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Dude, you’re 19, not 12. Ask her in person. Pick a place, and tell her you want to take her there on a date. Use the word date. In person. You have already waited 6 months and have possibly friendzoned yourself so don’t beat yourself up if she rejects you. It happens. But if she says yes, make time for her. If she says no, take is gracefully and move on to the next. Don’t ever wait this long to ask someone out, it will rarely work out the way you want it to.
I've never seen/read 50 shades so I'll take your word for it lol.
I thought the same thing too about just having a conversation. She could have just voiced her concerns. I mean, way to take the fun out of something that's meant to be, well….fun. I can see why her partner was pissed off.
At the same time though, maybe this kind of thing is normal in their relationship. Still though, not a lot of warmth and comfort in signing a contract just to have sex.
Uh. Most states have a 10 year statute of limitation. 10 years after the child turns 18. So…each of the kids can sue him. Not just the custodial parent. They can also sue on behalf.
Haha.. true, everyone suggests breaking up but I want to work on this relation so I mentioned this point.
I have faced such issue but here what I can do this make myself better than thr other guy so she doesnt have to go to that person to satisfy herself, sounds good?
Lol, don't let me harsh your vibe, you do you, lol I just got to share my experience….OH and to boot, those dumb shits I was with, they buy this “crafty gals” (as I'll refer to them) a bunch of this shitty overpriced drinks (the whole time grinning and whispering to me…”hey, I think she likes me”..fucking idiots) and then when the bill comes, its like 800$ and we were there like an hour and there was only 4 of us…so these dumbshits are fuckin broke…and guess who's the only one with a credit card….ding ding ding…You guessed it…I had to pay for this entire friggin ordeal….I almost wish I could be as delusional as these morons…sigh.
So we do a spending moratorium from November 1st through Christmas, my parents used to do from October 1st. We list out things we wanted to buy ourselves in that time frame, and that's our Christmas list. I agree with others, if he doesn't give you details, a gift card night be a good idea.
I will say, Christmas is really the only time we give gifts, the rest we do a really nice date or experience. Before we decided on the no gift thing for other occasions, because he's hot to buy for, I would gift him tickets to a show, or I did one of those race track driving experiences one time.
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Yeah, the jerking off onto a towel is kind of gross to me. Paper towels and into the trash, dude.
If porn feels like cheating to you, those are your feelings. You've got to talk it out with him.
The porn wouldn't bother me at all, unless he developed the excessive porn death grip masturbation technique which would affect our sex life. But this IS affecting you and your feelings.
It sounds like she still wants you in her life. She would not have reached out saying “what the fuck is wrong with you, do you want to explain” if she didn’t miss you. “you’re nowhere to be found” That’s her saying she wants you around. Be honest say something like “I appreciate you reaching out. I’ve been taking time and space to work on myself. I still want to be friends with you and talk”. You only have to talk about your romantic feelings if she brings it up. I was in a similar situation. I fell in love with a friend and learned she didn’t feel remotely the same way. It messed with me. I thought we had something. I stopped talking and texting her. After a while she was reaching out to me. I still enjoy talking and smoking with her when we’re out with our group of friends. It takes a lot of maturity to balance having romantic feelings for someone while still being their friend.
It's a we need to divorce! She has checked out of the marriage. She is probably emotionally cheating and on the verge of or has cheated. Tell her that you are going to file for divorce and one of you need to leave
So you met this dude when you were 17/18 and he was 30/31? And you just took on his son as your own at 18? And you’ve been a SAHP ever since? And now that the child in question is old enough to go to school, your bf doesn’t want you going back to work? And you see nothing wrong here?
He groomed you. Grow up and recognize a damn predator when you see one. He wasn’t into you because you were “mature for your age” or you were “so relatable” or whatever other bullshit he fed you to reel you in and get in your pants.
He used you as free daycare for his kid. You moved in with him, didn’t go back to work and just assumed responsibility for a child you have no blood relation to. What would happen to said child if you had broken up in those 5 years? He would have gone to a damn daycare. Go back to work and put the boy in daycare.
