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No word of a lie I was going to download Grindr today because I have always been bi-curious lol but I don't know if it's a good idea for me to try something so different so soon.
This man wouldn’t lift a finger to protect a teen in an industry rife with abuse. Ask yourself: is this man a good parent? Is he a good man? The answer to both is no. You just didn’t realise it until now. He is buying leisure time at the expense of your mental and physical health bc he thinks looking after his kids (for the first time in his life) is completely your job because you have tits. Run before you have your own kids who girls up without a father
She was very quick to gaslight you on your “faults” as if to make herself feel better about her cheating. You need to realize that unless she has a complete 180 change in her life and might as well be a total stranger from the person you once knew……..that you would be taking back a person who still has a spirit of cheating in her.
You need to find somebody who has great morals that speaks louder than words. However, in the case of your ex, “the proof is in the pudding”.
I get where you're coming from, and I agree that an imbalance of power is more likely in an age gap situation, but that doesn't mean it's morally wrong every time. It certainly doesn't mean no one is allowed to become interested in someone not in their immediate birth year.
The reality is that four years is really a miniscule gap once you're in your late twenties and early thirties, then onwards, but people in their late teens and early twenties are still working out how to build healthy relationships, communicate, and solve problems. That stage of life does make an age gap “bigger”, and the maturing that each party undergoes probably does mean that it won't last, but as long as it's not abusive it's a valid learning experience.
Fair enough, and that is certainly reasonable, but as a general argument, it seems silly to think that it's either that artist in that town or resigning himself to nothing but shitty inexperienced artists. I get that you're just trying to make a point and I don't even disagree with you.
A woman goes into your house when you're not there, and he thinks he shouldn't mention it.
No matter what you ask he will lie.
Check his texts, and if he deletes them you already know something is up. You can always leave a hidden camera in the gym leave and come back early around seven when your husband says he leaves and see if they just work out.
I've come to the conclusion that people aren't truly intentional about who they date. They get attracted to someone, start dating, immediately decide it should be “ride or die” and then just give loyalty even when the person openly shows that they don't deserve it.
Find out from your cousin or check to see if he has social media and reach out . You need medical history anyway and you would like to meet him. Ask for his number and send him a text with your picture and tell him that you are his daughter and that you don't want to cause any problems you would just like to meet him.
This is a 'you' problem in so far as you have failed to advocate for yourself and your lifestyle.
You moved in with someone very early – no idea why you think that is less of an issue because you are twenty five – and you haven't worked out how to best combine your lifestyles.
There is nothing wrong with your girlfriend making a lot of plans, particularly if you have not expressed your need for down time. That said, you need to have a conversation that is based on the simple fact that you need time alone and she does not. This is not an unusual situation and it is pretty easy to solve unless either of you is quite extreme and unable to compromise.
You need to talk to her. Base the conversation on the idea that you are going to be out and about more than would be your personal choice and she is going to be out on her own or at home more than would be her personal choice. Find the middle ground.
Wonder if it was some kind of mind game. Wouldn’t surprise me if there’s some stupid tiktok fad related to seeing how long you can keep people on the hook for stuff like this.
Narcissist, yes. You as narcissist, not so much. He’s the narcissist, and he’s very definitely negging you to make himself feel better in comparison. You can do better.
Then the money the voluntourists raise to pay for their trip would probably be better spent paying for actual builders than for flights and accommodations for a bunch of unskilled tourists.
Obviously she shouldn't have sex if she doesn't want to, but it's reasonable that he wants to have sex every other day. Some people have sex even every day and it's normal. They just shouldn't be together if they are not compatible because none of them is happy in this relationship.
Dude! You’ve got big problems here if she’s in the ‘ignoring’ mode about this situation. Your reply makes it seem like her ‘ignoring’ things happen often. Yikes!
Question: how do you feel about this situation given you are now reading how bad this was for her to do? I hope you realized that before you asked.
Relationships – real ones anyways – aren’t like this. There is communication, honesty and being accountable for your actions. Had she admitted it was wrong to do I’m sure you’d be OK with it.
It definitely is. I couldn’t even go into a church without breaking into a rash for 10 years! Until I found a loving inclusive one, the strictness of this and conditional acceptance is very upsetting
If he's not paying for OF, then there is no interaction. So effectively, it is the same as any other porn.
You don't say what the views or agreements are on porn. So I'm assuming that you don't have one in the relationship. My view is that there is no harm in porn. Unless it impacts the relationship. By this, I mean he prefers porn to have sex with you. Or his porn usage makes him physically unable to perform with you.
Many couples use porn as a sex aid/toy to enhance their sexlife. I think the use of porn can be completely independent of your relationship. Looking at models does not make him love you or want you any less than what he did before. The reality is that he is never “getting” with one of those girls. It's all a fantasy. If you are insecure about your weight gain, that's on you. He can tell you how much he loves and desires you, but if you don't believe him, there is nothing else he can do. You control your body. If you don't like your body, change it. If you fo like it, and he has said he likes it, why don't you believe him?
I think you need to have a big talk about this with him.
No word of a lie I was going to download Grindr today because I have always been bi-curious lol but I don't know if it's a good idea for me to try something so different so soon.
This man wouldn’t lift a finger to protect a teen in an industry rife with abuse. Ask yourself: is this man a good parent? Is he a good man? The answer to both is no. You just didn’t realise it until now. He is buying leisure time at the expense of your mental and physical health bc he thinks looking after his kids (for the first time in his life) is completely your job because you have tits. Run before you have your own kids who girls up without a father
You did what you should have; blocked her.
