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She's right, you chose to give it up and could have walked away so it's unfair to keep bringing it up especially in fights. Not saying she's in the right to ask you to give it up just that you could have said no.
If you can't forgive it and she won't let you do it then break up because you're both acting unhealthy
Sounds like he isn’t compatible with what you need in a relationship and doesn’t want to change. Never try to change someone. People only change when they want to, he doesn’t want to and has made that clear. He doesn’t have to be a bad person for you to move on. He just isn’t right for you.
You say so yourself that at this point you don’t even like him. All abuse, fighting and toxicity aside, you’re living in a relationship with man you don’t like just because he sponsors your life.
Tell her if she’s that upset over it to take it away from him and give it back to you. Watch her backtrack real fast and if she’s willing to do that to her baby then she’s a major AH
As a baseline, I've been with my fiance for almost 6 years and the only reason she wants to go through my phone is when she's bored, she'll go through my Reddit because I'm subbed to vastly different things than she is.
She doesn't go through my texts, she doesn't go through my emails, she snoops my Reddit feed.
People going through your phone “to find evidence” aren't normal and they probably figure “if I can do it, they can do it.”
My advice is to absolutely get the fuck out. The only relationships you should ever be talking about with your partner, is your own.
I haven´t figured out all the logistics of it – I just know, depending on how important or healthy it would be – realistic solutions could be found. But I was just trying to answer your initial question (a) that he might care about it being solely live!, since most, neurotypical friendships would prefer and have a proclivity for wanting real, face to face interaction (understandably so). From my understanding and what I´m aware of he does have possibilities to meet with someone in a more regular setting than one either a heroine adict or an international spy would pick.
If I give him the benefit of the doubt, which, as you assumed correctly, I am trying to do here, me having to keep this a secret seems to come with the territory indeed. That is why I kept it a secret for approximately four and a half months now. That does not negate the fact that it makes me feel uncomfortable. I am still entitled to emotionally processing this, even if he wasn´t asking me to do this out of an ill intent or malevolant motif.
Thank you. People on the internet can be cruel, and I posted here knowing that. I did get some good ideas for how to go about all of this though. And then I think I'll just get some cats and choose to be alone.
No, it states there is a separate small changing area offered for women if they prefer to suit up alone. Hockey rinks have four+ team locker rooms per rink, and each team is assigned a room regardless of gender. There is a closet offered for women to change in if they feel uncomfortable in the team room. Lots of comments in this thread describe the disadvantages of missing the team locker room time.
When I was in college, I was signing paperwork for an apartment and the girl that came in to hand me an initial document struck me in a crazy way. I don’t know her name, I never saw her again, I’m mostly straight, but to see her I was just smitten. I remember calling my boyfriend after like “I love her? Kelly maybe? Ashley? I dunno, this is so weird.” After thirty minutes of him sadly thinking he lost me, he finally realized a) it wasn’t going anywhere and b) this was just a weird human thing that happened. I wasn’t going to hunt down Kelsey or Julie or whatever her name was, strike up a relationship, and set sail. I was just being honest in this weird brain chemistry that happened with a total stranger that I never saw again.
Sometimes you just click with someone, even if they’re not you’re type, or they’re bad for you, or whatever. You’re absolutely right that it’s what you do with those feelings that matter. You can think an actor or actress is attractive but that doesn’t mean you leave your spouse to fly to LA and hope to meet them. You just…go on, living your life. Work on your marriage.
If your house catches fire in the kitchen you don’t just walk outside and hope it doesn’t burn the whole place down while you keep throwing gasoline on it
The humiliation and betrayal is obscene! Her smug face coming up to you and suggesting she should care for your children! That everyone there knew and would see them snogging is beyond gross. I’m horrified. You need to dig like you’ve never dug before. Go through every financial account, investments, retirements, life insurance, bank accounts. Everything. Pull every single statement you can find. Don’t give him time to make moves without your consent. Get your own bank accounts at an entirely separate financial institution. And brush up that resume. I’m guessing by the snogging reference that you’re not in the states, but figure out what your options are for emergency financial orders.
Decide what your priorities are with money and child care. Decide what you want out of the divorce. Contact an attorney immediately. Do you want to repot them to HR? IS she also in a relationship? I’m heated on your behalf. I’m so incredibly sorry you’re going through this.
Tell your husband that you refuse to be bullied and treated like a second class citizen by his spoilt selfish arrogant sister any more.
Tell him that as of now, you will not be attending any more family events if she is going to be there.
His parents have spoiled her all her life and turned her into an entitled brat. She’s immature for her age and thanks to her parents overindulgence, she has never learned any adult social skills.
This is not your problem but your partner’s problem. Hence, you can tell him you’re no longer putting up with her unjustified rudeness as you’ve done nothing to warrant it.
