Yeah you need to call him up before this date and be honest. If you don't, you are leading him on and an a-hole and it will come back to bite you in the end.
It's also possible he has only been your friend because he has always been interested in you. If you reject him, his attitude towards you could change, but that is because he is no longer putting in the extreme effort it takes to be your friend. So don't feel bad if he is no longer your best friend anymore, as it might have been an illusion he created to get on your best side.
John was basically a stand in as he’s the husband of one of my wife’s bridesmaids and she wanted it even on both sides. We had a 100+ person wedding but the bridal party itself was very small. I’m not from the area and many of my childhood friends are no longer on this earth unfortunately so as far as the bridal party goes it was basically me and my best man Mike and i let my wife fill it in with her people to make it even and how she wanted it – which is how John ended up as a groomsman.
Your first mistake was allowing your wife to fill out your own wedding party. Fuck balance. Those people should be reliable friends of yours (gender shouldn't matter, either, although I know some people would stick to “groomsmen” only).
In this scenario I probably would have beaten the shit out of both John and the photographer. What they did was tremendously evil and could have ruined not just the entire wedding but the entire marriage.
It is because he is dead to you!!!! That is what that numbness means. He is dead to you.
Yeah you need to call him up before this date and be honest. If you don't, you are leading him on and an a-hole and it will come back to bite you in the end.
It's also possible he has only been your friend because he has always been interested in you. If you reject him, his attitude towards you could change, but that is because he is no longer putting in the extreme effort it takes to be your friend. So don't feel bad if he is no longer your best friend anymore, as it might have been an illusion he created to get on your best side.
John was basically a stand in as he’s the husband of one of my wife’s bridesmaids and she wanted it even on both sides. We had a 100+ person wedding but the bridal party itself was very small. I’m not from the area and many of my childhood friends are no longer on this earth unfortunately so as far as the bridal party goes it was basically me and my best man Mike and i let my wife fill it in with her people to make it even and how she wanted it – which is how John ended up as a groomsman.
Your first mistake was allowing your wife to fill out your own wedding party. Fuck balance. Those people should be reliable friends of yours (gender shouldn't matter, either, although I know some people would stick to “groomsmen” only).
In this scenario I probably would have beaten the shit out of both John and the photographer. What they did was tremendously evil and could have ruined not just the entire wedding but the entire marriage.
We're both seeing a therapist separately yes ! Let's hope it ends up helping, even individually…