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You’re not an idiot. An idiot would stay and ask “how do I get someone pushing 50 to get a whole new personality?”
If it is possible and will make you feel better, return the gifts, I guess? If he just wants you to reimburse him for dinners or something then block him.
Oh, my God… What is this BS? If this is what she said, you are not even taken as a joke. You don't need someone like her in your neighborhood and definitely not in your life!
Can you go on a family trip together? Something to change up the normal rhythms and force some interaction? It might be worth trying before anything more drastic. She sounds depressed but weed/social media is like the worst thing for that.
It sounds like something is going on between them or she's being harassed and putting her in an uncomfortable situation where she can't say no. You need a full on conversation about it and what she's going to do about it but this also depends on if you can trust her to be honest otherwise and do something or ends up with you guys breaking up
I’m a retired LEO and I can tell you that if he’s found out and there is CP on y’all devices y’all will go to jail. If it’s on a shared computer whoever shares it could be arrested unless he confesses to it. Few admit it and let others be arrested also. If it’s on his devices alone he’ll be arrested. If it’s on shared devices but they only find it on his devices then only he will be arrested.
This is very serious. This isn’t just fantasy. If he’s watching it someone made kids do it and do it to them. He enjoys watching kids. “It’s not CP if they’re not doing anything sexual “. So what he’s saying is either he’s just looking at 12yo girls pics while masturbating and fantasizing , the video shows kids watching adults have sex etc.
No matter his reasoning this is very disturbing. If you have kids I’d leave w them immediately. If you have nieces & nephews I’d keep them far away. If you have friends who have kids , keep them away from him. Because in my experience as a LEO they go from imagining & fantasy to the real thing fairly quickly. Once they do the real thing they can’t stop.
I’d even go as far as saying he has tons of nude pic & videos of kids stored to look at while he masturbates. They all do. And if he’s arrested he’ll be charged for each individual picture.
I know you love him but this can not be overlooked. Every child around y’all could be in danger if he moves from porn to reality. Not only those close to you but any child. I’ve seen some very sick & twisted people try to rationalize doing this to kids. I’ve had to interview these poor kids after these people have hurt them and it’s devastating. Then the offenders truly don’t think they did anything wrong especially their family.
You must turn him in to police. Because at this point you know about what he’s doing. If he’s caught later on by chance or he screws up and tried to meet them and it turns out to be a police sting and they find out you’ve known and did nothing you could be charged as well.
It’s messed up all around. But you have to realize that this porn only exists because people watch it. The more people watch it the more has to be made. The more made the more money they make. So he’s contributing to kids being in these videos / pictures.
It’s up to you now. Either do nothing and let him continue and just hope he isn’t caught or moves on to reality or turn him in. It’s in your hands now.
Then it should only be a matter of reassurance and time. Don’t listen to people who’ll say her emotions are invalid. It’s your relationship and you clearly care about her. Prove you are trustworthy and just give her reassurance whenever she needs it for a while. And discuss. Discuss as often as needed for the two of you.
Well, to be completely honest, they wouldn't let me post this until I put some numbers there, but judging from his looks, he should be around that or my age.
That's “possible”… But it also sounds like a lot of assumptions and projection. Maybe he was needing to cut ties from social media due to their issues for actual productive reasons? My health benefited from cutting ties to FB/IG Doesn't mean I cut ties to everyone and everything… Your extreme view on this may be limiting your view of the negatives from too much consumption.
I just made a suggestion since we all have different life experiences… But you responded with an absolute. Unless you are part of the family to know certain insights… You should try to give people the benefit of the doubt vs just calling someone “sick/unreasonable”… When your assumptions are potentially “unreasonable”.
If she chooses to, just like you, yes. It's not an innate thing, monogamy. It's something that requires love, trust, and restraint. It shows who honestly loves you and who just loves that you love them and won't leave. So, if it's a choice, you could also grow tired of this relationship, especially if you don't have the experiences that exist. She doesn't know that. She's trusting you. I think if she doesn't know you feel this way, better hope she doesn't find out. It sucks loving and trusting someone just to find out you weren't held in the same regard.
It definitely doesn’t help when you’re dating someone that’s absolutely gorgeous and you know for sure many men would go to great lengths to be with them.
As someone who fought with their partner (and vice versa) constantly after having a few drinks regularly, quitting saved my relationships. It took both of us doing it for it to work though, and it was never seemingly problematic drinking, just social drinking. It was a bigger problem than I/he suspected.
That aside, if you are passing out and can’t remember why you’re on the floor who is to say you didn’t do anything with the coworker or cross a boundary. You can’t be trusted to stay functional while drinking so who would trust you to uphold these other boundaries.
Hiding anything from a partner is usually rooted in shame or fear or a combo of both. You need to deal with that and work through these underlying reasons you’re omitting info from convos with your partner.
I know it was horrible for her, that situation with her parents. I think my biggest regret is that i was to young to be patient about that and her development in expessing feelings. But i was young to and nkt mature enough.
