There are plenty of possible causes for a UTI. Talk to a doctor about all potential causes, and then you can assess if he’s cheating. Of course there’s a possibility that he is, but we’re just some randoms on Reddit. We can’t tell you how high that possibility is
How would you know? Some people can get to know eachother better in 4 months then others in a year. Reddit people really like to do assumptions about people they don't know.
Dude. You think you've got it bad? I once had a roommate in college – he was a super-Senior. In other words, he failed to graduate on time because his GPA was too low. All he had to do was retake one HISTORY class. ONE class. Not too hard. Anyways, we took him on as our 4th for the summer. His first test comes and goes. Fails. WTAF? Dude just didn't study. I mean, I get it, maybe remembering things is not his thing, whatever, but he spent his time not in class watching our tiny TV. Midterms are approaching, and Mommy shows up. Stays for the week helping him to study. He gets a passing grade.
Fine, whatever. Except…
Mom was wearing a one-piece swim suit in our apartment the entire week. It's not like we didn't have AC – although that in itself was a shock given that the building was a run down high rise right outside the projects near our school. If Mom had been decent looking I think we would have just shrugged and not said anything to him. But.
Think Skeletor, wearing a woman's 1 piece. Yeah. So very much an anti American Pie scenario.
It happened again at finals. Thankfully he graduated, and moved home. My other two roommates and I weren't sorry to see him go.
As for your situation, the most you can do is when sister is parading around in underwear, get up and leave. Take your GF with you. Go somewhere else. Have a plan ready for what you're going to do EVERY time you go there because odds are you're going to have to clear out. EVERY TIME.
Right except he clearly just used his (ex) girlfriend as the maid. If he hired help for her he wouldn't be saying he never helped. Making lots of many isn't an excuse to roll your chores onto everyone else
We are comparing someone refusing to give their full name to the person they’re sleeping with to glancing at a wallet to read a name here. There’s no reason to not give your name to someone. You think she trusts him at all? Clearly she doesn’t. Nothing to lose.
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Hey y’all.
My husband has made it very clear to me that he will not continue to be with me if I don’t lose weight. He doesn’t find me attractive like he did when he first met me.
So I’ve been trying to lose weight. I actually went for a few weeks stretch where I was working out every day, and watching what I ate.
These past few weeks however, I messed up and wasn’t counting calories or working out.
Yesterday while I was making dinner, my husband was eating and he left a hash brown and a half on his plate. He was going to put it back in the fridge and I said it’s okay just leave it out because I’ll eat it.
He then asked me if I was watching what I was eating. I said yes, but not counting calories like I had been. I’ve been watchful though and not eating mindlessly.
He was upset and asked me to go weigh myself. I didn’t want to because I have anxiety with weighing myself. He was so gloomy and just sitting there on the sofa. So I was like whatever I’ll just weigh myself.
We have a smart scale and it says I gained 2.3kg of fat, and also gained 800 grams of muscle.
So yeah, because I fell off my routine I had gained some fat 🙁
I’m disappointed in myself.
My husband isn’t happy with me. He says we’ll check my progress in two weeks. I’m planning to eat 1200 calories every day and workout every day to fix this.
I hate that I’m scared of losing my relationship over my weight.
I asked him for a hug yesterday and he jokingly said he doesn’t give hugs to fatties.
He gave me a lecture this morning on how he has high expectations for everyone in his life.
For context, he’s really successful and has big plans for his life.
I feel like I’m worthless and will never be enough for him 🙁 I feel like he doesn’t see what I do because he always wants me to be better.
He told me he’s going to ask me everyday at the end of the day to tell him what I’ve done.
I’m not a great mom, but I try to be. I try to be a good housewife. Is my house always clean? No. Is there always freshly cooked dinner? No.
I think I’m just a little tired of this happening, that’s all. I want him to just love me no matter what. I love him no matter what.
