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Am I the only one that is thinking it may have to do with the fact you are aging and y'all started when you were just out of your teens and he likes to exclusively watch Japanese porn where the women are often look and act very infantile. It rubs me the wrong way.
It could be several things based on what info you gave us. A Mirena IUD could cause some weight gain in some women. Is she currently taking Sertraline? A lot of antidepressants have a potential to cause weight gain, but not everyone. It could also be depression! Depression can cause fatigue, excess sleeping, lack of motivation, social anxiety (esp in a gym setting when you know you’re not looking your best and feeling worthy), loss of normal interests, seclusion, increase eating and eating for comfort/pleasure.
There are also medical conditions, usually involving hormones that can cause weight gain and make it VERY difficult to lose. And if she wants those looked at, not all general family/primary care providers have as much training on hormones etc, beyond very basic ones. She may want to look into seeing a specialist for testing and in that regard.
When a partner/friend is in this state the worst thing you can do is just be completely frustrated, judgmental, come off in angry tones, act like it’s as easy as just getting up and working out. That is not a safe space for a person to be vulnerable in and actually accept your concern and help.
I would look at these underlying issues first. Is she wants to look into the causes you could help (but only if she wants help) by offering to research Drs, make appointments, do some light intro with her, diet changes WITH her to be healthy together.
What you don’t want is to turn this into a parent-child relationship. It will kill attraction on both ends.
If she flat out refuses to explore her health and maybe the root causes of these issues or doesn’t think they are issues even after seeing a medical professional or two, then it may come down to the partnership being incompatible.
Definitely approach it gently, start with a positive thing (physical and non-physical attributes) you long about her and find attractive. Then come at it from a concern for her well-being, either mental health check in and physical check in as that BMI is unhealthy and can lead to developing Heath issues and a lowered life expectancy.
Him fleeing the scene should make you realize he’s full of shit and if he really was trying to be a better person then he’d take full responsibility of his actions.
Went to it because of Covid. Still having the same issue with the real world. Everything seems great until they Google (or ask) what demisexual means and then poof.
I had actually met who I thought was a really nice guy and we had been dating for a month. Went to pick him up last night for our date and his girlfriend answered the door. Apparently they are long distance and she surprised him with a visit? We were both surprise and she was extremely livid so I imagine he did not have a fun night. Anyway, that’s the reason I asked this last night.
In another post, you wrote your bf is coming to your and your sister's place…do you also regularly stay at your bf's place? Has he introdcued you to his friends and family?
“When I met my boyfriend, he was still in love with his ex: he told me, and I still went for it.” It’s honestly not fair for you to resent him about something you knew about, and decided to get involved with in regardless. There’s really nothing you can do besides decide if you want to work through it or not, I can’t necessarily tell you how to get over trust issues. I think the first step would probably realizing that you’re partly to blame for your decision making, and realize that you both made bad decisions in the beginning. If you decide to work through it, just allow him to show you progress. Of course it will still linger in your mind, but once you decide to still pursue the relationship there has to be forgiveness, and some forgetting to an extent.
My mom and her friends regularly (at least twice a year) went to Las Vegas when she was in her early 30s. The only things my dad ever said were “Have fun! Be safe! Love you!” His first wife cheated on him but not once did he act like he thought my mom would too. If you don’t trust her or if you can’t trust her, you shouldn’t be with her.
If you think she has been unfaithful, you should break up. If you think she has been faithful, you should thank him for making her look taken to all the other guys.
Youre not fooling anybody. You’re not taking any accountability for your actions. You made an ass of yourself and blaming your bf for not having stopped you. It’s not that you don’t trust your bf, you don’t trust yourself. Therefore you want someone else to be responsible for you. You decided to drink as much as you did, you decided to let your mood kill the vibes rather than just accept it and deal with it once the party was over and to sit there and act like you’re the victim in all this is ridiculous. You’re old enough to know better and it’s no one else’s fault but yours.
You don’t like your roommates? Boo hoo, not everyone gets perfect roommates. Look for new living arrangements or try to make the best of what you already have.
It could just be she doesn’t want to do the whole diapers and sleepless nights again. It’s “just another 2-3 years” when you’re deep in the trenches with a kid and you vaguely remember sleeping at one point. Having to do it all again when your youngest has been out of diapers for a year+, sleeping through the night and more or less independent is another story.
I'm honestly shocked you've lasted this long, ten years with this is torturous. I would just leave her, she has no interest in being a wife to you so what's the point in staying? Get shared custody and find yourself a woman that wants to be your partner.