Why have you allowed yourself to become completely dependent on this dude?
You need to take a serious look at this relationship and ask yourself some hot questions.
Is he verbally abusive? Does he berate you over stupid things? Does he talk down to you? Does he tell you what to do like a child?
Is he manipulative? Does he guilt trip you when you don’t want to do as you are told? Does he give you ultimatums to get his way? Does he hold the child over your head to get you to fall in line?
Does he gaslight you? When you call him out on something he said or did, does he try to make you believe it never happened and it’s all in your head? And when that doesn’t work does he get angry and blame you for what he did?
Does he abuse you financially? Do you have access to the debit card? Can you buy what you need without fear of reprisal?
I bet you can answer several of these questions with emphatic yeses and have several examples and stories to match each one.
Seriously… is this the life you want for yourself? To be his groomed doormat bang maid nanny?
If you answered no to that last question, then you know what you NEED to do… question is, do you have the temerity to do it?
Tell them, you have exhausted your savings helping them and you can no longer do that for them. You are happy they are safe and you wish them the best. Tell them bless their hearts and good luck!
Newsflash. She’s not responsible for the pain that you’re feeling from her not inviting you. She’s not responsible for cutting your flowers because her wedding is HER flower—a huge one. She’s choosing not to let you near her flower. She’s NOT cutting your flowers. Find out where your pain is truly coming from and who actually cut your flowers. Maybe you also cut your own flowers.
It’s now your responsibility as a good “gardener” to find the emotional maturity and introspection to figure out how it came to this. If you don’t know or understand how or why, it’s up to you to seek therapy from good “gardeners” (psychologists/psychiatrists) to start the healing process in your own garden so-to-speak.
I can’t speak for your daughter, but I know that I would never invite anyone to an event who has a history of cutting my flowers or other people’s flowers.
The way you purposely shine the light to emphasize the problem as you being too beautiful and constantly being hit on sounds like you are completely disregarding her issues with you that she has probably reiterated many times over the years, and instead are chalking it up to this as being the root cause in your own mind. You have to hear this. It's delusional and selfish. And until you accept this and grow as a person, she will keep you shunned and alienated from her, leaving you with only two relationships that matter, the relationship that you have with your husband who adores you for your beauty, and the relationship you have with yourself who adores you for your beauty. If you want to discover what a real relationship is like, drop the self-centered act and talk to your daughter with an open mind. Be willing to accept judgment and try to make an actual effort to improve yourself.
If you’re not polyamorous you need to have that discussion that you’re not, or be in an open marriage if you both agree.
I’m bisexual and not interested in having sex with anyone other than my spouse because I am monogamous, not polyamorous. I wouldn’t sleep with a woman (without my husband) and then blame being bisexual.
I’ve never talked to an actual therapist about my anxiety. It’s definitely something I’ve considered but just not right now in my life. I think a big step for me was talking to the doctor about my performance anxiety and realizing from this post that it’s more common than I really think.
You sound incredibly cold hearted, selfish, and immature.
If you're not feeling it, that's fine. End it, but don't be childish, cruel, or ghost someone. Trauma is real, and you may not be responsible for fixing someone, but you should not intentionally be trying to inflict more emotional and mental trauma on these women.
“Hey, babe? Can we talk? It might be kinda stressful, but I have some really important things we need to talk over.”
Then go slow with it. She'll probably cry or get upset based on your descriptions, but don't just plow ahead with it. Take pauses so she stops crying and is…well, kinda forced to reply to you. And don't be overly gentle with how serious an issue it is.
“I love how much you care about me, but I need some room to breathe. I thought you moving in with me would make it easier for us to still spend time together while spending healthy time apart for hobbies and such, but I don't feel like that's happening. I don't want a break or anything but I need to know that you're able to give me space sometimes. That you can understand that, as much as I care about you, sometimes I need to do things without you being involved, and that it's healthy for us to do different things from each other.
You're such an amazing person, and I don't ever want you to think that you aren't. But sometimes I just feel sorta smothered, and it's a serious problem for me. One that I want us to work on, together.”
