If they talked just as friends, there's nothing to worry about. Guys are allowed to have female friends, just like girls are allowed to have male friends.
Honestly, the only concerning thing here is how fixated you seem to be on this. Your panic over such a small thing, especially when your boyfriend has made you aware of the message/blocked her/etc shows that you seriously lack trust for your boyfriend. That isn't healthy and is very unfair to him.
As far as I can see it, you're the only one that's the problem at the moment. I know you can't help how you feel about it, but you should seek help for your anxiety.
Also, why wouldn’t I like her posts? Well, because I just don’t care about the app, I actually pay attention more to the reality between us, instead of what’s on the internet.
Wow, this is controlling behaviour and if you stay it will get worse. I am so sorry you are in this position, but I think he is testing how far he can push his controlling behaviour.
When is been dating my ex husband for three months, I almost broke up with him because he was two hours late picking me up for a party I wanted to go to very badly. I wish I would have. It was a sign of things to come. He has been
You already know what a dumbass idea this car is so I want to mention something else; the future.
You know what will destroy a relationship just as fast infidelity? Money problems.
You both have completely opposing methods of money management & his is dismal.
If he doesn't understand how stupid this 35k car is when he's already in 20k credit card debt & has a 40k job then I wouldn't let him make any large financial decisions if I was you.
If he continues to try to bully you on spending, then you should not tie yourself financially to this man, he will drag you down with him.
No, don’t date him. You said it yourself: he looks like the type the OLD you would go for. Sounds to me like you’ve been down this road before in the past and have learned that it’s a mistake. So don’t fall for it this time. The “bad boy” thing will always be alluring, but toxic and I think deep down you know that.
That was a shitty thing to do. And unfortunately, the context he added really made him seem like an ass. He basically doesn’t give a shit that you feel embarrassed and disrespected by having your sex life the topic of a brunch discussion. He says he understands, but then he immediately says it’s his right to talk to his friends and family about his problems. So basically, he doesn’t care and he’ll do it again if he wants to.
In the stuff he added, it seems like he’s basically fed up with accommodating you and your preferences around your sex life. Meeting on some middle ground means you having sex sometimes when you really don’t want to. Because you’re not gonna magically want to have sex exactly how much he wants to have sex, that’s not ever going to happen.
Why are we even talking about this? He sounded like a low vibrational toad BEFORE his rules. I wouldn't even respond to this level of foolishness. Silence would be my answer and it'd be loud n clear. Get a new hairdo n a new boo who isn't insecure in his manhood. That's so unattractive. Good luck OP
Ngl after reading the comments a bit, this seems like the sort of situation that can only be corrected by a sit down with a man he respects to tell him hes acting like a piece of shit.
Same. Leave. Run. Now. Fast.
If they talked just as friends, there's nothing to worry about. Guys are allowed to have female friends, just like girls are allowed to have male friends.
Honestly, the only concerning thing here is how fixated you seem to be on this. Your panic over such a small thing, especially when your boyfriend has made you aware of the message/blocked her/etc shows that you seriously lack trust for your boyfriend. That isn't healthy and is very unfair to him.
As far as I can see it, you're the only one that's the problem at the moment. I know you can't help how you feel about it, but you should seek help for your anxiety.
Do not date in the workplace unless you are going to leave the job in less than a year.
Also, why wouldn’t I like her posts? Well, because I just don’t care about the app, I actually pay attention more to the reality between us, instead of what’s on the internet.
As hard as it is, you have zero say in this Matter
Yes. Like she’s his property and gets to decide who fucks his wide.
Wow, this is controlling behaviour and if you stay it will get worse. I am so sorry you are in this position, but I think he is testing how far he can push his controlling behaviour.
When is been dating my ex husband for three months, I almost broke up with him because he was two hours late picking me up for a party I wanted to go to very badly. I wish I would have. It was a sign of things to come. He has been
You already know what a dumbass idea this car is so I want to mention something else; the future.
You know what will destroy a relationship just as fast infidelity? Money problems.
You both have completely opposing methods of money management & his is dismal.
If he doesn't understand how stupid this 35k car is when he's already in 20k credit card debt & has a 40k job then I wouldn't let him make any large financial decisions if I was you.
If he continues to try to bully you on spending, then you should not tie yourself financially to this man, he will drag you down with him.
No, don’t date him. You said it yourself: he looks like the type the OLD you would go for. Sounds to me like you’ve been down this road before in the past and have learned that it’s a mistake. So don’t fall for it this time. The “bad boy” thing will always be alluring, but toxic and I think deep down you know that.
Your gf assumes that your apparently Canadian mother knows of and must abide by her cultural expectations?
Give it time OP. It's fresh, it's super shitty, and it fucking hurts.
In time you'll process it, you'll be angry, you'll harden up a bit from such a shitty deed done to you, and you'll pull through fine.
Sorry for what you're going through, but dude, you're 23. You have plenty of time to move on and find someone amazing.
As an introvert this is mind blowing to me but I am also so fascinated by it.
That was a shitty thing to do. And unfortunately, the context he added really made him seem like an ass. He basically doesn’t give a shit that you feel embarrassed and disrespected by having your sex life the topic of a brunch discussion. He says he understands, but then he immediately says it’s his right to talk to his friends and family about his problems. So basically, he doesn’t care and he’ll do it again if he wants to.
In the stuff he added, it seems like he’s basically fed up with accommodating you and your preferences around your sex life. Meeting on some middle ground means you having sex sometimes when you really don’t want to. Because you’re not gonna magically want to have sex exactly how much he wants to have sex, that’s not ever going to happen.
Why are we even talking about this? He sounded like a low vibrational toad BEFORE his rules. I wouldn't even respond to this level of foolishness. Silence would be my answer and it'd be loud n clear. Get a new hairdo n a new boo who isn't insecure in his manhood. That's so unattractive. Good luck OP
bullshit, this is plenty of information to make a judgement about someone
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Ngl after reading the comments a bit, this seems like the sort of situation that can only be corrected by a sit down with a man he respects to tell him hes acting like a piece of shit.