I agree with this completely. To add on: loosening up is normal as you can become aroused. That’s a good thing OP. It stops you from getting hurt while having sex. If you wanted to mimic being tighter while in missionary, you can do kegels while he’s inside of you. Especially if you start the grip as he’s pulling out of you.
I don’t think your partner meant to be insulting but I can understand why you felt hurt by what he said. I recommend communicating how you’re feeling and to try having more open conversations about your sexual interests and preferences. The fact that he’s communicating is a good thing. He just needs to get better at it which takes practice. Don’t hide how you feel from him but don’t shut down any future discussions either.
I was going to say maybe the idea of causing you pain is what puts the brakes on. I mean, it still could be but…
Meanwhile, his instagram feed is filled with half naked girls and he masturbates regularly while watching porn or other girls. Whenever i say okay ill start watching porn too and enjoy it he tells me not to and that since im not used to watching porn it makes him feel weird that i start watching now.
That did seem a bit weird. He doesn't want you watching porn… like at all? While he does it himself? Is he expecting you to be totally pleasure-less? Have you asked him why he won't sleep with you?
He said he has not asked but will. I find it weird he’s paid for it and dosent know what it entails. All the other expenses were mapped out in detail down to the bottles of alcohol being bought.
My partner and I actually did this. He moved with me far from our homes for 4 years where I went to study. I didn’t even ask him to come with me, I had assumed we would go long distance and fail but je offered to come and he was ver supportive to me. We weren’t even married or with kids and still aren’t, but have been together now for more than 10 years and are definitely life partners. These things can work out but every situation and every couple are different.
That’s a chance. Fully into our relationship and he’s still trying to talk to catfishing women to get nudes? How does one even feel about that. Why not just watch p*rn? These are also the only kind of conversations I found.
Im sure they appeared like Clorox wipes but surely they were something else. You certainly can't wipe your vagina with that. Maybe isopropyl or wet wipes
Nobody can answer that definitively, even if their circumstances were exactly the same as yours. It may he a difficult decision but it's not a difficult question.
If it's London, just get your own place while you're deciding (after a year or so of steadily dating in person) if he's the one for you. And if you'll be ok living there.
Honestly, what are YOU bringing to the table for a partner? I see your lengthy list of demands and requirements, but not what you are willing to do or compromise to meet a partners needs. My guess is you aren’t willing to. Your list leaves no room for a partner to flourish in a relationship, other than just devote themself to you. I think there is a reason your still single and the list along with some personality traits are the reason.
I won’t be moving in with him. I think I just need advice on how to ask for a refund back? He still haven’t paid the money I loaned him in the past and I just wanna make sure I’m getting all of it back including the refund.
When she thinks of you she thinks of you as an abuser. Nothing else. Any attempt to speak to her at this point reinforces that. The kindest thing you could do for her is to delete her as a contact and never speak to her again.
Yup. Too much calcium can give you kidney stones, especially if your salt intake is also high. Your body uses the same process to eliminate excess sodium and excess calcium, so it prioritizes getting rid of the salt because it's more dangerous to have too much salt floating around in your body. Then all that extra calcium can clump together into kidney stones.
Spinach is another common culprit behind kidney stones, the calcium oxalate kind. I found that one out the naked way. Started eating a lot more salad to try and be healthier and gave myself a fricking kidney stone.
With all due respect, OP, someone who got involved with you to make money doing porn and only later “caught feels” is EXACTLY the type of person I think would do this.
Seems like they have more money because they're cheapskates.
But, if you're splitting everything down the middle, make sure you order more expensive things than he does. That way he picks up a bigger portion. Work the system.
I wasn't saying the miscarriage was Mistress' fault so I suppose I worded that poorly. What I was trying to convey is that Mistress has a long history of health issues and her body has been stressed for a long time for this and that reason. While emotional distress can create a situation for miscarriage, to blame that solely on the actions of one other person is a shitty thing to do.
Am I the only one that is thinking it may have to do with the fact you are aging and y'all started when you were just out of your teens and he likes to exclusively watch Japanese porn where the women are often look and act very infantile. It rubs me the wrong way.
It could be several things based on what info you gave us. A Mirena IUD could cause some weight gain in some women. Is she currently taking Sertraline? A lot of antidepressants have a potential to cause weight gain, but not everyone. It could also be depression! Depression can cause fatigue, excess sleeping, lack of motivation, social anxiety (esp in a gym setting when you know you’re not looking your best and feeling worthy), loss of normal interests, seclusion, increase eating and eating for comfort/pleasure.
There are also medical conditions, usually involving hormones that can cause weight gain and make it VERY difficult to lose. And if she wants those looked at, not all general family/primary care providers have as much training on hormones etc, beyond very basic ones. She may want to look into seeing a specialist for testing and in that regard.
