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You can groom someone who is 1.5 years younger than you. You can groom someone who is the same age or older than you.
It’s mostly associated with how you’ve described it, and even a dictionary definition of it suggests that. But, effectively grooming is the act of preparing someone/something for an event.
I think whenever you’re having an argument with your partner now and into the future you should work on the position you’re arguing from. Is your goal to win an argument or come to a resolution that’s beneficial to both parties. You’re a team and need to act like it, you need to work on you’re communication and your husband needs therapy. Couples counseling as well
He should have asked you what you thought beforehand – it sounds like he didn't mean to cheat, but yeah setting expectations mutually is important. I'd forgive but be clear what the boundaries are
If that's the case the first thing is to get more details from her.
What does he call the relationship? How does he refer to it around other people?
Can he say why he doesn't want to talk about it?
If he doesn't want to talk about it now, is there ever going to be a time he wants to talk about it, and if so, when? (Be careful with your tone asking this, or reword it to be gentler.)
If your friend seeks to have a relationship that is labeled, how does he feel about her feelings?
Like, there would be so much more, but that'd be the start.
feel better and improve his self-esteem: he puts you down to make him look good.
This right here. Op is saying that this kind of behavior from him is “more recent,” but I wonder how many times he has put her down behind her back like this. This might be one of the only few times she has caught him in this behavior. For all we or she knows he probably does this all the time.
Happily married lady here…OP, the unkindness on this man’s part is one symptom of a major maturity issue with this fellow. The way he placed the weight of his life’s happiness on you—telling you that you are the only good thing in his life—is as big a red flag as demanding sex, violating your body (making you ill!), and throwing up all over your floor.
A proposal should never come as a shock. It should be a natural evolution of the relationship. Two years or twenty years.
I’m concerned that this episode isn’t even his worst. How would he tend to you and any children if you were to develop a disease or suffer a serious accident?
Any man who tries to shove his dick down your throat is not really interested in “through sickness and health.”
He’s not someone you can count on to build a life with. If you ignore the signs, you will get to see an even worse side of him. Dating behavior is best behavior.
So she plans to date while you stay home and take care of the kids?
No stable guy will want her. So she’s just trolling for sex.
3 young children is a massive effort. What time to herself? She has more important responsibilities.
Guy, you trapped yourself.
What did you think 3 children with an unstable woman was going to do for you? Why did you skip the process of taking your time, ensuring stability, marriage and then children?
It's amazing. If I created a religion today that looked like Christianity, I might get a few followers if I was really charismatic, but the rest of the world would think me crazy, but because our society is steeped in it, we just think it normal.
This idea that a woman can't work, can't cut her hair, can't have her own money etc. wow.
Wait..he moved across the country. Where is his son? Does he feel his son ruined his life too?! This is really important because if he left his son, across the country with his mother, it really doesn't seem that he cares too much about his kids.
Your husband is checked out. Please don't give up your sweet baby because he decided he can't be a father. If he wants to leave, let him. I know it hurts, but what kind of man is he?
You do the dishes, cook, deal with the pets, and he wants you to do his laundry including fold it to his specifications. WHAT THE FUCK DOES HE DO?!?!?!!!!!
Nope I would be devastated if she were ever in this position!
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You can groom someone who is 1.5 years younger than you. You can groom someone who is the same age or older than you.
It’s mostly associated with how you’ve described it, and even a dictionary definition of it suggests that. But, effectively grooming is the act of preparing someone/something for an event.
However, I don’t think this is the case here.
I think whenever you’re having an argument with your partner now and into the future you should work on the position you’re arguing from. Is your goal to win an argument or come to a resolution that’s beneficial to both parties. You’re a team and need to act like it, you need to work on you’re communication and your husband needs therapy. Couples counseling as well
Some women have fetishes for taken men. I know plenty of them
He should have asked you what you thought beforehand – it sounds like he didn't mean to cheat, but yeah setting expectations mutually is important. I'd forgive but be clear what the boundaries are
Pls listen to everyone here and get out asap
That man is 100% abusive.
If that's the case the first thing is to get more details from her.
What does he call the relationship? How does he refer to it around other people?
Can he say why he doesn't want to talk about it?
If he doesn't want to talk about it now, is there ever going to be a time he wants to talk about it, and if so, when? (Be careful with your tone asking this, or reword it to be gentler.)
If your friend seeks to have a relationship that is labeled, how does he feel about her feelings?
Like, there would be so much more, but that'd be the start.
it will still be a shared first experience between the two of you whether she’s had sex before or not…
feel better and improve his self-esteem: he puts you down to make him look good.
This right here. Op is saying that this kind of behavior from him is “more recent,” but I wonder how many times he has put her down behind her back like this. This might be one of the only few times she has caught him in this behavior. For all we or she knows he probably does this all the time.
Just fucking walk. Or change the locks. Whatever it is you gotta do.
Happily married lady here…OP, the unkindness on this man’s part is one symptom of a major maturity issue with this fellow. The way he placed the weight of his life’s happiness on you—telling you that you are the only good thing in his life—is as big a red flag as demanding sex, violating your body (making you ill!), and throwing up all over your floor.
A proposal should never come as a shock. It should be a natural evolution of the relationship. Two years or twenty years.
I’m concerned that this episode isn’t even his worst. How would he tend to you and any children if you were to develop a disease or suffer a serious accident?
Any man who tries to shove his dick down your throat is not really interested in “through sickness and health.”
He’s not someone you can count on to build a life with. If you ignore the signs, you will get to see an even worse side of him. Dating behavior is best behavior.
Sorry! ?
So she plans to date while you stay home and take care of the kids?
No stable guy will want her. So she’s just trolling for sex.
3 young children is a massive effort. What time to herself? She has more important responsibilities.
Guy, you trapped yourself.
What did you think 3 children with an unstable woman was going to do for you? Why did you skip the process of taking your time, ensuring stability, marriage and then children?
It's amazing. If I created a religion today that looked like Christianity, I might get a few followers if I was really charismatic, but the rest of the world would think me crazy, but because our society is steeped in it, we just think it normal.
This idea that a woman can't work, can't cut her hair, can't have her own money etc. wow.
Wait..he moved across the country. Where is his son? Does he feel his son ruined his life too?! This is really important because if he left his son, across the country with his mother, it really doesn't seem that he cares too much about his kids.
Your husband is checked out. Please don't give up your sweet baby because he decided he can't be a father. If he wants to leave, let him. I know it hurts, but what kind of man is he?
You do the dishes, cook, deal with the pets, and he wants you to do his laundry including fold it to his specifications. WHAT THE FUCK DOES HE DO?!?!?!!!!!
fellas, is it gay to fuck women?
The excuses/reasons sound a bit too stupid. They sound like the things you come up with on the spot so as to not reveal the true reason.