This is 100% a control issue. Whether he didn’t want you hearing what he was saying or doing in his game room or whether he needs to be in on everything you do, and changes in plans really upset him – either way it’s not okay. The name calling is abuse. The over reaction is frightening. I’m worried he could escalate.
I’m autistic. A change in plans makes me irrationally upset. Like to a level I don’t get upset about anything else. And I never name call. I might say “I don’t like that change because I feel x.” And then maybe go nap to calm down and then I’m okay. Or I’ll get quiet and it sounds like I’m angry because I sort of stone wall. I keep my answers short and concise. “Yup. Okay. Yeah. Have fun. See ya.” That sort of thing. But I do calm down easily and typically am fine (like if he had plans to be home with me at night but then decided to get drinks with friends instead – I get upset. Nap while he’s gone. And I’m fine once he’s home. He knows to go whether I’m upset or not because it has nothing to do with him. It’s 100% a me issue. I’m mad at the change in plans but recognize he has every right to see his friends occasionally for some beers lol. But if it’s a change like he said he was going to play video games but took a nap instead or vice versa – I might be a little peeved he napped without me but that’s about it.)
So this is advice coming from someone who has experience in having a hard time with a change in plans. This was over the top, irrational and not at all appropriate. It sounds like he may have other issues going on. And that can be dangerous – especially if you’re a people pleaser. I’m the last person to tel anyone on the internet to break up with their partners. But this requires therapy at the very least. For him. If he starts to use therapy to manipulate you further – get out. He’s dangerous.
The only people I know of that ask for an open relationship are not actually polyamorous, they are just chickenshits and don't have the guts to end it.
Polyamory is a myth, it's as impossible to have two soulmates at the same time as it is for a man to eat his own head.
She just wanted some dick
There’s no good way. Just suck it up and make space on the wall.
This is 100% a control issue. Whether he didn’t want you hearing what he was saying or doing in his game room or whether he needs to be in on everything you do, and changes in plans really upset him – either way it’s not okay. The name calling is abuse. The over reaction is frightening. I’m worried he could escalate.
I’m autistic. A change in plans makes me irrationally upset. Like to a level I don’t get upset about anything else. And I never name call. I might say “I don’t like that change because I feel x.” And then maybe go nap to calm down and then I’m okay. Or I’ll get quiet and it sounds like I’m angry because I sort of stone wall. I keep my answers short and concise. “Yup. Okay. Yeah. Have fun. See ya.” That sort of thing. But I do calm down easily and typically am fine (like if he had plans to be home with me at night but then decided to get drinks with friends instead – I get upset. Nap while he’s gone. And I’m fine once he’s home. He knows to go whether I’m upset or not because it has nothing to do with him. It’s 100% a me issue. I’m mad at the change in plans but recognize he has every right to see his friends occasionally for some beers lol. But if it’s a change like he said he was going to play video games but took a nap instead or vice versa – I might be a little peeved he napped without me but that’s about it.)
So this is advice coming from someone who has experience in having a hard time with a change in plans. This was over the top, irrational and not at all appropriate. It sounds like he may have other issues going on. And that can be dangerous – especially if you’re a people pleaser. I’m the last person to tel anyone on the internet to break up with their partners. But this requires therapy at the very least. For him. If he starts to use therapy to manipulate you further – get out. He’s dangerous.
Well, living together on weekends is not the same.
The only people I know of that ask for an open relationship are not actually polyamorous, they are just chickenshits and don't have the guts to end it.
Polyamory is a myth, it's as impossible to have two soulmates at the same time as it is for a man to eat his own head.
Don't guess. Ask him to explain his thinking.
If you are wondering something ask followup questions to clarify.
Why did you have a child with this person?