When a partner/friend is in this state the worst thing you can do is just be completely frustrated, judgmental, come off in angry tones, act like it’s as easy as just getting up and working out. That is not a safe space for a person to be vulnerable in and actually accept your concern and help.
I would look at these underlying issues first. Is she wants to look into the causes you could help (but only if she wants help) by offering to research Drs, make appointments, do some light intro with her, diet changes WITH her to be healthy together.
What you don’t want is to turn this into a parent-child relationship. It will kill attraction on both ends.
If she flat out refuses to explore her health and maybe the root causes of these issues or doesn’t think they are issues even after seeing a medical professional or two, then it may come down to the partnership being incompatible.
Definitely approach it gently, start with a positive thing (physical and non-physical attributes) you long about her and find attractive. Then come at it from a concern for her well-being, either mental health check in and physical check in as that BMI is unhealthy and can lead to developing Heath issues and a lowered life expectancy.
Hope this helps. 🙂
Fair enough.
What you deserve isn't based on who you were, it is based on who you are. So be better and learn to deserve him. Anything less is just a weak excuse.
Him fleeing the scene should make you realize he’s full of shit and if he really was trying to be a better person then he’d take full responsibility of his actions.
Baby isn’t going to make MIL love husband more. He needs a reality check asap
You don't know what to do? The same thing keeps happening over and over. At some point you have to acknowledge reality and stop entertaining it.
Went to it because of Covid. Still having the same issue with the real world. Everything seems great until they Google (or ask) what demisexual means and then poof.
I had actually met who I thought was a really nice guy and we had been dating for a month. Went to pick him up last night for our date and his girlfriend answered the door. Apparently they are long distance and she surprised him with a visit? We were both surprise and she was extremely livid so I imagine he did not have a fun night. Anyway, that’s the reason I asked this last night.
I’m glad you have your priorities set. Vacation with your ex is more important than respecting your partner.
In another post, you wrote your bf is coming to your and your sister's place…do you also regularly stay at your bf's place? Has he introdcued you to his friends and family?
“When I met my boyfriend, he was still in love with his ex: he told me, and I still went for it.” It’s honestly not fair for you to resent him about something you knew about, and decided to get involved with in regardless. There’s really nothing you can do besides decide if you want to work through it or not, I can’t necessarily tell you how to get over trust issues. I think the first step would probably realizing that you’re partly to blame for your decision making, and realize that you both made bad decisions in the beginning. If you decide to work through it, just allow him to show you progress. Of course it will still linger in your mind, but once you decide to still pursue the relationship there has to be forgiveness, and some forgetting to an extent.
My mom and her friends regularly (at least twice a year) went to Las Vegas when she was in her early 30s. The only things my dad ever said were “Have fun! Be safe! Love you!” His first wife cheated on him but not once did he act like he thought my mom would too. If you don’t trust her or if you can’t trust her, you shouldn’t be with her.
Get a cool hobby, hang with friends, smoke herb, paint, get a pet, rearrange your living space, listen to good music, etcetera. Distract yourself.
Me either. They are all assholes.
If you think she has been unfaithful, you should break up. If you think she has been faithful, you should thank him for making her look taken to all the other guys.
Sounds like your GF is the manipulative one, you deserve better op
Youre not fooling anybody. You’re not taking any accountability for your actions. You made an ass of yourself and blaming your bf for not having stopped you. It’s not that you don’t trust your bf, you don’t trust yourself. Therefore you want someone else to be responsible for you. You decided to drink as much as you did, you decided to let your mood kill the vibes rather than just accept it and deal with it once the party was over and to sit there and act like you’re the victim in all this is ridiculous. You’re old enough to know better and it’s no one else’s fault but yours.
You don’t like your roommates? Boo hoo, not everyone gets perfect roommates. Look for new living arrangements or try to make the best of what you already have.
It could just be she doesn’t want to do the whole diapers and sleepless nights again. It’s “just another 2-3 years” when you’re deep in the trenches with a kid and you vaguely remember sleeping at one point. Having to do it all again when your youngest has been out of diapers for a year+, sleeping through the night and more or less independent is another story.
If she is so impressed why didn't she say yes lol
Just leave.
I'm honestly shocked you've lasted this long, ten years with this is torturous. I would just leave her, she has no interest in being a wife to you so what's the point in staying? Get shared custody and find yourself a woman that wants to be your partner.
I agree with this completely. To add on: loosening up is normal as you can become aroused. That’s a good thing OP. It stops you from getting hurt while having sex. If you wanted to mimic being tighter while in missionary, you can do kegels while he’s inside of you. Especially if you start the grip as he’s pulling out of you.
