Protect your own mental health, you will be of no help to yourself or anyone else if you over extend yourself helping her. Encourage her to see a psychiatrist and a therapist if she isn't already, and to see her psych Dr more often or change to a different one if she isn't getting the help she needs. In the end she has to take care of her own needs, no one can do it for her.
Distance yourself. See her less in person and talk on the phone. I at least find that less distressing than being trapped in person for a long time. Escape is easier on the phone, and once I have had enough, I need to get away, and that is easier on the phone.
Make sure you have healthy boundaries for yourself, it is easy to get sucked into someone else's problems and can be very hot to pull yourself out.
Fast is a subjective thing imo. Some people know and others don't. I do think talking about life goals like kids and marriage from a more theoretical perspective is okay. If he doesn't want kids and I do, I won't waste anyone's time anymore.
For you, this is to fast if you feel it's to fast. For me, there's certain social norms and cues that the person I want to be with gets. I also enjoy flirting, being playful and the build up but that's me. Personally, this screams redflag and i'd explain that you are still getting to know him and that you do like him but this is VERY overwhelming to you. I've been the first to say I love someone but that's usually around 3 to 4 months into a relationship.
My advice is do what feels right to you. Is it to fast? Seems like it is. Tell him that and if doesn't listen then he may not be right for you. There could be a number of other issues that I won't go into but relationships are about building trust. Love comes after trust IMO and i think the question I have for you is do you trust this guy yet?
I hope you’re just trolling. Honestly.
Is your supervisor in a company with HR?
Screenshot every text. Tell them how uncomfortable it makes you.
Protect your own mental health, you will be of no help to yourself or anyone else if you over extend yourself helping her. Encourage her to see a psychiatrist and a therapist if she isn't already, and to see her psych Dr more often or change to a different one if she isn't getting the help she needs. In the end she has to take care of her own needs, no one can do it for her.
Distance yourself. See her less in person and talk on the phone. I at least find that less distressing than being trapped in person for a long time. Escape is easier on the phone, and once I have had enough, I need to get away, and that is easier on the phone.
Make sure you have healthy boundaries for yourself, it is easy to get sucked into someone else's problems and can be very hot to pull yourself out.
Sounds like she tricked you to marry long her which was made easier by the age gap.
Fast is a subjective thing imo. Some people know and others don't. I do think talking about life goals like kids and marriage from a more theoretical perspective is okay. If he doesn't want kids and I do, I won't waste anyone's time anymore.
For you, this is to fast if you feel it's to fast. For me, there's certain social norms and cues that the person I want to be with gets. I also enjoy flirting, being playful and the build up but that's me. Personally, this screams redflag and i'd explain that you are still getting to know him and that you do like him but this is VERY overwhelming to you. I've been the first to say I love someone but that's usually around 3 to 4 months into a relationship.
My advice is do what feels right to you. Is it to fast? Seems like it is. Tell him that and if doesn't listen then he may not be right for you. There could be a number of other issues that I won't go into but relationships are about building trust. Love comes after trust IMO and i think the question I have for you is do you trust this guy yet?