She's totally manipulating you. You need to text her “I'm sorry but this isn't going to work out for me. Take care.” Then BLOCK her. Do not contact her again and if she tries to contact you do not answer (whether it's doorbell or phone).
He's gaslighting you by making clear signs of pre-violence with you, and then telling you you are in the wrong for knowing it. Perhaps document all of this for your divorce?
Uh, you don't have to discuss taking someone else to “mask” something if there isn't something to mask. He's clearly into her and I'd just toss him to the curb.
I wish ppl like your husband would do better about finding ppl who are more lifestyle compatible. It’s essentially lying about who you are and what you want from your life, to do things like this in secret. And he’s had the entirety of your relationship to discuss it with you, & chose to frame it as a “problem” to lie about and keep hidden.
Dude when I was a kid I took a dump but saw there was no toilet paper so I saw the Clorox wipes and thought it would be an excellent alternative. I was wrong. Felt like my anus was on fire. And she put that on your dick??
Trust me, you're not the weird one here. At best she's got really strange hangups, at worst she has a lot of mental health issues going on.
That's insanely rude of you to attempt to gatekeep how I'm processing something stressful. Out of proportion or otherwise, it doesn't change how I feel in this moment. I'm trying to get advice on how to move past it, not to be forced to feel worse. Thanks.
Dude, you’re 19, not 12. Ask her in person. Pick a place, and tell her you want to take her there on a date. Use the word date. In person. You have already waited 6 months and have possibly friendzoned yourself so don’t beat yourself up if she rejects you. It happens. But if she says yes, make time for her. If she says no, take is gracefully and move on to the next. Don’t ever wait this long to ask someone out, it will rarely work out the way you want it to.
I've never seen/read 50 shades so I'll take your word for it lol.
I thought the same thing too about just having a conversation. She could have just voiced her concerns. I mean, way to take the fun out of something that's meant to be, well….fun. I can see why her partner was pissed off.
At the same time though, maybe this kind of thing is normal in their relationship. Still though, not a lot of warmth and comfort in signing a contract just to have sex.
Do not stay in a relationship with someone like that. That’s the only advice you can expect to get from us.
Hey women do this all the time. What's good for the goose is good for the gander.
Uh. Most states have a 10 year statute of limitation. 10 years after the child turns 18. So…each of the kids can sue him. Not just the custodial parent. They can also sue on behalf.
Haha.. true, everyone suggests breaking up but I want to work on this relation so I mentioned this point.
I have faced such issue but here what I can do this make myself better than thr other guy so she doesnt have to go to that person to satisfy herself, sounds good?
Lol, don't let me harsh your vibe, you do you, lol I just got to share my experience….OH and to boot, those dumb shits I was with, they buy this “crafty gals” (as I'll refer to them) a bunch of this shitty overpriced drinks (the whole time grinning and whispering to me…”hey, I think she likes me”..fucking idiots) and then when the bill comes, its like 800$ and we were there like an hour and there was only 4 of us…so these dumbshits are fuckin broke…and guess who's the only one with a credit card….ding ding ding…You guessed it…I had to pay for this entire friggin ordeal….I almost wish I could be as delusional as these morons…sigh.
So we do a spending moratorium from November 1st through Christmas, my parents used to do from October 1st. We list out things we wanted to buy ourselves in that time frame, and that's our Christmas list. I agree with others, if he doesn't give you details, a gift card night be a good idea.
I will say, Christmas is really the only time we give gifts, the rest we do a really nice date or experience. Before we decided on the no gift thing for other occasions, because he's hot to buy for, I would gift him tickets to a show, or I did one of those race track driving experiences one time.
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Yeah, the jerking off onto a towel is kind of gross to me. Paper towels and into the trash, dude.
If porn feels like cheating to you, those are your feelings. You've got to talk it out with him.
The porn wouldn't bother me at all, unless he developed the excessive porn death grip masturbation technique which would affect our sex life. But this IS affecting you and your feelings.
and the only solution is for me to get over
I disagree. He needs to respect your boundaries. As you said.
