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Be cautious, don’t confuse infatuation with love.
Love is built over a long time, it’s selflessness and knowing someone will be there for you and you for them, no matter what. even if imperfectly.
Infatuation is the butterflies from the excitement that comes with the risk of a new relationship in the back of your mind you think, I hope this person likes me, I hope I don’t get my heart broken .. I hope we can last. This person is so great this person is perfect for me.
Over time you realize true love (denying yourself and putting the other persons happiness above your own) is extremely difficult. Because that other person is in fact not perfect and a lot things they do starts to annoy you.
This is point where love has to be a decision.
Are you going to be there for them no matter what? Are you going to work to grow together as a unit and not two separate individuals.
I can tell you this for certain that new love high never lasts ever. It only comes from the risk in new relationships, also fueled by feelings of attraction. Feelings are temporary though and love is commitment and decision despite your in the moment feelings.
I respectfully disagree. If you are committed to another person it is disrespectful as well as foolish to put yourself in such a position. Many great relationships have been destroyed because of one drunken mess up. You can have a perfect relationship and still get intoxicated and do something you shouldn’t.
I hope you have been perfect in every aspect of that relationship. Cause once they see an opening they are taking another shot. All it takes is a night out and a few drinks and them reminiscing for her to “make a mistake”. The guys are gonna do what guys do in that situation as they have no dog in the fight.
I would give him some space. 5 months is still a new relationship. Meeting the family is a big deal.
Talk when he gets back. The lack of communication on his part is an issue, but it seems like he didn’t want to hurt you. See where it goes after you talk.
He had been out of his last relationship for like a year before he told me he had feelings for me, but we were in contact, as just friends, while they were together, and I don't believe that she knew about me. I have asked him about that and he said that his ex was insecure and constantly accusing him of cheating on her with his female friends so that's why he didn't tell her about me (also because we lived in different states and hadn't actually seen each other for several years). I don't think he would cheat on me, but I also don't think it's cool to keep other avenues of “what could be” open with other people.
Instead of a love language, it could be love bombing. There’s a big difference. Love bombing is abuse but it sounds like he read a book and is using the phrase “love language” as an excuse for smothering. Just because a person has a love language, doesn’t mean they have to use it constantly. You say you don’t have much experience and lack confidence, but you can tell him that while you appreciate his words, they are overwhelming and making you uncomfortable, especially since it’s only been four months. Ask him to give you some space until you have spent more time together. Let him know that while he thinks he is being complimentary, it is having the opposite effect and you hope he can understand that. It might mean that you are incompatible because he moving too fast for you. You both need to agree on how your relationship works.
Staying together has to be a mutual decision If you tell him that it is over, then it is and you won't be cheating on him.
You may not be able to end it on good terms if it's already toxic and he is refusing to accept your decision. Sounds like it could get abusive quickly if you stick around. You already made your decision and told him, your obligation to him is DONE.
She's a rapist. Biological clock or not, most women who feel their time is running out to have children don't rape men. She raped OP and this “biological clock” theory has nothing to do with her being a literal rapist.
I understand, I just wish we could still have what we had, but there's just so many things, she's changed to much, yet she's so stubborn to see her wrong doing too (I admit I have moments where I wasn't the best boyfriend), but if things have to end like that I think it's better rather than in a confrontation that could get the hella worse out of her…
What is his love language? Does he have one? I'm asking if he shows affection at all through other means. Or do you feel neglected in general?
You are not asking for too much from him. It sounds like communication is not a priority for him given you discussion about how you were the last to know about changes with your SD. Maybe he needs to understand that all relationships are based on good communication, and that he needs to learn better communication styles for this relationship.
He was able to communicate during your courtship and honeymoon phases, so it is not that he is incapable of it. Remind him that courtship of a partner never ends. It's part of the life long commitment that he is making to you. Give the examples of the things he wrote/said to you that you gave here. And that that was a major reason for your decision to be with him. (I'm assuming that was the case). Display of affection is part of the lifeblood of a relationship. And asking for that is normal. That might also increase his libido some as well.
If this does not change, you might try some couples therapy for this. You want to spend the rest of your life with him, and he with you. You should start off as you mean to carry on.
you are right about that yes and i honestly think it’s immature that he won’t communicate correctly about that specific situation. in all other aspects he communicates with me just fine but it’s just THIS one and i got advice from someone else to try talking to him again and if he continues to act this way then it’s better for me to just rethink the whole relationship and see if this is what i actually want because what i most hate is a partner who won’t communicate. thank you for your advice:))
You say you're here for advice, but everyone is giving you the very hot truth and you're doing crazy mental gymnastics to refute everything everyone is saying.