I don’t think your partner meant to be insulting but I can understand why you felt hurt by what he said. I recommend communicating how you’re feeling and to try having more open conversations about your sexual interests and preferences. The fact that he’s communicating is a good thing. He just needs to get better at it which takes practice. Don’t hide how you feel from him but don’t shut down any future discussions either.
I was going to say maybe the idea of causing you pain is what puts the brakes on. I mean, it still could be but…
Meanwhile, his instagram feed is filled with half naked girls and he masturbates regularly while watching porn or other girls. Whenever i say okay ill start watching porn too and enjoy it he tells me not to and that since im not used to watching porn it makes him feel weird that i start watching now.
That did seem a bit weird. He doesn't want you watching porn… like at all? While he does it himself? Is he expecting you to be totally pleasure-less? Have you asked him why he won't sleep with you?
He said he has not asked but will. I find it weird he’s paid for it and dosent know what it entails. All the other expenses were mapped out in detail down to the bottles of alcohol being bought.
My partner and I actually did this. He moved with me far from our homes for 4 years where I went to study. I didn’t even ask him to come with me, I had assumed we would go long distance and fail but je offered to come and he was ver supportive to me. We weren’t even married or with kids and still aren’t, but have been together now for more than 10 years and are definitely life partners. These things can work out but every situation and every couple are different.
Hopeless . May god bless you , OP .
How is not having stinky carpet a luxury?
That’s a chance. Fully into our relationship and he’s still trying to talk to catfishing women to get nudes? How does one even feel about that. Why not just watch p*rn? These are also the only kind of conversations I found.
Im sure they appeared like Clorox wipes but surely they were something else. You certainly can't wipe your vagina with that. Maybe isopropyl or wet wipes
Nobody can answer that definitively, even if their circumstances were exactly the same as yours. It may he a difficult decision but it's not a difficult question.
If it's London, just get your own place while you're deciding (after a year or so of steadily dating in person) if he's the one for you. And if you'll be ok living there.
Honestly, what are YOU bringing to the table for a partner? I see your lengthy list of demands and requirements, but not what you are willing to do or compromise to meet a partners needs. My guess is you aren’t willing to. Your list leaves no room for a partner to flourish in a relationship, other than just devote themself to you. I think there is a reason your still single and the list along with some personality traits are the reason.
Who cares if he finds out? Some father he is.
I won’t be moving in with him. I think I just need advice on how to ask for a refund back? He still haven’t paid the money I loaned him in the past and I just wanna make sure I’m getting all of it back including the refund.
I’m going to be blunt: your wife needs to get a life.
When she thinks of you she thinks of you as an abuser. Nothing else. Any attempt to speak to her at this point reinforces that. The kindest thing you could do for her is to delete her as a contact and never speak to her again.
Yup. Too much calcium can give you kidney stones, especially if your salt intake is also high. Your body uses the same process to eliminate excess sodium and excess calcium, so it prioritizes getting rid of the salt because it's more dangerous to have too much salt floating around in your body. Then all that extra calcium can clump together into kidney stones.
Spinach is another common culprit behind kidney stones, the calcium oxalate kind. I found that one out the naked way. Started eating a lot more salad to try and be healthier and gave myself a fricking kidney stone.
Weirdo
With all due respect, OP, someone who got involved with you to make money doing porn and only later “caught feels” is EXACTLY the type of person I think would do this.
That’s a good idea, thank you!
You literally said, ” I made him stop loving Lilly and made him love me”
Seems like they have more money because they're cheapskates.
But, if you're splitting everything down the middle, make sure you order more expensive things than he does. That way he picks up a bigger portion. Work the system.
saw he threatened to KILL YOUR DOG if she bit one of his kid
What?! Oh no, throw the man out!
Ok so by his definition being in a conversation but not even speaking to a guy is cheating.
Ask him how many times he's been in that situation with a woman. Worse how many times has he actually spoken. Cos by his definition he's also cheated.
He's a manipulative, controlling idiot. Honestly you'd be best out of it if this is what your life with him will be like.
I wasn't saying the miscarriage was Mistress' fault so I suppose I worded that poorly. What I was trying to convey is that Mistress has a long history of health issues and her body has been stressed for a long time for this and that reason. While emotional distress can create a situation for miscarriage, to blame that solely on the actions of one other person is a shitty thing to do.
you’re not wrong she’s cheating on you and tried to gaslight you and say it’s normal, it’s not normal. run run run
“She has been throwing up and barely able to hold down food”
Doctors haven't given her a glucose iv???
“She keeps getting denied disability because they do not believe her.”
Huh? You have to explain this one some-more.