It's well past time to leave. Either he's always been an abuser, and you've gotten to the point where he feels comfortable showing it, or he's trying to get you to break up with him so he doesn't have to take the blame for it. He's not worth any more of your time.
Thank you. It's really feeling like he's a pulling a guilt trip manipulation. And to your second point YES I have asked for lists or for thing I can DO for him and it's usually met with “Oh I don't really need anything”.
Yeah, big issue is that to secure student loans, the amount is based on your parents income. Her parents make good money, so her loans would amount to $0 basically, so it's a lose-lose. She says she'll just continue her time off university and keep working until she can afford it, but I'm thinking there must be a better way
Did she say that? Or are you saying that? You should both discuss this further. If one or both of you are just making assumptions about the other, it just turns into toxic soup. Granted, what might eventually come out of talking may not be want you want to hear – but you can move forward from there.
I’d draw the line at undergarments. No actually skin. Even that is very immature, but being so easily lead into doing something so stupid at 28, is scary.
You’d hope your partner would be more mature than that. I’d think this way about a guy too.
Also, what pay cut? She's working part-time and was comparing salaries once she actually obtains a job upon graduating. This logic is skewed. OP just doesn't want to work, but travel on her husband dime.
“We’re going to candy mountain, Charlie!”
Im sure she doesnt mean it though.
It's well past time to leave. Either he's always been an abuser, and you've gotten to the point where he feels comfortable showing it, or he's trying to get you to break up with him so he doesn't have to take the blame for it. He's not worth any more of your time.
Thank you. It's really feeling like he's a pulling a guilt trip manipulation. And to your second point YES I have asked for lists or for thing I can DO for him and it's usually met with “Oh I don't really need anything”.
I do not understand how to address this behavior.
Yeah, big issue is that to secure student loans, the amount is based on your parents income. Her parents make good money, so her loans would amount to $0 basically, so it's a lose-lose. She says she'll just continue her time off university and keep working until she can afford it, but I'm thinking there must be a better way
When he’s not like he’s the sweetest. But I also found out his longest relationship is 4 months and he’s been with 4 others than me
Did she say that? Or are you saying that? You should both discuss this further. If one or both of you are just making assumptions about the other, it just turns into toxic soup. Granted, what might eventually come out of talking may not be want you want to hear – but you can move forward from there.
I’d draw the line at undergarments. No actually skin. Even that is very immature, but being so easily lead into doing something so stupid at 28, is scary.
You’d hope your partner would be more mature than that. I’d think this way about a guy too.
Also, what pay cut? She's working part-time and was comparing salaries once she actually obtains a job upon graduating. This logic is skewed. OP just doesn't want to work, but travel on her husband dime.
It’s gonna be harder to meet someone who wants kids as long as she’s in a relationship with you. You need to break it off so she can move on.