Point being – sometimes, men just don’t care about your answer. They don’t care if you’re gay, or underage, or in a relationship, or working, or flat out not interested – our ‘no’ isn’t a no, its a challenge. An invitation to be convinced to say ‘yes’….and by ‘convinced’ I mean harassed and intimidated.
I get your point but all the answers you listed are not a no. It's a list of obstacles to an answer. Any normal person would get the idea and drop it, but we're talking about people who randomly approach people they don't know. They are not here for a relationship or to actually get interested in you, they just want sex. If they are under the influence, it's even worse.
Your first answer should always be “No. I'm not interested at all, besides …” and then your list of reasons + a polite way of telling them to get lost otherwise you will call someone to kick them out (if you're at work, a bar, any place owned by someone responsible for safety).
For example, when you say “I have a boyfriend”, the other person might think “well so do I, I have a girlfriend and I still think it's acceptable to cheat on her with you”. It does not mean a no to them. When you say “I'm at work”, what they understand is “I have to act professionnal now but I did not answer so maybe…”
If after 6 years you don't want marriage, then you're with the wrong person. There is no way to tell someone that you don't want to marry them. Be prepared for this to be the end of your relationship
Thank you for that information. I am going to talk this out with her but I was going to do it after the valentine day so that she will be more willing to listen out and not freak out exponentially. I am just lost why a 36 yr old is so hard to deal with and she keeps thinking that this will work out
Be honest with him. If he takes it badly or is immature about it then the friendship wouldn't have lasted very long anyways. If he values your friendship as much as you then he'll get over it and move on.
There's a lot of advice in this thread about respect, but there's one thing in your statement that I haven't seen addressed. You said 'I've started just getting distance from her whenever she says something disrespectful.' To me this means you are choosing to NOT communicate. Over and over again communication is key. Can you sit down and SHOW her the finances? Show her that each dollar is correlated to the HOURS you spend working. Each dollar she wants to spend means more time YOU have to work. Can you show her the pressure she is putting on you? Can you explain to her how hurtful the statement 'Maybe I need to get a better husband' really is in that context?
I'm not saying you should, but IF you want to do something positive with the relationship communication is the only option.
I had a man take me out to a field near an airport once and spread out a blanket. He had a bottle of champagne and strawberries and we sat and watched the planes take off. It was the coolest date ever. Not expensive.
Why are you on here if all your going to do is justify his abusive behavior in every response and most likely stay with him? You are in a very dangerous abusive relationship. We are all telling you that. You can’t see it cause you’re in it and he love bombs you every time so you think it’s okay.
If he is willing to pull out a weapon and possibly kill himself then next time he might kill you first then kill himself. If he feels he’s losing control of you more and more then you’re the one he will want dead because it’ll be his only way of controlling you.
If you don’t leave soon I fear the worst will come to fruition. Imagine having kids with him and how he will treat them and the trauma he will inflict on them. You’re being selfish in the long run because the people around you will lose you and you could possibly have kids that will pay the price in the future if you stay with him.
Do what’s right and take care of yourself for once. You’re worth more but only if you realize it. If you keep allowing yourself to be treated this way then he will keep doing it. Simple as that.
While your fiancé not wanting any other men around you is very controlling and misogynistic. Your description of your relationship and reliance on your ex for emotional and mental support is inappropriate for someone who is supposed to be in a committed relationship.
Stirring up drama is the second best kind of revenge.
Also if she was not the one who texted you, she deserves to know that he's cheating on her.
Side note, you should probably get tested for STDs to make sure you didn't catch anything from him.
There are plenty of possible causes for a UTI. Talk to a doctor about all potential causes, and then you can assess if he’s cheating. Of course there’s a possibility that he is, but we’re just some randoms on Reddit. We can’t tell you how high that possibility is
You need to bite this bullet hard. It is not easy to break up but you two are not compatible.
How would you know? Some people can get to know eachother better in 4 months then others in a year. Reddit people really like to do assumptions about people they don't know.
