Id she was asking for a different advice, then why post here in the first place? Just do what you're going to do and be done with it, no need to post your problem live! and let strangers give you advice.
Regarding the last part, men are not just cash machines, but most women treat them that way.
I can tell you that when I have turned off my wifi (because the wifi at work sucks) my phone has put me in all sorts of weird locations, where I am not. And my husband had asked me about it a couple times. But I didn’t cry or get upset. I just snapped a picture to show him I was at work. I mean I didn’t have to send him a pic but I figured it didn’t hurt me to, when my phone said I was somewhere weird. Her reaction is a bit odd butp everyone is different.
Yes. I also find it very disrespectful that she explicitly said she wants to have sex with others in their house. Like, that's where they live!… with their children… How could someone expect someone to be okay with that?!
As a parent of someone with autism (20), I have often had to remind them that, the whole world cannot always accommodate them especially in a relationship. That they have to be willing to be uncomfortable sometimes for their partner. My child is high functioning as it seems OP is. So I think op needs to try to understand this concept as well. It can't only be the partner making all the concessions in the relationship.
Stop with the rationalizations. It takes less than 15 seconds to send a text checking in on someone. If you didn't do it, it's because you made a decision not to do it. Decisions have consequences.
any number of reasons: -communication skills that normal people take for granted may be extremely difficult/anxiety-inducing for others… especially, i imagine, for someone with nearly a 3k eLO in chess. -she sees OP as an attainable skill-level opponent for her son and wants OP to go nude at him but won't/can't communicate this to oP without oP feeling emasculated. -she may be deliberately knowledge-checking her son with certain scenarios to guide his learning process (google “Justin wong vs 8 year old kid (asian lamb) mortal kombat X”)
Well there’s a simple answer to your question onto why I entered a relationship with her even though I knew about her hair probably within the first week or two. After being in the dating scene for this long, I’m not trying to not see someone because of something so small as hair smell. I get that some people are attracted to scents and that’s their thing, but for me it isn’t a dealbreaker.
But if there was a way for me to broach the topic without coming off as an asshole that would make some aspects of the relationships better
Oh so now you've increased your window from 21 to 23. Admittedly I'm going off my own personal experience when I graduated I'm software engineering I would say the average age of my peers was about 24 and if you look live! that is about right. You said 21 which was my only argument 21 specifically. If you increase the domain from 21 to 23 now we are in agreement
So 5 of those 7 days you are a single traveler. Lay out on the beach drinking fruity umbrella drinks. Make spa dates for yourself. Enjoy some tours that the resort offers. Dance at the resort clubs at night. Go with groups and really immerse yourself in the holiday.
If your SO wants to find you, so be it. He can join you, but there's no way in Hell I'd be tagging along with them.
I'd also ditch his ass as soon as I got home, but you may feel differently.
Lol it's fine. I believe OP should get a lawyer involved and a protection order. Her kids are afraid of her that's not okay. I think the other poster was saying that OP shldnt be thinking of staying for the kids because his daughter could be in the same position oneday.
Its not her first time being physical with him. The kids seeing this is horrible. He should definitely divorce her.
Why is this all “you you you”? You literally fucked around and found out. YOU betrayed her trust. That's the only YOU that matters. YOU refuse to even be remorseful. YOU don't want to face the consequences of your actions. SHE needs to leave your lying, cheating ass and continue with therapy so she no longer puts up with men like you.
You should never compromise on your education/carreer. He wanted the divorce because he doesnt love you, then took back the divorce. What about the live! part? Does he want to be with you because he loves you or because living with you is just so convenient?
You got to work out if this was frustration he was venting (and now feels better) with legitimate issues and problems he's had trouble talking about….
or if he was angry at himself and lashed out at you….or worse if he's manipulative and deliberately saying these things to hurt or control you.
If it's legitimate issues he can't bring them up like this and not discuss them, so reach out on that assumption. He's in his 30s he should know how to communicate by now, what he's done is a really unhealthy way to resolve issues. If you discover it's one of the other two you should think about it more. Is this a pattern? Resolvable? Or something you should leave over? If he's deliberately doing it you should leave.
Did you not read the post? Because the post literally says that OP asked for Chipotle, and the boyfriend gave up ordering it because he couldn't figure out the app.
Id she was asking for a different advice, then why post here in the first place? Just do what you're going to do and be done with it, no need to post your problem live! and let strangers give you advice.
Regarding the last part, men are not just cash machines, but most women treat them that way.
I can tell you that when I have turned off my wifi (because the wifi at work sucks) my phone has put me in all sorts of weird locations, where I am not. And my husband had asked me about it a couple times. But I didn’t cry or get upset. I just snapped a picture to show him I was at work. I mean I didn’t have to send him a pic but I figured it didn’t hurt me to, when my phone said I was somewhere weird. Her reaction is a bit odd butp everyone is different.