Part of being in a relationship means making a sacrifice here and there. In this case, that means he cannot stay at this person's house.
It sounds like she still wants you in her life. She would not have reached out saying “what the fuck is wrong with you, do you want to explain” if she didn’t miss you. “you’re nowhere to be found” That’s her saying she wants you around. Be honest say something like “I appreciate you reaching out. I’ve been taking time and space to work on myself. I still want to be friends with you and talk”. You only have to talk about your romantic feelings if she brings it up. I was in a similar situation. I fell in love with a friend and learned she didn’t feel remotely the same way. It messed with me. I thought we had something. I stopped talking and texting her. After a while she was reaching out to me. I still enjoy talking and smoking with her when we’re out with our group of friends. It takes a lot of maturity to balance having romantic feelings for someone while still being their friend.
It's a we need to divorce! She has checked out of the marriage. She is probably emotionally cheating and on the verge of or has cheated. Tell her that you are going to file for divorce and one of you need to leave
So you met this dude when you were 17/18 and he was 30/31? And you just took on his son as your own at 18? And you’ve been a SAHP ever since? And now that the child in question is old enough to go to school, your bf doesn’t want you going back to work? And you see nothing wrong here?
He groomed you. Grow up and recognize a damn predator when you see one. He wasn’t into you because you were “mature for your age” or you were “so relatable” or whatever other bullshit he fed you to reel you in and get in your pants.
He used you as free daycare for his kid. You moved in with him, didn’t go back to work and just assumed responsibility for a child you have no blood relation to. What would happen to said child if you had broken up in those 5 years? He would have gone to a damn daycare. Go back to work and put the boy in daycare.
Why have you allowed yourself to become completely dependent on this dude?
You need to take a serious look at this relationship and ask yourself some hot questions.
Is he verbally abusive? Does he berate you over stupid things? Does he talk down to you? Does he tell you what to do like a child?
Is he manipulative? Does he guilt trip you when you don’t want to do as you are told? Does he give you ultimatums to get his way? Does he hold the child over your head to get you to fall in line?
Does he gaslight you? When you call him out on something he said or did, does he try to make you believe it never happened and it’s all in your head? And when that doesn’t work does he get angry and blame you for what he did?
Does he abuse you financially? Do you have access to the debit card? Can you buy what you need without fear of reprisal?
I bet you can answer several of these questions with emphatic yeses and have several examples and stories to match each one.
Seriously… is this the life you want for yourself? To be his groomed doormat bang maid nanny?
If you answered no to that last question, then you know what you NEED to do… question is, do you have the temerity to do it?
Best of luck.
Don't date people like that. Like, just be single if you have to.
Your part that evening was supporting your partner emotionally, not financially. You aren't just a bank
Tell them, you have exhausted your savings helping them and you can no longer do that for them. You are happy they are safe and you wish them the best. Tell them bless their hearts and good luck!
Newsflash. She’s not responsible for the pain that you’re feeling from her not inviting you. She’s not responsible for cutting your flowers because her wedding is HER flower—a huge one. She’s choosing not to let you near her flower. She’s NOT cutting your flowers. Find out where your pain is truly coming from and who actually cut your flowers. Maybe you also cut your own flowers.
It’s now your responsibility as a good “gardener” to find the emotional maturity and introspection to figure out how it came to this. If you don’t know or understand how or why, it’s up to you to seek therapy from good “gardeners” (psychologists/psychiatrists) to start the healing process in your own garden so-to-speak.
I can’t speak for your daughter, but I know that I would never invite anyone to an event who has a history of cutting my flowers or other people’s flowers.
The way you purposely shine the light to emphasize the problem as you being too beautiful and constantly being hit on sounds like you are completely disregarding her issues with you that she has probably reiterated many times over the years, and instead are chalking it up to this as being the root cause in your own mind. You have to hear this. It's delusional and selfish. And until you accept this and grow as a person, she will keep you shunned and alienated from her, leaving you with only two relationships that matter, the relationship that you have with your husband who adores you for your beauty, and the relationship you have with yourself who adores you for your beauty. If you want to discover what a real relationship is like, drop the self-centered act and talk to your daughter with an open mind. Be willing to accept judgment and try to make an actual effort to improve yourself.
