No, both starting clean slate, bygones and let go of toxic past.
Not trying to scam myself a forgiveness here, but yeah, we had a chat and she admitted that she had given up on the relationship a while ago and was as much of a coward as me and was afraid to break up
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Waste of your time and life, set him free. You are wasting time and energy for nothing. He's a liar and full of BS!!! Get out of your emotions and walk away
If it's her side of the story then drop her. Get a new Girlfriend. It's not worth wasting time on her. You can't make anyone do anything. She went there as a grown-up, she knew what she was doing. Btw there's no such thing as a temporary breakup. This is real life.
Is leeching off of you and not being a functional adult helping her depression? Or just allowing her issues to continue because she has no motivation to get better?
There's a difference between a getting slapped on the ass, and getting beaten. If you think it's self-centered of me to be concerned for my own personal health you have no concept of personal boundaries.
I just ordered one diffuser on Amazon but might get another for the upper floor. We have 3 litter boxes right now, one of them is HUGE and they seem to prefer that one. Might get another big one if that could help?
I’m so sorry, I can understand the codependency you had with one another. Ultimately you will feel sad for some time. You will pour over the good times. But you made the right decision for both your sakes to exit the marriage. Hopefully he is able to heal himself and thrive as well. Healing and thriving will be so freeing for you, your best years are still ahead of you. Focus on you, share your story, help others. In doing so you heal yourself ❤️
For reference, he’s been battling both a porn and cocaine addiction.
So he's a cheating, lying crackhead. You really struck out, on this one.
5 years is long enough dealing with crackhead nonsense. Who cares if he's attracted to you or not? That's his problem. It shouldn't continue to be I could forgive the addiction I wouldn't recommend anyone forgive the cheating lies. Addicts can't choose not to get high, but they can choose whether to seek recovery and treatment from professionals or not. He's choosing his addiction.
Is it the addictions or are these clear signs that he’s attracted to other women?
I don’t even have to read the post to say leave the fucker.
Yeah you just gotta dig
So your girlfriend and her friends all had a date each, that's cute.
Everyone always resorts to leaving your partner like its the only way to fix it..
Never said she couldn't.
No, both starting clean slate, bygones and let go of toxic past.
Not trying to scam myself a forgiveness here, but yeah, we had a chat and she admitted that she had given up on the relationship a while ago and was as much of a coward as me and was afraid to break up
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Waste of your time and life, set him free. You are wasting time and energy for nothing. He's a liar and full of BS!!! Get out of your emotions and walk away
I am so sorry, OP. If she won't get help and stay with it, this is just going to keep happening. Is this what you want for your life?
If it's her side of the story then drop her. Get a new Girlfriend. It's not worth wasting time on her. You can't make anyone do anything. She went there as a grown-up, she knew what she was doing. Btw there's no such thing as a temporary breakup. This is real life.
Is leeching off of you and not being a functional adult helping her depression? Or just allowing her issues to continue because she has no motivation to get better?
?? I guess the secret is to make more money
But you might be right
Some people like to workout alone. I personally would feel uncomfortable working out with someone I only see at the gym.
There's a difference between a getting slapped on the ass, and getting beaten. If you think it's self-centered of me to be concerned for my own personal health you have no concept of personal boundaries.
why are you not willing to pay 50% of the cost to a parking spot?
I just ordered one diffuser on Amazon but might get another for the upper floor. We have 3 litter boxes right now, one of them is HUGE and they seem to prefer that one. Might get another big one if that could help?
I’m so sorry, I can understand the codependency you had with one another. Ultimately you will feel sad for some time. You will pour over the good times. But you made the right decision for both your sakes to exit the marriage. Hopefully he is able to heal himself and thrive as well. Healing and thriving will be so freeing for you, your best years are still ahead of you. Focus on you, share your story, help others. In doing so you heal yourself ❤️
Yes, it was miscellaneous talk. Honestly think it could have waited till the following morning. It was industry/work related.
Life is too short to play one and off again games. if your lookig for long term than keep looking for someone that knows what they want.
He’s gonna need to compromise and have phone conversations with you if that’s what makes you happy.
If he doesn’t care about your happiness than dump him
He could be taking some of it unpaid with savings, and the rest accrued if he uses it sparingly
That’s the goal. Just can’t afford it right now.
For reference, he’s been battling both a porn and cocaine addiction.
So he's a cheating, lying crackhead. You really struck out, on this one.
5 years is long enough dealing with crackhead nonsense. Who cares if he's attracted to you or not? That's his problem. It shouldn't continue to be I could forgive the addiction I wouldn't recommend anyone forgive the cheating lies. Addicts can't choose not to get high, but they can choose whether to seek recovery and treatment from professionals or not. He's choosing his addiction.
Is it the addictions or are these clear signs that he’s attracted to other women?
Who cares what a crackhead is attracted to?
Yup. Open devices for everyone.