Did she give you a specific date to come, and confirm those dates worked for her? Or was it more of a casual, “You should come visit me sometime!”. It sounds like she may be having second thoughts, or maybe she is attached.
Best thing to do is probably call her on the phone. If she doesn't answer, then just leave her a voicemail saying, “Look, I can see you may be having second thoughts about meeting again. That's ok. Just please let me know and I can cancel my trip. It's no big deal.”
Otherwise, if you can't cancel, see if you can get a buddy to go too and then just tour around.
No super flirty texts just casual conversation talking about a tv show she got me into, stuff going on in our lives, etc. I’ll definitely watch for body language more, thanks for your reply.
You should leave him if he cannot understand or does not care to understand how this made you feel. It is obviously a big deal for you, and since it is a big deal for you and you are the person in the relationship I would advice not trying to find out what the rest of the internet thinks. This is not a matter of objectivity this is s matter of how scared this made you feel. Obviously, for now.. he's acted like a jerk by justifying the stupid thing he did. Try talking to him again, and if instead of understanding how this made you feel, he goes on and on justifying himself or saying it was s joke or whatever then yes…consider leaving him. Not because of the stupid thing he did but because he'd then have proven he has no empathy towards you.
Did she give you a specific date to come, and confirm those dates worked for her? Or was it more of a casual, “You should come visit me sometime!”. It sounds like she may be having second thoughts, or maybe she is attached.
Best thing to do is probably call her on the phone. If she doesn't answer, then just leave her a voicemail saying, “Look, I can see you may be having second thoughts about meeting again. That's ok. Just please let me know and I can cancel my trip. It's no big deal.”
Otherwise, if you can't cancel, see if you can get a buddy to go too and then just tour around.
No super flirty texts just casual conversation talking about a tv show she got me into, stuff going on in our lives, etc. I’ll definitely watch for body language more, thanks for your reply.
No that's not it. It's more like I think he doesn't respect himself and I don't want to make it worse for him.
did she post pictures of you two during that time and mention that she was helping you?
You should leave him if he cannot understand or does not care to understand how this made you feel. It is obviously a big deal for you, and since it is a big deal for you and you are the person in the relationship I would advice not trying to find out what the rest of the internet thinks. This is not a matter of objectivity this is s matter of how scared this made you feel. Obviously, for now.. he's acted like a jerk by justifying the stupid thing he did. Try talking to him again, and if instead of understanding how this made you feel, he goes on and on justifying himself or saying it was s joke or whatever then yes…consider leaving him. Not because of the stupid thing he did but because he'd then have proven he has no empathy towards you.