Yes. I also find it very disrespectful that she explicitly said she wants to have sex with others in their house. Like, that's where they live!… with their children… How could someone expect someone to be okay with that?!
Apparently you were wrong about them being separated, destroyed his reputation, and now he is getting back at you. You made your bed ….
As a parent of someone with autism (20), I have often had to remind them that, the whole world cannot always accommodate them especially in a relationship. That they have to be willing to be uncomfortable sometimes for their partner. My child is high functioning as it seems OP is. So I think op needs to try to understand this concept as well. It can't only be the partner making all the concessions in the relationship.
I had the exact same thought at some point today thank you for the confirmation i am really afraid of doing the wrong thing :'D Thank you very much
Stop with the rationalizations. It takes less than 15 seconds to send a text checking in on someone. If you didn't do it, it's because you made a decision not to do it. Decisions have consequences.
If she's clearly pressing the issue, then he needs to cut ties with her if he's serious about his relationship with you. You need to tell him that.
Don't date a 23 year old when you're almost 30 and then complain that they're immature.
any number of reasons: -communication skills that normal people take for granted may be extremely difficult/anxiety-inducing for others… especially, i imagine, for someone with nearly a 3k eLO in chess. -she sees OP as an attainable skill-level opponent for her son and wants OP to go nude at him but won't/can't communicate this to oP without oP feeling emasculated. -she may be deliberately knowledge-checking her son with certain scenarios to guide his learning process (google “Justin wong vs 8 year old kid (asian lamb) mortal kombat X”)
Well there’s a simple answer to your question onto why I entered a relationship with her even though I knew about her hair probably within the first week or two. After being in the dating scene for this long, I’m not trying to not see someone because of something so small as hair smell. I get that some people are attracted to scents and that’s their thing, but for me it isn’t a dealbreaker.
But if there was a way for me to broach the topic without coming off as an asshole that would make some aspects of the relationships better
I feel you, man. I do. And I'd like to believe there is a rom-com in Europe happy ending for you.
Alas, experience has taught me this sounds like visiting her would only be a bucket load more pain for you.
A remorseful cheater would gladly forfeit their right to privacy.
OPs wife is not deserving of privacy in any case and OP is not snooping he’s gathering evidence. There’s a big difference
Oh so now you've increased your window from 21 to 23. Admittedly I'm going off my own personal experience when I graduated I'm software engineering I would say the average age of my peers was about 24 and if you look live! that is about right. You said 21 which was my only argument 21 specifically. If you increase the domain from 21 to 23 now we are in agreement
So 5 of those 7 days you are a single traveler. Lay out on the beach drinking fruity umbrella drinks. Make spa dates for yourself. Enjoy some tours that the resort offers. Dance at the resort clubs at night. Go with groups and really immerse yourself in the holiday.
If your SO wants to find you, so be it. He can join you, but there's no way in Hell I'd be tagging along with them.
I'd also ditch his ass as soon as I got home, but you may feel differently.
Is he really a great boyfriend if he's not that great of a person? he's irresponsible, mean to animals, and what seems like very emotionally abusive.
You seem really unaware of how mistreated you are despite telling us multiple times that you are.
Lol it's fine. I believe OP should get a lawyer involved and a protection order. Her kids are afraid of her that's not okay. I think the other poster was saying that OP shldnt be thinking of staying for the kids because his daughter could be in the same position oneday.
Its not her first time being physical with him. The kids seeing this is horrible. He should definitely divorce her.
Why is this all “you you you”? You literally fucked around and found out. YOU betrayed her trust. That's the only YOU that matters. YOU refuse to even be remorseful. YOU don't want to face the consequences of your actions. SHE needs to leave your lying, cheating ass and continue with therapy so she no longer puts up with men like you.
You should never compromise on your education/carreer. He wanted the divorce because he doesnt love you, then took back the divorce. What about the live! part? Does he want to be with you because he loves you or because living with you is just so convenient?
You got to work out if this was frustration he was venting (and now feels better) with legitimate issues and problems he's had trouble talking about….
or if he was angry at himself and lashed out at you….or worse if he's manipulative and deliberately saying these things to hurt or control you.
If it's legitimate issues he can't bring them up like this and not discuss them, so reach out on that assumption. He's in his 30s he should know how to communicate by now, what he's done is a really unhealthy way to resolve issues. If you discover it's one of the other two you should think about it more. Is this a pattern? Resolvable? Or something you should leave over? If he's deliberately doing it you should leave.
Did you not read the post? Because the post literally says that OP asked for Chipotle, and the boyfriend gave up ordering it because he couldn't figure out the app.