As someone who's been in your situation, I get it. You want to believe that he can rise above his past mistakes. But the reality is, if someone doesn't care about hurting you once, they won't care about hurting you again. That's not something you can change. You can't give people the empathy they need to do right by you.
Op… if you believe it’s a prank, man wait till you find out about the excuse of, “I don’t use the app anymore, it’s deleted off my phone, I swear, but I still get notifications!”, type of lie!
You're not in a committed relationship. This is a norm for a lot of people. It's just a date until you want to define the title.
As it stands, you can blow this up over not understanding modern dating. Or convince him that you want to do a long-term monogamous relationship.
Convince him that is what you want. But if you think telling him, “How disappointed you are in him,” will help, just end it.
Disappointment means you have expectations that he should fulfill. If that is the case. You have to meet his expectations, and you clearly haven't communicated anything because it's just casual dating.
Communicate intent, and you will get exactly what you want. He has no clue about your intentions.
Being passive-aggressive because of a lack of communication with the dude is childish. It's all the more reason for you to move on.
Your goal should be to convince him that you are “the one.” Now you just sound like the “crazy one” that sucks at communicating.
Part of what makes me feel like it’s cheating is just that I don’t see much of a difference in how they acted with each-other from our relationship. The only difference is that they weren’t sexual (although she tried by asking him to masturbate with her, which he declined) and that they didn’t have a label like us (bf/gf) He does get pretty deep with most of his friends though
I have a half brother and a half sister, they're doing just as well as my full siblings. It literally doesn't matter, and women shouldn't have to stay in horrible relationships just to avoid stigmatisation and judgement from guys like you.
Be cautious, don’t confuse infatuation with love.
Love is built over a long time, it’s selflessness and knowing someone will be there for you and you for them, no matter what. even if imperfectly.
Infatuation is the butterflies from the excitement that comes with the risk of a new relationship in the back of your mind you think, I hope this person likes me, I hope I don’t get my heart broken .. I hope we can last. This person is so great this person is perfect for me.
Over time you realize true love (denying yourself and putting the other persons happiness above your own) is extremely difficult. Because that other person is in fact not perfect and a lot things they do starts to annoy you.
This is point where love has to be a decision.
Are you going to be there for them no matter what? Are you going to work to grow together as a unit and not two separate individuals.
I can tell you this for certain that new love high never lasts ever. It only comes from the risk in new relationships, also fueled by feelings of attraction. Feelings are temporary though and love is commitment and decision despite your in the moment feelings.
I can see why it might.
At the same time… They started a relationship when she was 17 and he was 27 so it was expected.
I respectfully disagree. If you are committed to another person it is disrespectful as well as foolish to put yourself in such a position. Many great relationships have been destroyed because of one drunken mess up. You can have a perfect relationship and still get intoxicated and do something you shouldn’t.
I hope you have been perfect in every aspect of that relationship. Cause once they see an opening they are taking another shot. All it takes is a night out and a few drinks and them reminiscing for her to “make a mistake”. The guys are gonna do what guys do in that situation as they have no dog in the fight.
I would give him some space. 5 months is still a new relationship. Meeting the family is a big deal.
Talk when he gets back. The lack of communication on his part is an issue, but it seems like he didn’t want to hurt you. See where it goes after you talk.
Do nooooot. He doesn’t respond because he doesn’t want to hear from you. Desperation is unattractive, so you’ll just be digging yourself a hole.
If you’re still considered a minor, you can call CPS yourself for them to come out to do a welfare check.
Is your name Samantha brick by any chance
He had been out of his last relationship for like a year before he told me he had feelings for me, but we were in contact, as just friends, while they were together, and I don't believe that she knew about me. I have asked him about that and he said that his ex was insecure and constantly accusing him of cheating on her with his female friends so that's why he didn't tell her about me (also because we lived in different states and hadn't actually seen each other for several years). I don't think he would cheat on me, but I also don't think it's cool to keep other avenues of “what could be” open with other people.
Have you ever come across an actually intricate scam? Clearly not. You're naive as fuck if you think there's no possibility that this is fake.
Besides, all I'm saying is we need to wait for more information before being able to clearly say whether he's lying or it's all fake.
If you think that's “dumb”, god I fear for any of your personal relationships.
He should shut that shit down.
And she’s out of the game group.
