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You’re 21 years old and have been dating since high school. I think it’s very likely that, if you break up, you’ll eventually meet the actual love of your life and will look back on this as young love that you outgrew.
Why have you normalized this kind of relationship? It’s not love. But somewhere down the line, you were taught that this is what love is supposed to be like.
You deserve better. Don’t stay with people who don’t bring you joy, or make you feel undervalued. You are important. You are worthy. You are necessary. You are lovable.
My god man its time to move on. You have wasted 3 years of your life on this girl. Do you really want to make it 20 before you wake up?
She is clearly not a housewife nor has much ambition it seems. If you want wife material you need someone who was raised to be one. Watch how her mom acts.
It sounds like your friend is sending you mixed signals, which is leading to confusion and frustration. While it can sometimes be tempting to explore a romantic relationship with an old flame, it’s best to stick with being friends right now. It's important that you respect the boundaries of her current relationship and not let yourself get confused or overwhelmed by unclear messages. Take the time to talk openly and honestly with your friend about what she wants from the relationship going forward. Ultimately, if things don't work out in her current relationship it would be better for both of you if all parties are honest about their feelings at that point rather than risking confusing emotions now or later on down the road.
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No side private friendships? My boyfriend shouldn’t be tight with everyone I’m tight with? If he told me I would understand, honestly, I’m okay with him seeing female friends
You should be angry with him when he blows off your accomplishments or enthusiasm. He's crushing your light with his pessimism. He needs to do better, and next time he makes you feel down, you should call him on it. This isn't how you support your partner, and that needs to be his priority, making you happy, not expressing his inner sad boy.
You are married to an idiot who hasn’t thought this through. Nor, I imagine, would want all of his friends, family, and children to know of his “harmless” request. He wants you to prove you aren’t hiding anything, while he absolutely would hide his request.
Fortunately, you are both young. There is hope to de-idiot up until about age 30.
I think you need to give more information. In general, I agree this is fair. However, it also depends on how often one of you cooks, and the preference for doing the dishes vs. cooking. If you both want to cook and not to do the dishes, then you might need to find a different solution.
I think it's a boundary issue than the normal cliche advise he's insecure. Its a deal breaker for me if come to know that my current gf had been with anyone of my friends. Whether I'm friends or no longer friends is not the issue but the fact my friend saw my gf very hot is a big issue. Men are visual creatures the image kind is etched on the brain. Break it off and go back to being friends or if you can't do that go separate ways.
for starters, you NEED to communicate with her about your feelings. my GF talks about her past and i’m completely okay with that and i told her that from the start. she doesn’t bring it up every day or even every week. but she had a shit relationship and if my gf wants to talk about it it’s completely fine for me. that’s just some insight for you.
but again you need to talk to her man, let her know wats going on but do it your own way if you need to. you are allowed to down play or be vague about your feelings as long as it gets your point across.
you’re young, this is your frost serious relationship. more good will come from venting some things to her then bad. just say “hey, you bring up your past a lot, would you mind just taking it down a notch? i’m okay with you talking about it but it feels like it’s a bit to frequent and i’m feeling some type of way about it”.
if this is a problem for you partner then they aren’t for you man. you need to be accepted and appreciated. you aren’t a door mat.
What good would come of telling your gf this exactly? They're just thoughts, either smack yourself in the face and cut the shit or breakup with your girl. Telling her does absolutely no good and serves no purpose.
He did try to make it work and i won't discredit that. He also couldn't have known the outcome or known how his feelings were going to change but it still stings, i'm valid in how i feel.
My family may be the minority but not too long ago men were courting women and they never lived together, it was unheard of. True love can get through anything. I thought we could get through this, I was wrong.
He was my whole life in the sense of being the only person I was okay sharing my life with. What is life if you have no one to share it with? Growing up in a culture that values collectivism over individualism teaches you a lot. I'm not ashamed to say that. But yes, you're right. I did have my own life and so did he but at the end of the day it felt like we came together and became one.
I can appreciate the sentiment but… you said yourself you always keep hoping and it never does so… you have to take care of yourself man. Draw the line somewhere just mean it.
They’re likely referring to the paid tuition that OP did not get (OP had to pay their own tuition.) For some, that kind of gift is a love language and is considered affectionate.
Doesn't sound like rape, your not moving hands and saying yes if you're asleep. Sounds like she regretted it or felt ashamed or something else. She clearly gave concent multiple times according to you. That's really weird.
And THIS man says he isn’t getting what he needs from you? Sister, no. He is taking and taking from you and yet believes he deserves more, while giving you ….. what?? You are better off without this man who is clearly taking advantage of you. I’m so sorry you have to deal with this, especially while having a baby who isn’t even a year old. He is a terrible partner to you.
I’m asking specifically for a google pixel since he says they bombard him with notifications like this so I’m wondering if it operates differently than an iPhone in that way.
This is not the way an emotionally healthy 27yo woman reacts.
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The fact you still want to be with her means you're not alright in the head either.
If you stay with her this will continue and likely get worse over time. Maybe one day you won't even be able to have a casual conversation with a friendly stranger because of her.
