People don't show you how much you can count on them until you actually have to count on them. In the best of times people will show you a side of them that's easy but when things get hard that's when you find out whether the person's really worth being around. You just had a major life event and your husband proved to you that the only thing he cares about is his penis.
I would not have a child with this man.
I would not stay married to this man.
I would not age around this man.
I would not go through the rest of my life knowing that my partner was going to drop the ball and think about his penis every time shit hit the fan for me.
Let yourself heal, get some therapy for YOU to handle ALL the different things that just occured. Then either consider couples counseling to teach your husband some empathy, or Gtfo.
Oh my god.. my struggle is REAL!! I have the same problem with my husband …. It gives me real anxiety when he does that and I’m worried that our daughter (we are expecting) will pick this bad habit up….
Regardless of your relationship situation, it seems like you need to move out. Your parents are too invested in your life, and you should not have to deal with physical and verbal abuse.
It’s really important to her, rightfully so. You both knew about it for a long time if she’s in the wedding. I can see her being really hurt regardless of the timing of telling her. But you should not be going yo a friends wedding sort of last minute over this wedding of your gf. That’s pretty mean tbh. And if you want your gf to be by your side by thinge you feel are super important and she copped out for something she individually wanted more that came up, I’m sure you would feel some type of way. Why are your buddies feelings more important than your gfs? I am 36 but I’m old school- if you have a partner you cherish, you should support them and let them trust you and be by their side. If she was 100% ok with you going in two directions than that is totally fine. Im this case, despite my downvotes, I think you’re in the wrong.
Ok then I'll risk offending u. My ex step bro is a surgeon. He is a big narcissist. Ive heard ppl in med school can be full of themselves & think they know it all.
You most definitely tell her how you feel! Obviously there’s no guarantees, and you definitely may not be in “love” with her (but that’s semantics, especially at 18) but zero reason not to tell her how you feel! Good luck!
Are you in any kind of therapy? Have you gone through any kind of rehabilitation for your addiction?
Maybe it’s not an apology you need to give them, maybe it’s a show of gratitude for their understanding of something you did at one of the lowest points of your life. Can you offer to send them out to dinner together or get some flowers. Ask them if they are in a place to be a able to explain to you why they forgave you.
You sexually assaulted somebody, it’s a very hard thing to comprehend and move on from. I can’t say for certain that you’ll ever “get over it” but you might be able to use your shame and regret as a big catalyst for positive change.
I’d let her. It could be good for your relationship. She might see you as an expert but when it comes to paying for services, she might think it’s more comfortable for her to pay someone else (and have more directive say on how she wants things done etc). That might not happen with you and it might end up in resentment.
Take it in a positive note and continue to be supportive. If she asks you for advice, give it. If not, don’t. Good luck!
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Tell him to quit whining, it’s unmanly.
People don't show you how much you can count on them until you actually have to count on them. In the best of times people will show you a side of them that's easy but when things get hard that's when you find out whether the person's really worth being around. You just had a major life event and your husband proved to you that the only thing he cares about is his penis.
I would not have a child with this man.
I would not stay married to this man.
I would not age around this man.
I would not go through the rest of my life knowing that my partner was going to drop the ball and think about his penis every time shit hit the fan for me.
Let yourself heal, get some therapy for YOU to handle ALL the different things that just occured. Then either consider couples counseling to teach your husband some empathy, or Gtfo.
Oh my god.. my struggle is REAL!! I have the same problem with my husband …. It gives me real anxiety when he does that and I’m worried that our daughter (we are expecting) will pick this bad habit up….
Regardless of your relationship situation, it seems like you need to move out. Your parents are too invested in your life, and you should not have to deal with physical and verbal abuse.
Welp jokes on her, she’ll remain single and friendless until she wakes up and realizes her “best friend” is sabotaging her.
It’s really important to her, rightfully so. You both knew about it for a long time if she’s in the wedding. I can see her being really hurt regardless of the timing of telling her. But you should not be going yo a friends wedding sort of last minute over this wedding of your gf. That’s pretty mean tbh. And if you want your gf to be by your side by thinge you feel are super important and she copped out for something she individually wanted more that came up, I’m sure you would feel some type of way. Why are your buddies feelings more important than your gfs? I am 36 but I’m old school- if you have a partner you cherish, you should support them and let them trust you and be by their side. If she was 100% ok with you going in two directions than that is totally fine. Im this case, despite my downvotes, I think you’re in the wrong.
Ok then I'll risk offending u. My ex step bro is a surgeon. He is a big narcissist. Ive heard ppl in med school can be full of themselves & think they know it all.
What are both your roles at the job?
Leave him and take her He’s just a good plated turd
You most definitely tell her how you feel! Obviously there’s no guarantees, and you definitely may not be in “love” with her (but that’s semantics, especially at 18) but zero reason not to tell her how you feel! Good luck!
Are you in any kind of therapy? Have you gone through any kind of rehabilitation for your addiction?
Maybe it’s not an apology you need to give them, maybe it’s a show of gratitude for their understanding of something you did at one of the lowest points of your life. Can you offer to send them out to dinner together or get some flowers. Ask them if they are in a place to be a able to explain to you why they forgave you.
You sexually assaulted somebody, it’s a very hard thing to comprehend and move on from. I can’t say for certain that you’ll ever “get over it” but you might be able to use your shame and regret as a big catalyst for positive change.
Fuck. You know when a thing clicks for you? That just happened for me.
Well, all the more reason to not give up your future plans. Stay where you are and you feel safe. If he really cares he will come to you.
Age gap is suss..
I’d let her. It could be good for your relationship. She might see you as an expert but when it comes to paying for services, she might think it’s more comfortable for her to pay someone else (and have more directive say on how she wants things done etc). That might not happen with you and it might end up in resentment.
Take it in a positive note and continue to be supportive. If she asks you for advice, give it. If not, don’t. Good luck!
She kept you a secret, broke up with you, and told you to move on. You need to respect her decision and accept it's over.