You're welcome
Dude. You think you've got it bad? I once had a roommate in college – he was a super-Senior. In other words, he failed to graduate on time because his GPA was too low. All he had to do was retake one HISTORY class. ONE class. Not too hard. Anyways, we took him on as our 4th for the summer. His first test comes and goes. Fails. WTAF? Dude just didn't study. I mean, I get it, maybe remembering things is not his thing, whatever, but he spent his time not in class watching our tiny TV. Midterms are approaching, and Mommy shows up. Stays for the week helping him to study. He gets a passing grade.
Fine, whatever. Except…
Mom was wearing a one-piece swim suit in our apartment the entire week. It's not like we didn't have AC – although that in itself was a shock given that the building was a run down high rise right outside the projects near our school. If Mom had been decent looking I think we would have just shrugged and not said anything to him. But.
Think Skeletor, wearing a woman's 1 piece. Yeah. So very much an anti American Pie scenario.
It happened again at finals. Thankfully he graduated, and moved home. My other two roommates and I weren't sorry to see him go.
As for your situation, the most you can do is when sister is parading around in underwear, get up and leave. Take your GF with you. Go somewhere else. Have a plan ready for what you're going to do EVERY time you go there because odds are you're going to have to clear out. EVERY TIME.
Right except he clearly just used his (ex) girlfriend as the maid. If he hired help for her he wouldn't be saying he never helped. Making lots of many isn't an excuse to roll your chores onto everyone else
Because of this, I checked his/her comment history. And yeah…. kinda sus.. ? I don't get the point tho why would she post as the bf (or vice versa ?)
We are comparing someone refusing to give their full name to the person they’re sleeping with to glancing at a wallet to read a name here. There’s no reason to not give your name to someone. You think she trusts him at all? Clearly she doesn’t. Nothing to lose.
You made up the oral copulation. Why?
Definitely do that, porn is no bueno for your mental health
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Hey y’all.
My husband has made it very clear to me that he will not continue to be with me if I don’t lose weight. He doesn’t find me attractive like he did when he first met me.
So I’ve been trying to lose weight. I actually went for a few weeks stretch where I was working out every day, and watching what I ate.
These past few weeks however, I messed up and wasn’t counting calories or working out.
Yesterday while I was making dinner, my husband was eating and he left a hash brown and a half on his plate. He was going to put it back in the fridge and I said it’s okay just leave it out because I’ll eat it.
He then asked me if I was watching what I was eating. I said yes, but not counting calories like I had been. I’ve been watchful though and not eating mindlessly.
He was upset and asked me to go weigh myself. I didn’t want to because I have anxiety with weighing myself. He was so gloomy and just sitting there on the sofa. So I was like whatever I’ll just weigh myself.
We have a smart scale and it says I gained 2.3kg of fat, and also gained 800 grams of muscle.
So yeah, because I fell off my routine I had gained some fat 🙁
I’m disappointed in myself.
My husband isn’t happy with me. He says we’ll check my progress in two weeks. I’m planning to eat 1200 calories every day and workout every day to fix this.
I hate that I’m scared of losing my relationship over my weight.
I asked him for a hug yesterday and he jokingly said he doesn’t give hugs to fatties.
He gave me a lecture this morning on how he has high expectations for everyone in his life.
For context, he’s really successful and has big plans for his life.
I feel like I’m worthless and will never be enough for him 🙁 I feel like he doesn’t see what I do because he always wants me to be better.
He told me he’s going to ask me everyday at the end of the day to tell him what I’ve done.
I’m not a great mom, but I try to be. I try to be a good housewife. Is my house always clean? No. Is there always freshly cooked dinner? No.
I think I’m just a little tired of this happening, that’s all. I want him to just love me no matter what. I love him no matter what.
Point being – sometimes, men just don’t care about your answer. They don’t care if you’re gay, or underage, or in a relationship, or working, or flat out not interested – our ‘no’ isn’t a no, its a challenge. An invitation to be convinced to say ‘yes’….and by ‘convinced’ I mean harassed and intimidated.