Instead of a love language, it could be love bombing. There’s a big difference. Love bombing is abuse but it sounds like he read a book and is using the phrase “love language” as an excuse for smothering. Just because a person has a love language, doesn’t mean they have to use it constantly. You say you don’t have much experience and lack confidence, but you can tell him that while you appreciate his words, they are overwhelming and making you uncomfortable, especially since it’s only been four months. Ask him to give you some space until you have spent more time together. Let him know that while he thinks he is being complimentary, it is having the opposite effect and you hope he can understand that. It might mean that you are incompatible because he moving too fast for you. You both need to agree on how your relationship works.
YTA. I feel so bad for your wife.
It is not up to him. IT IS NOT UP TO HIM
Staying together has to be a mutual decision If you tell him that it is over, then it is and you won't be cheating on him.
You may not be able to end it on good terms if it's already toxic and he is refusing to accept your decision. Sounds like it could get abusive quickly if you stick around. You already made your decision and told him, your obligation to him is DONE.
She's a rapist. Biological clock or not, most women who feel their time is running out to have children don't rape men. She raped OP and this “biological clock” theory has nothing to do with her being a literal rapist.
OP, every single one of your replies tells me this is a lost cause. I’m not sure what you’re looking for here.
I understand, I just wish we could still have what we had, but there's just so many things, she's changed to much, yet she's so stubborn to see her wrong doing too (I admit I have moments where I wasn't the best boyfriend), but if things have to end like that I think it's better rather than in a confrontation that could get the hella worse out of her…
But I wasn't infected prior to around 50. Mostly thanks to my new husband whorish past. But not much I can do about it now.
What is his love language? Does he have one? I'm asking if he shows affection at all through other means. Or do you feel neglected in general?
You are not asking for too much from him. It sounds like communication is not a priority for him given you discussion about how you were the last to know about changes with your SD. Maybe he needs to understand that all relationships are based on good communication, and that he needs to learn better communication styles for this relationship.
He was able to communicate during your courtship and honeymoon phases, so it is not that he is incapable of it. Remind him that courtship of a partner never ends. It's part of the life long commitment that he is making to you. Give the examples of the things he wrote/said to you that you gave here. And that that was a major reason for your decision to be with him. (I'm assuming that was the case). Display of affection is part of the lifeblood of a relationship. And asking for that is normal. That might also increase his libido some as well.
If this does not change, you might try some couples therapy for this. You want to spend the rest of your life with him, and he with you. You should start off as you mean to carry on.
you are right about that yes and i honestly think it’s immature that he won’t communicate correctly about that specific situation. in all other aspects he communicates with me just fine but it’s just THIS one and i got advice from someone else to try talking to him again and if he continues to act this way then it’s better for me to just rethink the whole relationship and see if this is what i actually want because what i most hate is a partner who won’t communicate. thank you for your advice:))
You say you're here for advice, but everyone is giving you the very hot truth and you're doing crazy mental gymnastics to refute everything everyone is saying.
As someone who's been in your situation, I get it. You want to believe that he can rise above his past mistakes. But the reality is, if someone doesn't care about hurting you once, they won't care about hurting you again. That's not something you can change. You can't give people the empathy they need to do right by you.
We both agreed we’d be fine with going in bare and getting Plan B or whatever is needed after if that helps?
Then why did you threaten it?
Op… if you believe it’s a prank, man wait till you find out about the excuse of, “I don’t use the app anymore, it’s deleted off my phone, I swear, but I still get notifications!”, type of lie!
You're not in a committed relationship. This is a norm for a lot of people. It's just a date until you want to define the title.
As it stands, you can blow this up over not understanding modern dating. Or convince him that you want to do a long-term monogamous relationship.
Convince him that is what you want. But if you think telling him, “How disappointed you are in him,” will help, just end it.
Disappointment means you have expectations that he should fulfill. If that is the case. You have to meet his expectations, and you clearly haven't communicated anything because it's just casual dating.
Communicate intent, and you will get exactly what you want. He has no clue about your intentions.
Being passive-aggressive because of a lack of communication with the dude is childish. It's all the more reason for you to move on.
Your goal should be to convince him that you are “the one.” Now you just sound like the “crazy one” that sucks at communicating.
Part of what makes me feel like it’s cheating is just that I don’t see much of a difference in how they acted with each-other from our relationship. The only difference is that they weren’t sexual (although she tried by asking him to masturbate with her, which he declined) and that they didn’t have a label like us (bf/gf) He does get pretty deep with most of his friends though
Thankyou yeah i’m slowly realising this is NOT the way haha ??
What, are you scared you're going to cheat again?
That's concerning.
And?
I have a half brother and a half sister, they're doing just as well as my full siblings. It literally doesn't matter, and women shouldn't have to stay in horrible relationships just to avoid stigmatisation and judgement from guys like you.