Flowers is overboard. If you choose to apologize write it out or call. That is sufficient. Work hot to be clear that you aren't looking to get back together, but she didn't deserve to get ghosted on.
And omg his edits. He’s now agreeing to fold the couch blankets at night. That’s not even a chore! I hoped he would clue in after reading people’s responses, but he is stubbornly oblivious and insufferable.
What? Where are you finding yourself where people tell you she’s fat? People most often don’t have the balls to say negative shit about a person to their face so how are you having people tell you your missus is fat without knowing she’s actually with you?
Buddy, she is wasting your time and you are wasting hers.
Your goals are different in life and you shouldn't be treated like her cash cow.
That said, suggest to her that she go spend a couple of weeks during summer break in Korea to see if she likes it as much as she thinks she will. No one ever really thinks cultures are as different as they actually are until they online in another place.
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What are you even here for then OP? Just keep making your excuses for your liar girlfriend and go be oh so shocked and devastated when in six months you find out she is still talking to this guy and lying behind your back still ffs.
I was in a similar situation with my ex. Where I provided for years, so that he could get his act together. Meaning that he would find his place in this world, a job that he likes and would be able to hold. When he got that and I was starting to fall to pieces, because of all the load, financial, household and being subjected to his narcissism. He left me, took most stuff and made me start from square one. I had the luck of my mentor/ job father being there for me. He just got ghosted by his roomate and I needed a place. Best decision I ever made. He made me realise what any relationship should be. Friend or lovers. He was there for me and I for him. Like friends, but still it showed me that what I had with my ex was abusive. Don't wait 8 years like me to realise.
Find a man who puts as much effort into you as you do to them. This guy isn’t it, clearly, he’s treating you like a fleshlight. Does he even make the drive to yours or do you always go to his place?
You’re 21 years old and have been dating since high school. I think it’s very likely that, if you break up, you’ll eventually meet the actual love of your life and will look back on this as young love that you outgrew.
Why have you normalized this kind of relationship? It’s not love. But somewhere down the line, you were taught that this is what love is supposed to be like.
You deserve better. Don’t stay with people who don’t bring you joy, or make you feel undervalued. You are important. You are worthy. You are necessary. You are lovable.
My god man its time to move on. You have wasted 3 years of your life on this girl. Do you really want to make it 20 before you wake up?
She is clearly not a housewife nor has much ambition it seems. If you want wife material you need someone who was raised to be one. Watch how her mom acts.
You need to have a talk to her be kind but tell her she’s making you uncomfortable
Put the energy back into yourself 🙂 independence and confidence are more attractive than a pretty face.
It sounds like your friend is sending you mixed signals, which is leading to confusion and frustration. While it can sometimes be tempting to explore a romantic relationship with an old flame, it’s best to stick with being friends right now. It's important that you respect the boundaries of her current relationship and not let yourself get confused or overwhelmed by unclear messages. Take the time to talk openly and honestly with your friend about what she wants from the relationship going forward. Ultimately, if things don't work out in her current relationship it would be better for both of you if all parties are honest about their feelings at that point rather than risking confusing emotions now or later on down the road.
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Marginally.
Besides, OP can make up for it by doing a bit more housework with his spare time.
These are work expenses – if OP needed to buy tools to work, should his wife also pay half of them?
I'm sorry but this is unacceptable.
No side private friendships? My boyfriend shouldn’t be tight with everyone I’m tight with? If he told me I would understand, honestly, I’m okay with him seeing female friends
I would say it’s not worth it to talk to them about it, because they will just invalidate your feelings.
But it did happen, your feelings are valid, and you should protect your family of choice from your awful sister.
I know I messed up, I am looking to set things right now. But I don't know how
You should be angry with him when he blows off your accomplishments or enthusiasm. He's crushing your light with his pessimism. He needs to do better, and next time he makes you feel down, you should call him on it. This isn't how you support your partner, and that needs to be his priority, making you happy, not expressing his inner sad boy.
You're only 24, don't let him drag you down.
Crikey the baby hasn’t even been born yet.
You are married to an idiot who hasn’t thought this through. Nor, I imagine, would want all of his friends, family, and children to know of his “harmless” request. He wants you to prove you aren’t hiding anything, while he absolutely would hide his request.
Fortunately, you are both young. There is hope to de-idiot up until about age 30.
I think you need to give more information. In general, I agree this is fair. However, it also depends on how often one of you cooks, and the preference for doing the dishes vs. cooking. If you both want to cook and not to do the dishes, then you might need to find a different solution.
Do you communicate that you need to be taught?
