He can’t be soooo concerned about your safety that you can’t go and in the breathe utter a threat to leave. That’s not logical. Call his bluff, go, show him you’re safe, and set the standard this is normal. He can accept it and work on his insecurities or not. If not, you’re better off.
When you realise you want different things in life it is probably best to just end it. He will not change and neither will you. You have a right to discuss things like that, don’t excuse him, he is a grown man and should be able to have conversations about these topics regardless of his views. For me, the biggest red flag was when he said you’re “blackmailing” him. No man, you need to talk about this so if your views are different you can end it and move on and not waste more time.
well let’s see, you made out with someone else and texted your boys about it in a group chat, chances are your vibes have been off, she picked up on it and got suspicious and thats why she went through your phone. it’s a violation of privacy and you have a right to be upset about that, sure, but she clearly had valid suspicions. play stupid games, win stupid prizes. don’t cheat next time
Take this with a grain of salt (no ill will intended) – fortune smiled upon you by you not being able to have a baby with this clod of a husband that did that to you back then (and is still pushing for it now).
So there's clearly a lot more going on than what is in your post. Is he expecting you to pay for things that are expensive for him?
He can’t be soooo concerned about your safety that you can’t go and in the breathe utter a threat to leave. That’s not logical. Call his bluff, go, show him you’re safe, and set the standard this is normal. He can accept it and work on his insecurities or not. If not, you’re better off.
When you realise you want different things in life it is probably best to just end it. He will not change and neither will you. You have a right to discuss things like that, don’t excuse him, he is a grown man and should be able to have conversations about these topics regardless of his views. For me, the biggest red flag was when he said you’re “blackmailing” him. No man, you need to talk about this so if your views are different you can end it and move on and not waste more time.
I was on it and it helped mildly, you seem to be focused on how she looks and not feels.
While I understand preferences and whatnot, women are at most chance to gain and have body changes as we age due to child birth and other factors.
If you’re worried about two years rn, I feel for her for how you may be due to her carrying your child.
You don’t sound like a bad person but you should come about it in regards of being concerned for her health not how she looks.
well let’s see, you made out with someone else and texted your boys about it in a group chat, chances are your vibes have been off, she picked up on it and got suspicious and thats why she went through your phone. it’s a violation of privacy and you have a right to be upset about that, sure, but she clearly had valid suspicions. play stupid games, win stupid prizes. don’t cheat next time
He's got his own life. It probably has nothing to do with you,
Just let her go. Do you really want to spend your life with someone this crazy?
This is the best advice. OP needs to run, now.
Take this with a grain of salt (no ill will intended) – fortune smiled upon you by you not being able to have a baby with this clod of a husband that did that to you back then (and is still pushing for it now).
My wife didn't take my last name for over a decade of being married because….who gives a shit?
We got around to it eventually, but I can't imagine this being a deal breaker for anyone.