She was very quick to gaslight you on your “faults” as if to make herself feel better about her cheating. You need to realize that unless she has a complete 180 change in her life and might as well be a total stranger from the person you once knew……..that you would be taking back a person who still has a spirit of cheating in her.
You need to find somebody who has great morals that speaks louder than words. However, in the case of your ex, “the proof is in the pudding”.
I get where you're coming from, and I agree that an imbalance of power is more likely in an age gap situation, but that doesn't mean it's morally wrong every time. It certainly doesn't mean no one is allowed to become interested in someone not in their immediate birth year.
The reality is that four years is really a miniscule gap once you're in your late twenties and early thirties, then onwards, but people in their late teens and early twenties are still working out how to build healthy relationships, communicate, and solve problems. That stage of life does make an age gap “bigger”, and the maturing that each party undergoes probably does mean that it won't last, but as long as it's not abusive it's a valid learning experience.
Sure but it definitely won’t happen first haha
Fair enough, and that is certainly reasonable, but as a general argument, it seems silly to think that it's either that artist in that town or resigning himself to nothing but shitty inexperienced artists. I get that you're just trying to make a point and I don't even disagree with you.
What do our thoughts matter? You are broken up.
I don't think your girlfriend likes surprises.
A woman goes into your house when you're not there, and he thinks he shouldn't mention it.
No matter what you ask he will lie.
Check his texts, and if he deletes them you already know something is up. You can always leave a hidden camera in the gym leave and come back early around seven when your husband says he leaves and see if they just work out.
There are a few ways you can go at this.
He lost his chances when he hid this from you.
Where is your mom in all this?
I've come to the conclusion that people aren't truly intentional about who they date. They get attracted to someone, start dating, immediately decide it should be “ride or die” and then just give loyalty even when the person openly shows that they don't deserve it.
Find out from your cousin or check to see if he has social media and reach out . You need medical history anyway and you would like to meet him. Ask for his number and send him a text with your picture and tell him that you are his daughter and that you don't want to cause any problems you would just like to meet him.
You cheated. You kept things from your boyfriend, you lied and intended to sleep with someone else.
It hurts, but you will heal in time.
Yes, if he is going to break up over that, something more is going on. It may be he was looking for an excuse and found one.
once a cheater always a cheater.
This is a 'you' problem in so far as you have failed to advocate for yourself and your lifestyle.
You moved in with someone very early – no idea why you think that is less of an issue because you are twenty five – and you haven't worked out how to best combine your lifestyles.
There is nothing wrong with your girlfriend making a lot of plans, particularly if you have not expressed your need for down time. That said, you need to have a conversation that is based on the simple fact that you need time alone and she does not. This is not an unusual situation and it is pretty easy to solve unless either of you is quite extreme and unable to compromise.
You need to talk to her. Base the conversation on the idea that you are going to be out and about more than would be your personal choice and she is going to be out on her own or at home more than would be her personal choice. Find the middle ground.
Run away.
Also, this dude 100% follows porn account on his socials.
Wonder if it was some kind of mind game. Wouldn’t surprise me if there’s some stupid tiktok fad related to seeing how long you can keep people on the hook for stuff like this.
he's been watching too much porn or something. I think you are normal, but no idea how to get him to think that.
How far is your girlfriend's house?
Narcissist, yes. You as narcissist, not so much. He’s the narcissist, and he’s very definitely negging you to make himself feel better in comparison. You can do better.
Then the money the voluntourists raise to pay for their trip would probably be better spent paying for actual builders than for flights and accommodations for a bunch of unskilled tourists.
You explained yourself well. There are often reading comprehension issues around here.
The issue is maybe the bar was so low that he forgot it was there to begin with. 🙁
Thanks for the judgement I didn’t ask for. I hope your life is perfect and all your decisions are just as kind as your comments
Obviously she shouldn't have sex if she doesn't want to, but it's reasonable that he wants to have sex every other day. Some people have sex even every day and it's normal. They just shouldn't be together if they are not compatible because none of them is happy in this relationship.
Dude! You’ve got big problems here if she’s in the ‘ignoring’ mode about this situation. Your reply makes it seem like her ‘ignoring’ things happen often. Yikes!
Question: how do you feel about this situation given you are now reading how bad this was for her to do? I hope you realized that before you asked.
Relationships – real ones anyways – aren’t like this. There is communication, honesty and being accountable for your actions. Had she admitted it was wrong to do I’m sure you’d be OK with it.
No one is jealous. It’s not achieving nothing it’s letting Mariah decide if she wants to chance it or not
Are you sure she is not cheating? You don't even know what she is doing
It doesn’t sound like it since you blame her parents for all of this
It definitely is. I couldn’t even go into a church without breaking into a rash for 10 years! Until I found a loving inclusive one, the strictness of this and conditional acceptance is very upsetting
Well this is disrespectful to you and you would be half of the marriage.
i suggest you contact the coworker.
and maybe the HR.
If he's not paying for OF, then there is no interaction. So effectively, it is the same as any other porn.
You don't say what the views or agreements are on porn. So I'm assuming that you don't have one in the relationship. My view is that there is no harm in porn. Unless it impacts the relationship. By this, I mean he prefers porn to have sex with you. Or his porn usage makes him physically unable to perform with you.
Many couples use porn as a sex aid/toy to enhance their sexlife. I think the use of porn can be completely independent of your relationship. Looking at models does not make him love you or want you any less than what he did before. The reality is that he is never “getting” with one of those girls. It's all a fantasy. If you are insecure about your weight gain, that's on you. He can tell you how much he loves and desires you, but if you don't believe him, there is nothing else he can do. You control your body. If you don't like your body, change it. If you fo like it, and he has said he likes it, why don't you believe him?
I think you need to have a big talk about this with him.
Good luck