I think it's a boundary issue than the normal cliche advise he's insecure. Its a deal breaker for me if come to know that my current gf had been with anyone of my friends. Whether I'm friends or no longer friends is not the issue but the fact my friend saw my gf very hot is a big issue. Men are visual creatures the image kind is etched on the brain. Break it off and go back to being friends or if you can't do that go separate ways.
for starters, you NEED to communicate with her about your feelings. my GF talks about her past and i’m completely okay with that and i told her that from the start. she doesn’t bring it up every day or even every week. but she had a shit relationship and if my gf wants to talk about it it’s completely fine for me. that’s just some insight for you.
but again you need to talk to her man, let her know wats going on but do it your own way if you need to. you are allowed to down play or be vague about your feelings as long as it gets your point across.
you’re young, this is your frost serious relationship. more good will come from venting some things to her then bad. just say “hey, you bring up your past a lot, would you mind just taking it down a notch? i’m okay with you talking about it but it feels like it’s a bit to frequent and i’m feeling some type of way about it”.
if this is a problem for you partner then they aren’t for you man. you need to be accepted and appreciated. you aren’t a door mat.
Girl they have been hooking up from before
What good would come of telling your gf this exactly? They're just thoughts, either smack yourself in the face and cut the shit or breakup with your girl. Telling her does absolutely no good and serves no purpose.
He did try to make it work and i won't discredit that. He also couldn't have known the outcome or known how his feelings were going to change but it still stings, i'm valid in how i feel.
My family may be the minority but not too long ago men were courting women and they never lived together, it was unheard of. True love can get through anything. I thought we could get through this, I was wrong.
He was my whole life in the sense of being the only person I was okay sharing my life with. What is life if you have no one to share it with? Growing up in a culture that values collectivism over individualism teaches you a lot. I'm not ashamed to say that. But yes, you're right. I did have my own life and so did he but at the end of the day it felt like we came together and became one.
Thank you. It is time I do that. But I'm never loving anyone ever again after this. I'm done with relationships in this lifetime. I'm drained..
I can appreciate the sentiment but… you said yourself you always keep hoping and it never does so… you have to take care of yourself man. Draw the line somewhere just mean it.
They’re likely referring to the paid tuition that OP did not get (OP had to pay their own tuition.) For some, that kind of gift is a love language and is considered affectionate.
Doesn't sound like rape, your not moving hands and saying yes if you're asleep. Sounds like she regretted it or felt ashamed or something else. She clearly gave concent multiple times according to you. That's really weird.
And THIS man says he isn’t getting what he needs from you? Sister, no. He is taking and taking from you and yet believes he deserves more, while giving you ….. what?? You are better off without this man who is clearly taking advantage of you. I’m so sorry you have to deal with this, especially while having a baby who isn’t even a year old. He is a terrible partner to you.
I’m asking specifically for a google pixel since he says they bombard him with notifications like this so I’m wondering if it operates differently than an iPhone in that way.
This is not the way an emotionally healthy 27yo woman reacts.
There's no nice way to say this next part:
The fact you still want to be with her means you're not alright in the head either.
If you stay with her this will continue and likely get worse over time. Maybe one day you won't even be able to have a casual conversation with a friendly stranger because of her.
Flowers is overboard. If you choose to apologize write it out or call. That is sufficient. Work hot to be clear that you aren't looking to get back together, but she didn't deserve to get ghosted on.
You know what's also not ok? Not shutting up when you see a gun pointed at you because of your ego.
You think, he thinks he's not worthy of love, so he'd rather push you away and sabotage everything so he can see the end coming, even if he causes it?
Sorry, that was kind of a deep question…
And omg his edits. He’s now agreeing to fold the couch blankets at night. That’s not even a chore! I hoped he would clue in after reading people’s responses, but he is stubbornly oblivious and insufferable.
Especially since he's the last one out the house too. Why should the gf be making the bed when she gets home!?
What? Where are you finding yourself where people tell you she’s fat? People most often don’t have the balls to say negative shit about a person to their face so how are you having people tell you your missus is fat without knowing she’s actually with you?
Buddy, she is wasting your time and you are wasting hers.
Your goals are different in life and you shouldn't be treated like her cash cow.
That said, suggest to her that she go spend a couple of weeks during summer break in Korea to see if she likes it as much as she thinks she will. No one ever really thinks cultures are as different as they actually are until they online in another place.
Wait, how is this different from the first time you committed to him? Were you secretly planning to cheat before? No. It’s no different.
Nothing
He has a phobia and you’re not the person that can help him
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Is this an arranged marriage?
What are you even here for then OP? Just keep making your excuses for your liar girlfriend and go be oh so shocked and devastated when in six months you find out she is still talking to this guy and lying behind your back still ffs.
I was in a similar situation with my ex. Where I provided for years, so that he could get his act together. Meaning that he would find his place in this world, a job that he likes and would be able to hold. When he got that and I was starting to fall to pieces, because of all the load, financial, household and being subjected to his narcissism. He left me, took most stuff and made me start from square one. I had the luck of my mentor/ job father being there for me. He just got ghosted by his roomate and I needed a place. Best decision I ever made. He made me realise what any relationship should be. Friend or lovers. He was there for me and I for him. Like friends, but still it showed me that what I had with my ex was abusive. Don't wait 8 years like me to realise.
Find a man who puts as much effort into you as you do to them. This guy isn’t it, clearly, he’s treating you like a fleshlight. Does he even make the drive to yours or do you always go to his place?