You don’t have the time for a relationship. Relationships mean spending time together and doing things. Do her a favour and break up since you don’t have time for her.
Ah I see. I think I was so focused on finding someone religious that I stepped outside the community when I felt a connection to talk to him and see where this goes, so in my head I made it into a religious thing when in fact it is more of a personality difference.
Op listen to this. Go for your wife’s sake. I would tell her beforehand that you are going for her. However, if things get heated you will bow out. Stay in the background and If her dad starts in on you, let your wife know and that you will come back to pick her up. This way you tried your best.
I was going to say, based on title, reading everything. Op has major resentment and is letting things build up in this narrative that this person is the villian, when Op CLEARLY never once asked this friend when she can come to Spain.
Eight years never once asked her and kept assuming she doesn’t have to SPEAK UP to get what she wants out of the friendship… like spending quality time.
Figure out how to move away to a place that you can live work and study on your own. Or abandon pre-med and go live your life away from your father. Or marry her. Those are really your old 3 choices.
Wtf are you even talking about. This isn’t to highlight me because who tf does that but I have opened his eyes about his mom’s abuse and his option to go NC. I have gotten him a stable job where he doesn’t have to depend on anyone trying to use him for sexual favors and keeping his money when he didn’t provide. I have given him a place to live, fed him when he couldn’t afford a meal. I’ve been there to listen when he wanted to talk about his traumas and the horrible things he’s gone through. I have helped in his documentation process where I knew how and I am now helping look for an affordable lawyer and looking for where I can help without holding his hand and doing it for him to respect him being an adult and boundaries. The only reason I got jealous of the ex was because he was going to his house without telling me which I later found out and felt uncomfortable with, but once I understood the sponsor situation and met how the ex is I backed off for his sake. I have helped him get back on his feet and I have been very patient. I have been a partner. Don’t speak where you don’t know.
Honestly lol. I was once in a similar position as far as the work schedule goes. It was either I work the shift or I lose the job. And when you've hit that 5th day in a row of 12 hours a day, you're going to be EXHAUSTED. I did that for months and was about ready to kill myself before I ended up quitting. So I really feel for the guy in this case. If this household is as bad as OP makes it out to be, they need to hire someone to help clean or something.
Yeah.. well it’s becoming more apparent now. Thanks for your feedback ❤️
You don’t have the time for a relationship. Relationships mean spending time together and doing things. Do her a favour and break up since you don’t have time for her.
Ah I see. I think I was so focused on finding someone religious that I stepped outside the community when I felt a connection to talk to him and see where this goes, so in my head I made it into a religious thing when in fact it is more of a personality difference.
Op listen to this. Go for your wife’s sake. I would tell her beforehand that you are going for her. However, if things get heated you will bow out. Stay in the background and If her dad starts in on you, let your wife know and that you will come back to pick her up. This way you tried your best.
I will try that but idk how it would go.
Your husband is also your support system, as he is working a job to pay for your lifestyle.
Is her employer actively trying to get sued?
The dude is only looking for someone to do the trauma dumping as he lost his mother and father.
The talk about how his eyes were open were just a talk because otherwise he wouldn't say the b-word line.
Fuck that guy… He has only himself to blame.
A 32 year old man and a 22 year old? And now this? Tale as old as time.
I was going to say, based on title, reading everything. Op has major resentment and is letting things build up in this narrative that this person is the villian, when Op CLEARLY never once asked this friend when she can come to Spain.
Eight years never once asked her and kept assuming she doesn’t have to SPEAK UP to get what she wants out of the friendship… like spending quality time.
He was communicating that he didn't want to be with you by breaking up with you.
35, recently rewatched Dawson creek and loved every minute
Figure out how to move away to a place that you can live work and study on your own. Or abandon pre-med and go live your life away from your father. Or marry her. Those are really your old 3 choices.
Get a life.
Bro wtfffffffff
Wtf are you even talking about. This isn’t to highlight me because who tf does that but I have opened his eyes about his mom’s abuse and his option to go NC. I have gotten him a stable job where he doesn’t have to depend on anyone trying to use him for sexual favors and keeping his money when he didn’t provide. I have given him a place to live, fed him when he couldn’t afford a meal. I’ve been there to listen when he wanted to talk about his traumas and the horrible things he’s gone through. I have helped in his documentation process where I knew how and I am now helping look for an affordable lawyer and looking for where I can help without holding his hand and doing it for him to respect him being an adult and boundaries. The only reason I got jealous of the ex was because he was going to his house without telling me which I later found out and felt uncomfortable with, but once I understood the sponsor situation and met how the ex is I backed off for his sake. I have helped him get back on his feet and I have been very patient. I have been a partner. Don’t speak where you don’t know.
Honestly lol. I was once in a similar position as far as the work schedule goes. It was either I work the shift or I lose the job. And when you've hit that 5th day in a row of 12 hours a day, you're going to be EXHAUSTED. I did that for months and was about ready to kill myself before I ended up quitting. So I really feel for the guy in this case. If this household is as bad as OP makes it out to be, they need to hire someone to help clean or something.