I get that three years is a long time and he's done a lot for you, but he basically admitted that given the opportunity he would cheat on you with his “preference.” You're right, it's fetishization and it's wrong.
And you were watching a cartoon no less. It's one thing for the eye to look (because it's not wrong to look at people we find attractive), so long as we don't act on it. Which he blurted out he would do. If he was just jerking it to porn or even hentai, that'd be one thing. This is another entirely.
It seems like he has some issues he needs to work out. Obviously only you can make the decision to stay or go, but I wonder if you could trust him around any Asian woman and if you could continuously forgive his casual racism.
I get that three years is a long time and he's done a lot for you, but he basically admitted that given the opportunity he would cheat on you with his “preference.” You're right, it's fetishization and it's wrong.
And you were watching a cartoon no less. It's one thing for the eye to look (because it's not wrong to look at people we find attractive), so long as we don't act on it. Which he blurted out he would do. If he was just jerking it to porn or even hentai, that'd be one thing. This is another entirely.
It seems like he has some issues he needs to work out. Obviously only you can make the decision to stay or go, but I wonder if you could trust him around any Asian woman and if you could continuously forgive his casual racism.