It’s up to him how he deals with it.
What he should do is back you up and challenge his sister. If this happens and you are happy he has your back (which is the correct outcome), you can resume visiting her.
What he will probably do is nothing because that’s how his family always deals with her shifty behaviour. In which case carry on with the no contact.
You will have to be careful in the future that this woman doesn’t bully any children you may have.
Damn you gonna shift the blame to the OP ? That’s fucked lol But say if it WAS all his fault he’s tried communicating with her about it. If she doesn’t let him know what she needs then she’s wrecking their sex life single handedly
If you have both planned a budget but your fiance is just throwing a tantrum when she doesn't get what she wants, then that's a big red flag man. Do not even think of blowing all your savings just to accommodate a ONE DAY EVENT. It literally lasts 5-6 hours. She will wear the dress once.
And it's not as if she's just slightly over budget, you said 3x over. That's just flat out a blatant disregard for what you had both agreed to.
At some point you're going to need to draw the line in the sand. It may eventually even be a deal breaker. But if optics are so important that she's willing to disregard everything you two had mutually agreed previously then you might be dodging a bullet in the long run.
Seriously, get a grip. You sound like a psycho. She didn’t lead you on. You just decided that you’d still pursue her and pretended to be her friend. Sleeping with a married man was morally wrong, but she didn’t wrong YOU. You are a jerk, holding what you did for her over her head, when you made it sound like it was okay being just friends.
What you did and how you’re reacting is childish and manipulative and you have ruined your friendship. This is freaking disgusting.
You cannot think it's cute and at the same time really dislike it to the point you cannot stand the sight of it. Again, seems like you wasted money on that therapy.
Think about what? The fact your gf was put in a stressful situation and did the best she could and told you immediately??? Dude, you have a lot of growing up to do if this bothers you that much.
I would be inclined to go scorched earth on this relationship.
She disappears with almost no notice. Gives you no explanation for an extended period of time. Obviously it would be one thing if she had a major life crisis. Of course anyone could accept that. But barring any major occurrence like that what she did is completely unforgivable.
I think you would be completely correct telling her and her sister to fuck off and never contact you again. I probably wouldn't be shy in sharing the story either. Because they will probably try to badmouth you.
I can literally bet my life he hasn't been a great partner up until this point. you just always found ways to excuse it. he just finally did something that is impossible for your soul to find an excuse for. “you still whining about that dead baby from a week ago? your surgery was like two days ago get over it I want my dick sucked”. I can almost promise he's done equally careless and awful things that you've been able to excuse by him having a bad day or “well it was an awkward phase bc we moved in together” he's not a good partner, good partners would never ever ever dream of so blatantly telling you straight up that they never even think about your emotional or physical health or wellbeing at ALL but now even during an actual life changing emergency and trauma causing tragedy. leave. sorry he wasted your time but stop making excuses he will only waste more.
^ This. Husband who tangentially went through a miscarriage. (I say tangentially because I fully understand that while men face the sadness and crushing vulnerability knowing there is literally NOTHING you can do take the hurt away from your spouse, its grains of sand on the beach compared to the child bearer. But that's not my point here.) I would honestly talk with your husband in no uncertain terms. “I am facing an existential crisis and I'm sorry honey, but your dick is no where near the top 100 things I'm currently worried about. And after this, I'm not sure YOU'RE on my top 100 things I'm worried about. If he doesn't understand what all of this meant to you, he needs to. And if he can't figure it out after that, that's up to you OP.
I really appreciate that. Its scary and comforting at the same time and feelings might change but as of just a couple days in i feel like alot of my love for her died when I saw that. I want the person that said I was their world back and wanted marriage but somebody that wants that doesn't do what she did. But you're right that I'll have the time to work out my emotions and know for certain..
You clearly never dealt with the fact that your ex cheated on you. If you continue to project those insecurities onto any man you date, you’re going to single and bitter for a long time
She's right, you chose to give it up and could have walked away so it's unfair to keep bringing it up especially in fights. Not saying she's in the right to ask you to give it up just that you could have said no.
If you can't forgive it and she won't let you do it then break up because you're both acting unhealthy
with everyone else here, you should break up. you can find someone who doesn't pull these kind of games with you
Okay so this wasn’t 100% YOUR fault?
Maybe your gf needs to accept some responsibility for the ejaculation and subsequent trajectory of her unborn kids.
She doesn't have a sister. None of this works. Sorry dude. Thanks for trying.
I think you tried to get too avant garde or exetential with it.
Sounds like he isn’t compatible with what you need in a relationship and doesn’t want to change. Never try to change someone. People only change when they want to, he doesn’t want to and has made that clear. He doesn’t have to be a bad person for you to move on. He just isn’t right for you.
