Fat/thin, big (part)/small (part), skin color, height, hair color, etc. etc. etc. all have their own tags on any big porn site, because someone somewhere was looking for exactly that, and it was important enough for them to remember where to find it.
Your husband failed you by not talking about and owning what he's actually attracted to. Your husband is also a very small sample size.
How do I recover my self-esteem?
Well, you know you're an “8” already, so that's good! The easiest way is to go spend a month in Italy. Barring that, go on some dates and see how many people try to get in your pants. When you've got a good connection with someone, get with them. Look for someone who can give you the affirmation that you need right now. Vocal, appreciative lovers who know what they want do exist, and with a little bit of trying, and without the expectation it'll work out exactly as you want immediately, I have no doubt a mid-30's girl on a quest for freedom and fun can pretty quickly find someone who fits that bill.
Good luck!
Nope. My face. As long as I'm not altering my face to the point where I'm not me anymore, I'll do what I like to it. I have filler and botox and other than the fact that my eyebrows don't move as much, my top lip is no longer at risk of disappearing and the lines on my forehead are less, I still look just like me. Only I smile more
That's very inappropriate but it sounds like the relationship is already in shambles due to other issues. If you are not his dream girl then you will never be. I'm not too sure which part of that conversation he thinks is a joke or funny, but I think if I saw that on my husband's phone it would be a big blow to my self-esteem. I'd just leave the relationship honestly. I would want someone who would brag about to the AI, not the other way around.
Don’t leave him.
what happened to make you this passive?
Do not allow him to even enter your apartment. Change your locks. Consult an attorney now.
Why? He may have committed extortion. You want a record with a neutral party about his claims. You likely want to obtain a no contact order.