The easy answer is to leave
That’s polyamory, not just him being bisexual.
If you’re not polyamorous you need to have that discussion that you’re not, or be in an open marriage if you both agree.
I’m bisexual and not interested in having sex with anyone other than my spouse because I am monogamous, not polyamorous. I wouldn’t sleep with a woman (without my husband) and then blame being bisexual.
I’ve never talked to an actual therapist about my anxiety. It’s definitely something I’ve considered but just not right now in my life. I think a big step for me was talking to the doctor about my performance anxiety and realizing from this post that it’s more common than I really think.
Vasectomy doesn’t prevent semen production. He’s saying you can into the testes and get out the sperm, no reversal required.
Admit yourself to a mental health facility
100% agree. And then he threw a temper tantrum in the car because she was crying.
You sound incredibly cold hearted, selfish, and immature.
If you're not feeling it, that's fine. End it, but don't be childish, cruel, or ghost someone. Trauma is real, and you may not be responsible for fixing someone, but you should not intentionally be trying to inflict more emotional and mental trauma on these women.
Look, your best bet is to approach her with this.
“Hey, babe? Can we talk? It might be kinda stressful, but I have some really important things we need to talk over.”
Then go slow with it. She'll probably cry or get upset based on your descriptions, but don't just plow ahead with it. Take pauses so she stops crying and is…well, kinda forced to reply to you. And don't be overly gentle with how serious an issue it is.
“I love how much you care about me, but I need some room to breathe. I thought you moving in with me would make it easier for us to still spend time together while spending healthy time apart for hobbies and such, but I don't feel like that's happening. I don't want a break or anything but I need to know that you're able to give me space sometimes. That you can understand that, as much as I care about you, sometimes I need to do things without you being involved, and that it's healthy for us to do different things from each other.
You're such an amazing person, and I don't ever want you to think that you aren't. But sometimes I just feel sorta smothered, and it's a serious problem for me. One that I want us to work on, together.”
Thank you!!
I mean nothing would surprise me in this tbh.
She's totally manipulating you. You need to text her “I'm sorry but this isn't going to work out for me. Take care.” Then BLOCK her. Do not contact her again and if she tries to contact you do not answer (whether it's doorbell or phone).
He's gaslighting you by making clear signs of pre-violence with you, and then telling you you are in the wrong for knowing it. Perhaps document all of this for your divorce?
Uh, you don't have to discuss taking someone else to “mask” something if there isn't something to mask. He's clearly into her and I'd just toss him to the curb.
+1 for Sideways doggie
I wish ppl like your husband would do better about finding ppl who are more lifestyle compatible. It’s essentially lying about who you are and what you want from your life, to do things like this in secret. And he’s had the entirety of your relationship to discuss it with you, & chose to frame it as a “problem” to lie about and keep hidden.
We gotta do better, man.
Cut contact. He's not your friend. You're his imaginary girlfriend in training.
He has patriarchal views and wants to on-line in Texas. I wouldn’t be compatible with him.
Like from the Full Monty lol
Don’t let pity top every thing else. Please read all the comments carefully, people have worded their concerns way better than I.
Dude when I was a kid I took a dump but saw there was no toilet paper so I saw the Clorox wipes and thought it would be an excellent alternative. I was wrong. Felt like my anus was on fire. And she put that on your dick??
Trust me, you're not the weird one here. At best she's got really strange hangups, at worst she has a lot of mental health issues going on.
That's insanely rude of you to attempt to gatekeep how I'm processing something stressful. Out of proportion or otherwise, it doesn't change how I feel in this moment. I'm trying to get advice on how to move past it, not to be forced to feel worse. Thanks.
I was stabbed but feel guilty for looking at the wounds?
sounds like she really wanted more from you that night. seems like she was obviously very drunk.
first and formost, i wouldnt be alone with her anymore. dont put yourself in a position for her to make a move.
I feel sorry for your “friend” R.