“stalker”?? you keep getting funnier
You say so yourself that at this point you don’t even like him. All abuse, fighting and toxicity aside, you’re living in a relationship with man you don’t like just because he sponsors your life.
Tell her if she’s that upset over it to take it away from him and give it back to you. Watch her backtrack real fast and if she’s willing to do that to her baby then she’s a major AH
Girl, go get that high paying job! There’s nothing in this relationship for you.
As a baseline, I've been with my fiance for almost 6 years and the only reason she wants to go through my phone is when she's bored, she'll go through my Reddit because I'm subbed to vastly different things than she is.
She doesn't go through my texts, she doesn't go through my emails, she snoops my Reddit feed.
People going through your phone “to find evidence” aren't normal and they probably figure “if I can do it, they can do it.”
My advice is to absolutely get the fuck out. The only relationships you should ever be talking about with your partner, is your own.
I haven´t figured out all the logistics of it – I just know, depending on how important or healthy it would be – realistic solutions could be found. But I was just trying to answer your initial question (a) that he might care about it being solely live!, since most, neurotypical friendships would prefer and have a proclivity for wanting real, face to face interaction (understandably so). From my understanding and what I´m aware of he does have possibilities to meet with someone in a more regular setting than one either a heroine adict or an international spy would pick.
If I give him the benefit of the doubt, which, as you assumed correctly, I am trying to do here, me having to keep this a secret seems to come with the territory indeed. That is why I kept it a secret for approximately four and a half months now. That does not negate the fact that it makes me feel uncomfortable. I am still entitled to emotionally processing this, even if he wasn´t asking me to do this out of an ill intent or malevolant motif.
Np! You may need to record the call but check your local laws before doing that.
Thank you. People on the internet can be cruel, and I posted here knowing that. I did get some good ideas for how to go about all of this though. And then I think I'll just get some cats and choose to be alone.
No, it states there is a separate small changing area offered for women if they prefer to suit up alone. Hockey rinks have four+ team locker rooms per rink, and each team is assigned a room regardless of gender. There is a closet offered for women to change in if they feel uncomfortable in the team room. Lots of comments in this thread describe the disadvantages of missing the team locker room time.
When I was in college, I was signing paperwork for an apartment and the girl that came in to hand me an initial document struck me in a crazy way. I don’t know her name, I never saw her again, I’m mostly straight, but to see her I was just smitten. I remember calling my boyfriend after like “I love her? Kelly maybe? Ashley? I dunno, this is so weird.” After thirty minutes of him sadly thinking he lost me, he finally realized a) it wasn’t going anywhere and b) this was just a weird human thing that happened. I wasn’t going to hunt down Kelsey or Julie or whatever her name was, strike up a relationship, and set sail. I was just being honest in this weird brain chemistry that happened with a total stranger that I never saw again.
Sometimes you just click with someone, even if they’re not you’re type, or they’re bad for you, or whatever. You’re absolutely right that it’s what you do with those feelings that matter. You can think an actor or actress is attractive but that doesn’t mean you leave your spouse to fly to LA and hope to meet them. You just…go on, living your life. Work on your marriage.
If your house catches fire in the kitchen you don’t just walk outside and hope it doesn’t burn the whole place down while you keep throwing gasoline on it
bet he’s wondering which one you’re banging next
You are totally in the friendzone buddy…forget about her romantically and just enjoy the friendship.
Well it is if the person is a friend!
Say goodbye to your life, and hello to his
Comment was good until the bed part. Can’t kick someone out of there own home. (But I get the sentiment)
she needs professional help ASAP. someone to talk too. my guess she isn't even ready for a real relationship and this won't end well.
The humiliation and betrayal is obscene! Her smug face coming up to you and suggesting she should care for your children! That everyone there knew and would see them snogging is beyond gross. I’m horrified. You need to dig like you’ve never dug before. Go through every financial account, investments, retirements, life insurance, bank accounts. Everything. Pull every single statement you can find. Don’t give him time to make moves without your consent. Get your own bank accounts at an entirely separate financial institution. And brush up that resume. I’m guessing by the snogging reference that you’re not in the states, but figure out what your options are for emergency financial orders.
Decide what your priorities are with money and child care. Decide what you want out of the divorce. Contact an attorney immediately. Do you want to repot them to HR? IS she also in a relationship? I’m heated on your behalf. I’m so incredibly sorry you’re going through this.
Like I said, nothing against the queers just don’t want to keep someone from what they want to be
It sounds like he isn’t trying very hot at all. So much has been on you for so long, how much more can you take?
He quit therapy. No meds. He’s not changing anything. You can’t change him. The question is what you want your future to be?