Why did we break up? Would you be with a person who had two girlfriends at the same time for a few years?
How could you trust me ever again? To be completly honest, we did get back together after she found out bud she did things to attentionally hurt me. Then we broke up.
Tell her that you have had time to reflect on the situation.
(This will make her happy)
Then you tell her that your reflection has shown you that she was controlling and abusive in the relationship, and that you are happy she broke up with her as it allowed you to see her for the toxic human she is.
Then walk away, happy that you have crushed her completely.
Tell her to go stay with Tom. She didn't give you any thought or care when she was cheating on you so she's not your problem. She has no respect for you, she cheated on you & lied about it constantly. She's a tough cookie & she'll survive, cheaters & liars always do.
She does have a child with that POS. The child died, that doesn’t mean she doesn’t exist.
I understand your point, and OP does also, but people acting like your child doesn’t exist because they died at birth feels honestly just as abusive as the POS stuff he does to her regularly already.
The spreadsheet is for the financials. Just to document the actual numbers and show that OP is trying to spend within their means and not just arbitrarily being a tightwad.
I’m not sure I understand your point. The issue here is financial. Showing data and budget demonstrates she’s not being cheap, she’s just genuinely poor. This can then be a springboard for further discussion so they can either get on the same page about finances or part ways. Spreadsheets don’t work for all relationship issues but they are great when discussing finances.
Thanks! This is good advice. She like me as a companion but I don’t feel comfortable anymore with her. I will try going to the gym alone or perhaps find another one.
You’ve got one more reason to leave this narcissist. He’s using escorts. You checked the phone because something in your head told you he was off. I love situations like these when the cheater turns the responsibility for the problem on the snooper and completely runs the train off the tracks to stop you from focusing on the cheating. Of the two offenses, cheating with prostitutes is most definitely the worst.
You’re not an idiot. An idiot would stay and ask “how do I get someone pushing 50 to get a whole new personality?”
If it is possible and will make you feel better, return the gifts, I guess? If he just wants you to reimburse him for dinners or something then block him.
Oh, my God… What is this BS? If this is what she said, you are not even taken as a joke. You don't need someone like her in your neighborhood and definitely not in your life!
End it. Now!
Can you go on a family trip together? Something to change up the normal rhythms and force some interaction? It might be worth trying before anything more drastic. She sounds depressed but weed/social media is like the worst thing for that.
This situation is above them apparently according to her answer ???
It sounds like something is going on between them or she's being harassed and putting her in an uncomfortable situation where she can't say no. You need a full on conversation about it and what she's going to do about it but this also depends on if you can trust her to be honest otherwise and do something or ends up with you guys breaking up
I’m a retired LEO and I can tell you that if he’s found out and there is CP on y’all devices y’all will go to jail. If it’s on a shared computer whoever shares it could be arrested unless he confesses to it. Few admit it and let others be arrested also. If it’s on his devices alone he’ll be arrested. If it’s on shared devices but they only find it on his devices then only he will be arrested.
This is very serious. This isn’t just fantasy. If he’s watching it someone made kids do it and do it to them. He enjoys watching kids. “It’s not CP if they’re not doing anything sexual “. So what he’s saying is either he’s just looking at 12yo girls pics while masturbating and fantasizing , the video shows kids watching adults have sex etc.
No matter his reasoning this is very disturbing. If you have kids I’d leave w them immediately. If you have nieces & nephews I’d keep them far away. If you have friends who have kids , keep them away from him. Because in my experience as a LEO they go from imagining & fantasy to the real thing fairly quickly. Once they do the real thing they can’t stop.
I’d even go as far as saying he has tons of nude pic & videos of kids stored to look at while he masturbates. They all do. And if he’s arrested he’ll be charged for each individual picture.
I know you love him but this can not be overlooked. Every child around y’all could be in danger if he moves from porn to reality. Not only those close to you but any child. I’ve seen some very sick & twisted people try to rationalize doing this to kids. I’ve had to interview these poor kids after these people have hurt them and it’s devastating. Then the offenders truly don’t think they did anything wrong especially their family.
You must turn him in to police. Because at this point you know about what he’s doing. If he’s caught later on by chance or he screws up and tried to meet them and it turns out to be a police sting and they find out you’ve known and did nothing you could be charged as well.
It’s messed up all around. But you have to realize that this porn only exists because people watch it. The more people watch it the more has to be made. The more made the more money they make. So he’s contributing to kids being in these videos / pictures.
It’s up to you now. Either do nothing and let him continue and just hope he isn’t caught or moves on to reality or turn him in. It’s in your hands now.
Inappropriate relationship with boss. Time to compare notes with his wife. Go HR. He is grooming her.
Your whole post history is one big YIKES!!
You’re very welcome! Good luck with everything ?
You’re very welcome! Good luck with everything ?
You’re very welcome! Good luck with everything ?
Then it should only be a matter of reassurance and time. Don’t listen to people who’ll say her emotions are invalid. It’s your relationship and you clearly care about her. Prove you are trustworthy and just give her reassurance whenever she needs it for a while. And discuss. Discuss as often as needed for the two of you.
