No one owes their parents anything for choosing to shit us into existence. Sounds like OP has been incredibly patient because of the grief her mother has been dealing with, but it is now time to draw a line in the sand. Taking care of us before we can walk and talk is literally a basic care task that ALL parents must do, its not something we need to repay them for because having us was their choice, not ours.
You have a fiance problem. Until she is ready to stand up to her family she is not ready for a serious relationship. Give her some time; get her to go to counseling to help her process their toxicity. In the meantime, lc and grey rock her family.
Go back to being friends. Then he can decide after a few weeks if he regrets it or not. Take the pressure off the relationship and look around, you might find a guy who doesn't have his hang ups.
Reading this, we are so in the same spot. I figured a lot of things out in the last two years and have been on the same path as you, and my life is flourishing. Unlike you, my partner has been so supportive and sees how these changes have not only helped me but him as well. He does have to step up a little more at home, but like you I meal prep and we both benefit from that. It breaks my heart to know how much you have invested in yourself, changed, progressed, only to have hit a wall with the person you love and care about. He’s got to step up or you’re going to be dragging him behind. I’m so proud of all the work you’ve put in over the last two years. You rock!
Reading this, we are so in the same spot. I figured a lot of things out in the last two years and have been on the same path as you, and my life is flourishing. Unlike you, my partner has been so supportive and sees how these changes have not only helped me but him as well. He does have to step up a little more at home, but like you I meal prep and we both benefit from that. It breaks my heart to know how much you have invested in yourself, changed, progressed, only to have hit a wall with the person you love and care about. He’s got to step up or you’re going to be dragging him behind. I’m so proud of all the work you’ve put in over the last two years. You rock!
I thought it was appropriate to agree and elaborating on your comment.
No one owes their parents anything for choosing to shit us into existence. Sounds like OP has been incredibly patient because of the grief her mother has been dealing with, but it is now time to draw a line in the sand. Taking care of us before we can walk and talk is literally a basic care task that ALL parents must do, its not something we need to repay them for because having us was their choice, not ours.
One. One is too many times. You are now cheating yourself.
One. One is too many times. You are now cheating yourself.
You're being downvoted but you're right. Even drunk it would be an extremely stupid thing to do
You have a fiance problem. Until she is ready to stand up to her family she is not ready for a serious relationship. Give her some time; get her to go to counseling to help her process their toxicity. In the meantime, lc and grey rock her family.
Go back to being friends. Then he can decide after a few weeks if he regrets it or not. Take the pressure off the relationship and look around, you might find a guy who doesn't have his hang ups.
Yup. Always how this goes ???
You're being played
Well now you know
Reading this, we are so in the same spot. I figured a lot of things out in the last two years and have been on the same path as you, and my life is flourishing. Unlike you, my partner has been so supportive and sees how these changes have not only helped me but him as well. He does have to step up a little more at home, but like you I meal prep and we both benefit from that. It breaks my heart to know how much you have invested in yourself, changed, progressed, only to have hit a wall with the person you love and care about. He’s got to step up or you’re going to be dragging him behind. I’m so proud of all the work you’ve put in over the last two years. You rock!
Reading this, we are so in the same spot. I figured a lot of things out in the last two years and have been on the same path as you, and my life is flourishing. Unlike you, my partner has been so supportive and sees how these changes have not only helped me but him as well. He does have to step up a little more at home, but like you I meal prep and we both benefit from that. It breaks my heart to know how much you have invested in yourself, changed, progressed, only to have hit a wall with the person you love and care about. He’s got to step up or you’re going to be dragging him behind. I’m so proud of all the work you’ve put in over the last two years. You rock!