Tell your husband that you refuse to be bullied and treated like a second class citizen by his spoilt selfish arrogant sister any more.
Tell him that as of now, you will not be attending any more family events if she is going to be there.
His parents have spoiled her all her life and turned her into an entitled brat. She’s immature for her age and thanks to her parents overindulgence, she has never learned any adult social skills.
This is not your problem but your partner’s problem. Hence, you can tell him you’re no longer putting up with her unjustified rudeness as you’ve done nothing to warrant it.
It’s up to him how he deals with it.
What he should do is back you up and challenge his sister. If this happens and you are happy he has your back (which is the correct outcome), you can resume visiting her.
What he will probably do is nothing because that’s how his family always deals with her shifty behaviour. In which case carry on with the no contact.
You will have to be careful in the future that this woman doesn’t bully any children you may have.
he chose a truck that is obnoxiously loud.
Just sounds like an inconsiderate ass to me
Damn you gonna shift the blame to the OP ? That’s fucked lol But say if it WAS all his fault he’s tried communicating with her about it. If she doesn’t let him know what she needs then she’s wrecking their sex life single handedly
If you have both planned a budget but your fiance is just throwing a tantrum when she doesn't get what she wants, then that's a big red flag man. Do not even think of blowing all your savings just to accommodate a ONE DAY EVENT. It literally lasts 5-6 hours. She will wear the dress once.
And it's not as if she's just slightly over budget, you said 3x over. That's just flat out a blatant disregard for what you had both agreed to.
At some point you're going to need to draw the line in the sand. It may eventually even be a deal breaker. But if optics are so important that she's willing to disregard everything you two had mutually agreed previously then you might be dodging a bullet in the long run.
Weirdly, I’m seeing the opposite. You too sweetie.
Seriously, get a grip. You sound like a psycho. She didn’t lead you on. You just decided that you’d still pursue her and pretended to be her friend. Sleeping with a married man was morally wrong, but she didn’t wrong YOU. You are a jerk, holding what you did for her over her head, when you made it sound like it was okay being just friends.
What you did and how you’re reacting is childish and manipulative and you have ruined your friendship. This is freaking disgusting.
You cannot think it's cute and at the same time really dislike it to the point you cannot stand the sight of it. Again, seems like you wasted money on that therapy.
If you live! near one, you're close enough to be in it. Maybe that's why your wife can't tell the difference.
Ewwwwwwww is all I can say
You are dodging a bullet! Run!!!
Think about what? The fact your gf was put in a stressful situation and did the best she could and told you immediately??? Dude, you have a lot of growing up to do if this bothers you that much.
I would be inclined to go scorched earth on this relationship.
She disappears with almost no notice. Gives you no explanation for an extended period of time. Obviously it would be one thing if she had a major life crisis. Of course anyone could accept that. But barring any major occurrence like that what she did is completely unforgivable.
I think you would be completely correct telling her and her sister to fuck off and never contact you again. I probably wouldn't be shy in sharing the story either. Because they will probably try to badmouth you.
I can literally bet my life he hasn't been a great partner up until this point. you just always found ways to excuse it. he just finally did something that is impossible for your soul to find an excuse for. “you still whining about that dead baby from a week ago? your surgery was like two days ago get over it I want my dick sucked”. I can almost promise he's done equally careless and awful things that you've been able to excuse by him having a bad day or “well it was an awkward phase bc we moved in together” he's not a good partner, good partners would never ever ever dream of so blatantly telling you straight up that they never even think about your emotional or physical health or wellbeing at ALL but now even during an actual life changing emergency and trauma causing tragedy. leave. sorry he wasted your time but stop making excuses he will only waste more.
^ This. Husband who tangentially went through a miscarriage. (I say tangentially because I fully understand that while men face the sadness and crushing vulnerability knowing there is literally NOTHING you can do take the hurt away from your spouse, its grains of sand on the beach compared to the child bearer. But that's not my point here.) I would honestly talk with your husband in no uncertain terms. “I am facing an existential crisis and I'm sorry honey, but your dick is no where near the top 100 things I'm currently worried about. And after this, I'm not sure YOU'RE on my top 100 things I'm worried about. If he doesn't understand what all of this meant to you, he needs to. And if he can't figure it out after that, that's up to you OP.
I really appreciate that. Its scary and comforting at the same time and feelings might change but as of just a couple days in i feel like alot of my love for her died when I saw that. I want the person that said I was their world back and wanted marriage but somebody that wants that doesn't do what she did. But you're right that I'll have the time to work out my emotions and know for certain..
You clearly never dealt with the fact that your ex cheated on you. If you continue to project those insecurities onto any man you date, you’re going to single and bitter for a long time