Huh???
Well, to be completely honest, they wouldn't let me post this until I put some numbers there, but judging from his looks, he should be around that or my age.
That's “possible”… But it also sounds like a lot of assumptions and projection. Maybe he was needing to cut ties from social media due to their issues for actual productive reasons? My health benefited from cutting ties to FB/IG Doesn't mean I cut ties to everyone and everything… Your extreme view on this may be limiting your view of the negatives from too much consumption.
I just made a suggestion since we all have different life experiences… But you responded with an absolute. Unless you are part of the family to know certain insights… You should try to give people the benefit of the doubt vs just calling someone “sick/unreasonable”… When your assumptions are potentially “unreasonable”.
If she chooses to, just like you, yes. It's not an innate thing, monogamy. It's something that requires love, trust, and restraint. It shows who honestly loves you and who just loves that you love them and won't leave. So, if it's a choice, you could also grow tired of this relationship, especially if you don't have the experiences that exist. She doesn't know that. She's trusting you. I think if she doesn't know you feel this way, better hope she doesn't find out. It sucks loving and trusting someone just to find out you weren't held in the same regard.
It definitely doesn’t help when you’re dating someone that’s absolutely gorgeous and you know for sure many men would go to great lengths to be with them.
I get that man will see what happens plan to talk to her about it again at some point, might hear a cheeky update who knows
That's too small a place for two people. You have my sympathy.
As someone who fought with their partner (and vice versa) constantly after having a few drinks regularly, quitting saved my relationships. It took both of us doing it for it to work though, and it was never seemingly problematic drinking, just social drinking. It was a bigger problem than I/he suspected.
That aside, if you are passing out and can’t remember why you’re on the floor who is to say you didn’t do anything with the coworker or cross a boundary. You can’t be trusted to stay functional while drinking so who would trust you to uphold these other boundaries.
Hiding anything from a partner is usually rooted in shame or fear or a combo of both. You need to deal with that and work through these underlying reasons you’re omitting info from convos with your partner.
Ask her if she is interested or not. She needs to tell you yes or no. If no, back away.
Yeah you are not ready to get married. You desperately need grief therapy, though.
Why? ur putting more pressure on it. If she isn’t then she isn’t. Leave it be.
Like calm tf down
His gf found out.
I know it was horrible for her, that situation with her parents. I think my biggest regret is that i was to young to be patient about that and her development in expessing feelings. But i was young to and nkt mature enough.
Why did we break up? Would you be with a person who had two girlfriends at the same time for a few years?
How could you trust me ever again? To be completly honest, we did get back together after she found out bud she did things to attentionally hurt me. Then we broke up.
Tell her that you have had time to reflect on the situation.
(This will make her happy)
Then you tell her that your reflection has shown you that she was controlling and abusive in the relationship, and that you are happy she broke up with her as it allowed you to see her for the toxic human she is.
Then walk away, happy that you have crushed her completely.
Never works bruh. Run
This guy is abusing her and she's miserable.
There's no good outcome here. He keeps hurting her until she finally decides to leave.
You are her backup plan! Don't marry a cheater!
Tell her to go stay with Tom. She didn't give you any thought or care when she was cheating on you so she's not your problem. She has no respect for you, she cheated on you & lied about it constantly. She's a tough cookie & she'll survive, cheaters & liars always do.
Which I’ve always thought, but my parents have told me “the baby might change his/youre mind” lol
Leave and let her rot in her misery. You can be happy again uce.
Your wife might be unhappy with the life arrangement situation and subconsciously punishing you for it.
Just directly and gently ask her about this.
girl it doesn't have to be the actual gate but he can still say goodbye at the airport
She does have a child with that POS. The child died, that doesn’t mean she doesn’t exist.
I understand your point, and OP does also, but people acting like your child doesn’t exist because they died at birth feels honestly just as abusive as the POS stuff he does to her regularly already.
I don’t believe for a second they only did it one time
The spreadsheet is for the financials. Just to document the actual numbers and show that OP is trying to spend within their means and not just arbitrarily being a tightwad.
She’s crazy but i would have folded
I’m not sure I understand your point. The issue here is financial. Showing data and budget demonstrates she’s not being cheap, she’s just genuinely poor. This can then be a springboard for further discussion so they can either get on the same page about finances or part ways. Spreadsheets don’t work for all relationship issues but they are great when discussing finances.
Thanks! This is good advice. She like me as a companion but I don’t feel comfortable anymore with her. I will try going to the gym alone or perhaps find another one.
You know the answer here. Like you said, writing it makes it more obvious. Get yourself some therapy and a lawyer. Good luck!
You’ve got one more reason to leave this narcissist. He’s using escorts. You checked the phone because something in your head told you he was off. I love situations like these when the cheater turns the responsibility for the problem on the snooper and completely runs the train off the tracks to stop you from focusing on the cheating. Of the two offenses, cheating with prostitutes is most definitely the worst.