I was in your shoes OP. I left a 7 year emotionally abusive relationship, and within 3 months I was with someone else. Within 2 months of that and he told me I Love You. It hit me like a train. I thought long and nude if I truly felt the same to say it back. I was having fun, he made me happy, and I did think he was a wonderful man, but I had the nagging feeling of “I think I don't know how not to be in a relationship”.
You don't know it yet but you're going to have some severe problems that stem from that previous relationship that you have yet to properly heal from. It's extremely fast. You haven't really known each other that long to experience your demons (because just talking about them is very different) and you don't know how he'll really react. You'll have a sort of “PTSD” reaction to some things and you don't wanna be already moved in at 2 months if he reacts horribly.
I would bring it up. She chose to hide this from you and it's a serious thing to hide. She slept with other men, and maybe women, for money. That's not something you should omit, especially to a person you're going to marry.
Well you aren’t going to dismantle the patriarchy with one surname so you might think about your priorities.
why are you still in contact with him? theres a reason he’s lonely, its because he abused everyone in his life so they left him. you should too.
Didn't even have to read the whole post to tell you you should break up with this old man.
That is why you are a Douche. You shouldn't be in this spot in the first place. A respectable person of integrity would not be in this position.
The minute you knew she had a BF, you stop, back off, etc. That is what a decent human being does.
Nope, you decided then you didn't care and still don't care.
Now you want advice on the dilemma you are in.
Everyone has given you sound advice that is the same.
Lol not this story again omg
I was in your shoes OP. I left a 7 year emotionally abusive relationship, and within 3 months I was with someone else. Within 2 months of that and he told me I Love You. It hit me like a train. I thought long and nude if I truly felt the same to say it back. I was having fun, he made me happy, and I did think he was a wonderful man, but I had the nagging feeling of “I think I don't know how not to be in a relationship”.
You don't know it yet but you're going to have some severe problems that stem from that previous relationship that you have yet to properly heal from. It's extremely fast. You haven't really known each other that long to experience your demons (because just talking about them is very different) and you don't know how he'll really react. You'll have a sort of “PTSD” reaction to some things and you don't wanna be already moved in at 2 months if he reacts horribly.
Just calm down. Take it slow.
Don’t do anything you are not one hundred percent comfortable with.
I would bring it up. She chose to hide this from you and it's a serious thing to hide. She slept with other men, and maybe women, for money. That's not something you should omit, especially to a person you're going to marry.
Well, she hasn't said it to him.
I mean… babies aren’t usually big fans of half hour long scalding nude showers but a lot of young women are lol.
I have but then i think, am i the narcissist???
Sounds like hes an abuser