Take your time and get yourself out of there. She’s not trustworthy and will never be trustworthy. Here’s the thing kinks are cool and actually help bond couples. But don’t bring a third person into your marriage. By the time you do that your marriage is mostly gone, which is what you probably already discovered.
As much as I hate to say it, you could start recording things. “You want to say you're not scream-fucking all night? Here's how it sounds in my bedroom with the door closed. Here's how it sounds downstairs with the TV off, and one more with it on to be thorough.” Ngl, one of the reasons I moved out was because of parental noise, only for me it was arguing with occasional screaming.
My depression and low self esteem make me care about other people more than myself. I’ll bend over backwards to take care of the people that I love, regardless of how bad I might feel.
This happened like a year ago so I can’t remember what he said exactly. I will have spoken to him about it and my boyfriend also spoke to him and he just said he was joking. All the other boys told me to not listen to him. I am good friends with them.
??♀️ run girl I can already tell you that he has cheated on you in the pass and now he is tired of doing behind your back so he thinks “opening “ the relationship he can do it when he please without caring who knows and sees ??♀️
Left one abuser, and only 4 years later already married and in another awful relationship, and got an abusers name tattooed permanently on their body. OP does not seem to be good at making long term decisions or considering their outcomes.
The second bed occasionally gets slept in when one of us has trouble sleeping and can’t stop tossing and turning. Bathroom vanity is TINY. I have a fair few things I need on hand to get ready each day. But it doesn’t matter that I get ready in the spare room, that’s just me sitting on a bed using the mirrored wardrobe. Add a keyboard in there and it feels unbearably cluttered.
But, this is all just examples of things that aggravate me, and I am now realising there are more important things to consider.
I have a wonderful therapist who has been super helpful! I have a lot of wild stories of my own (obviously they’re real though ahaha) and I think I went into it looking for spontaneity. We were both creative and artsy and I found it so nude to make friends when I had no peers or colleagues, I’d just moved to a totally new city and knew no one so finding one person who had a similar sense of humour and the same hopes and dreams was amazing.
Honestly? I feel no resentment towards her at all. It’s more grief than anything else, but I also feel some sense of “I have to help her” towards the stranger that she’s become. Definitely not my circus, but I still feel some leftover sense of responsibility
I guess you could ask her to sit down with you and explain/show you EXACTLY how she wants things done so that you don’t have to get yelled at for every task, otherwise therapy would be best
No he isn't talking anything serious he had to use something and couldn't muster up his own feelings does he actually love you or is he using you? I'm sorry ?
There's no board of dating that makes rulings on this. If he went out with someone else, would you want to keep dating him?
where should i get individual counseling?
Lmao!! Read what you wrote. YOU gave him head. HE denied YOUR wishes and HE got mad!!! Easy, don't give him head until he respects you!
Take your time and get yourself out of there. She’s not trustworthy and will never be trustworthy. Here’s the thing kinks are cool and actually help bond couples. But don’t bring a third person into your marriage. By the time you do that your marriage is mostly gone, which is what you probably already discovered.
As much as I hate to say it, you could start recording things. “You want to say you're not scream-fucking all night? Here's how it sounds in my bedroom with the door closed. Here's how it sounds downstairs with the TV off, and one more with it on to be thorough.” Ngl, one of the reasons I moved out was because of parental noise, only for me it was arguing with occasional screaming.
My depression and low self esteem make me care about other people more than myself. I’ll bend over backwards to take care of the people that I love, regardless of how bad I might feel.
This happened like a year ago so I can’t remember what he said exactly. I will have spoken to him about it and my boyfriend also spoke to him and he just said he was joking. All the other boys told me to not listen to him. I am good friends with them.
??♀️ run girl I can already tell you that he has cheated on you in the pass and now he is tired of doing behind your back so he thinks “opening “ the relationship he can do it when he please without caring who knows and sees ??♀️
People on a reddit thread called relationship advice. Clearly
Left one abuser, and only 4 years later already married and in another awful relationship, and got an abusers name tattooed permanently on their body. OP does not seem to be good at making long term decisions or considering their outcomes.
The second bed occasionally gets slept in when one of us has trouble sleeping and can’t stop tossing and turning. Bathroom vanity is TINY. I have a fair few things I need on hand to get ready each day. But it doesn’t matter that I get ready in the spare room, that’s just me sitting on a bed using the mirrored wardrobe. Add a keyboard in there and it feels unbearably cluttered.
But, this is all just examples of things that aggravate me, and I am now realising there are more important things to consider.
I have a wonderful therapist who has been super helpful! I have a lot of wild stories of my own (obviously they’re real though ahaha) and I think I went into it looking for spontaneity. We were both creative and artsy and I found it so nude to make friends when I had no peers or colleagues, I’d just moved to a totally new city and knew no one so finding one person who had a similar sense of humour and the same hopes and dreams was amazing.
Honestly? I feel no resentment towards her at all. It’s more grief than anything else, but I also feel some sense of “I have to help her” towards the stranger that she’s become. Definitely not my circus, but I still feel some leftover sense of responsibility
I guess you could ask her to sit down with you and explain/show you EXACTLY how she wants things done so that you don’t have to get yelled at for every task, otherwise therapy would be best
No he isn't talking anything serious he had to use something and couldn't muster up his own feelings does he actually love you or is he using you? I'm sorry ?