I get your point but all the answers you listed are not a no. It's a list of obstacles to an answer. Any normal person would get the idea and drop it, but we're talking about people who randomly approach people they don't know. They are not here for a relationship or to actually get interested in you, they just want sex. If they are under the influence, it's even worse.
Your first answer should always be “No. I'm not interested at all, besides …” and then your list of reasons + a polite way of telling them to get lost otherwise you will call someone to kick them out (if you're at work, a bar, any place owned by someone responsible for safety).
For example, when you say “I have a boyfriend”, the other person might think “well so do I, I have a girlfriend and I still think it's acceptable to cheat on her with you”. It does not mean a no to them. When you say “I'm at work”, what they understand is “I have to act professionnal now but I did not answer so maybe…”
Raise your lower age limit on dating apps if you don’t want this to happen again.
I will
Classic r/relationship_advice where breaking up is always the solution.
If after 6 years you don't want marriage, then you're with the wrong person. There is no way to tell someone that you don't want to marry them. Be prepared for this to be the end of your relationship
That’s how it usually starts with abusers. Best advice, RUN!
Why do you think he’s lying?
Thank you for that information. I am going to talk this out with her but I was going to do it after the valentine day so that she will be more willing to listen out and not freak out exponentially. I am just lost why a 36 yr old is so hard to deal with and she keeps thinking that this will work out
My father was an alcoholic who forgot to feed us after my mom passed and he was still a better dad than you ??
Have you considered that's exactly how he wants you to feel? This guy seems like he could be a master manipulator to me
Be honest with him. If he takes it badly or is immature about it then the friendship wouldn't have lasted very long anyways. If he values your friendship as much as you then he'll get over it and move on.
There's a lot of advice in this thread about respect, but there's one thing in your statement that I haven't seen addressed. You said 'I've started just getting distance from her whenever she says something disrespectful.' To me this means you are choosing to NOT communicate. Over and over again communication is key. Can you sit down and SHOW her the finances? Show her that each dollar is correlated to the HOURS you spend working. Each dollar she wants to spend means more time YOU have to work. Can you show her the pressure she is putting on you? Can you explain to her how hurtful the statement 'Maybe I need to get a better husband' really is in that context?
I'm not saying you should, but IF you want to do something positive with the relationship communication is the only option.
Here’s a tip: don’t travel if you can’t afford it. Your friend sucks, but you’re an adult, and could have done things on your own
I had a man take me out to a field near an airport once and spread out a blanket. He had a bottle of champagne and strawberries and we sat and watched the planes take off. It was the coolest date ever. Not expensive.
i don’t think you can technically cheat on a “situationship.”
He called her fat 4/5 years BEFORE they got married. You misinterpreted the post.
Why are you on here if all your going to do is justify his abusive behavior in every response and most likely stay with him? You are in a very dangerous abusive relationship. We are all telling you that. You can’t see it cause you’re in it and he love bombs you every time so you think it’s okay.
If he is willing to pull out a weapon and possibly kill himself then next time he might kill you first then kill himself. If he feels he’s losing control of you more and more then you’re the one he will want dead because it’ll be his only way of controlling you.
If you don’t leave soon I fear the worst will come to fruition. Imagine having kids with him and how he will treat them and the trauma he will inflict on them. You’re being selfish in the long run because the people around you will lose you and you could possibly have kids that will pay the price in the future if you stay with him.
Do what’s right and take care of yourself for once. You’re worth more but only if you realize it. If you keep allowing yourself to be treated this way then he will keep doing it. Simple as that.
How long have u been in this relationship?
You make a decision.
Your fiancé or your ex.
While your fiancé not wanting any other men around you is very controlling and misogynistic. Your description of your relationship and reliance on your ex for emotional and mental support is inappropriate for someone who is supposed to be in a committed relationship.
You are such a wishy-washy pita I hope she dumps your spineless ass.
Leave him as soon as it is possible for you to do so.
Sorry this happened to you…
Funny you said that because that’s exactly what the wife did and you seem to think that’s perfectly fine