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OP should just sleep alone and let his gf and kid have a room ?♀️ the kid is only six…that’s way too young to have a kid alone in a hotel
Thank you so much for taking the time to write all this! This is really helpful. I miss her so much, I miss the wonderful person she was and to see my parents in such pain, I just cant describe it. I will love her kids as my own, and I genuinely want them to be able to remember their mom, warts and all. She wasn’t perfect and lost to her demons, but she loved those kids unlike anything or anyone else.
Thank you again!
it's cute that you think he hasn't already.
It seems to me she is doing this for the sexual thrill and not the money from what you describe. If she wanted to do this with strangers on the Internet, could you accept this?
That could be a compromise and a way to work through it.
However, if I was in a new relationship and I was asked this, I don't think it would be for me.
If she is interested in it for the money and plans to do this as a career it shows extremely poor judgement to do this with people in her social sphere and I would question if I wanted to continue a relationship with someone who makes poor life choices. (Not the sexwork but the way she conducts the sexwork).
This is only my opinion and advice, I mean no ill will to you or your girlfriend.
And what do you think would happen?
If a girl doesn't respect your family, leave her.
Well then, my advice is to your husband the truth. You know comprehensive DNA tests can be done, but choose to ignore. Oh my you don't want criticism? Then don't cheat on your partners in future, might help.
For sure
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Just looking at your post history. It seems like you have a lot of personal issues that you need to tackle if you're going to have a better outlook on life.
On this specific post. I doubt that it's your sister's boyfriend that you actually want but the relationship they have. Just a thought.
But regardless, do continue the therapy and possibly think about something else that may help with your mental health.
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Yes, his friend moved away and then just stopped contact for no apparent reason. ?
A dog is not in the cards for us. We're barely hanging in there (time/space/money-wise) with two cats and two kids. ? It's a good thought, though!
Be friendly but not pushy. Get to know her and let her get to know you. No need to rush.
You are overreacting. I could care less if my bf shared a cab home.
No judgments for living with your parents because I did the same thing for awhile, but you are 26 now and it seems like you are just afraid to take a risk and lose your security blanket. Based on what you have written it seems like it is more about not wanting to leave your parents than it is about concerns about living with her. Moving in with her is not just about taking your relationship to the next level but it is showing her you are ready to progress your life as a whole. You need to do what is best for you, but if you lose her over this you will likely regret it for a long time. Your parents will always be there if it doesn't work out.
I agree but I don't know how to get rid of it. I'm worried about mentioning it to my therapist cause I don't want anyone I know irl to know this
You’re not an alcoholic just cause you drink one beer every day, but your mindset is worrying – feeling that you need alcohol to wind down and relax is a strong indicator that it’s heading in the wrong direction. Better to stop now than fight for your life later.
Regardless of amount, it’s always unhealthy to drink alcohol.
You got involved with someone whose family has one of the strictest religions on the planet. Seriously, at this point you should cut your losses. It will hurt, but you'll find that, in the long run, it would not have worked.
Here’s the thing, it’s easy for both of you to draw lines in the sand right now, because you’re not actually dealing with the situation. I think what you need to realize though is that unintended pregnancy will always be a consequence of sex for you, and even if both you and your sexual partner agree to have an abortion, things can still go wrong.
So, if this is something you feel very paranoid about, rather than pressuring your partner to agree to do what you want, why don’t you simply get a vasectomy and remove that fear from the equation?
I will buy you a camera if you get a recommendation for one you think will work well.
I mean it sounds like you have done what you can and the ball is in your mom's court. She needs to make choices and changes, and only she can do that.
It was a nice idea but you should have waited until after her rough patch at work. It almost seems like you didnt listen to her when she said she was having a rough time at work and if you did listen you just didnt care
I work somewhere just as you described – people being friends doesnt mean the job is not stressful.
If my bf waited until after my big project sale in three weeks to celebrate and then did this as a surprise i would cry of happiness lol. If he did it this week I would probably have a mental breakdown with my schedule being so tight. And frankly, he KNOWS this. He knows ive been stressed at work and offers to get me dinner/snacks or whatever. I would feel really ignored and upset if he tried to pull me out of work during a stressful time because he was bored and felt like going to the spa
Not only only do you make poor decisions for being 25 years old, but apparently you’re also highly suggestible. Where is your backbone? What traits exactly is she supposed to see as evidence that you would make a good life partner or co-parent? I would actually argue that you should be grateful she’s giving you the opportunity to make a decision at all. Personally, I’d have just left the relationship.
Stop asking your friends, stop asking Reddit, and don’t you dare call your mom. Do you want to have a family with your girlfriend or do you want to pay child support and have every other weekend? Or be an absent father? Sit on that for a second and figure out what you want instead of what your friends tell you that you want. And if you decide you want your family, you need to take a good naked look at yourself and thank your girlfriend for giving you the opportunity to make a choice she could have easily made for you.
I agree with her. I don’t care about walking around my house wearing nothing but I feel like doing so around kids sends the wrong message.
I know right? once a month she will make something fancy and talk about it all month long. but thats about it…
5mo gf… sheesh, why hang on? more fish in the sea.
This is utterly dependent on whether she wants to remain a part of this couple. She owes him nothing, unless she feels otherwise.
I never said he’s been angry or annoyed, I’m simply saying that if he chose to end the relationship based on a huge decision you are making, that would be a reasonable decision on his part, and not one that he should have held against him.
Good for you!
An example would be useful.
However, if I understand correctly, he lies about things you previously disapproved but then stop doing so in hope he would be more honest. The thing is he already knows you’re going to disapprove of him so it’s a tough sell. That’s why knowing an example would help in figuring out if you have a “right” to disapprove or you’re overstepping your boundaries.
If he doesn’t want the chair there, tell him to buy one for you. That’s it
He didn’t. He was communicating how it made him uncomfortable and he thought it was inappropriate.
He blew up when OP decided to ignore his feelings and argue how what she did was right, with no regard of how it made him feel.
Her not apologizing despite it hurting your feelings is the biggest issue there. It’s honestly understandable that she laughed, what you said was pretty damn funny, but she should have apologized after learning that it upset you.
That being said, it’s been a very long time and I think you’d benefit from acquiring the ability to laugh at yourself. I used to be overweight and kids made fun of my man tits and shit, and I find it hilarious now. You’re not gaining anything by holding on to hurt feelings.
If she’s been previously sweet and supportive of you and this is the first time this kind of thing has happened, I would wager a guess that you maybe didn’t fully express how hurt you were in a way where she understood it was serious enough to warrant a sincere apology. She also might not fully empathize with why it’s a touchy subject because it was so long ago and because you aren’t fat now.
Sometimes it can be naked to empathize with feelings that you can’t relate to. For example, I’m struggling to empathize with you because of what I said at first. I can’t relate to still being upset and touchy about it. I also still have body image issues too. It’s just not that serious to me, so you feeling differently registers in my brain as you being neurotically/irrationally over-sensitive.
It would take you very clearly being upset for me to realize I need to apologize in her shoes. If you just brushed it off or passively said “it’s not funny” without changing your tone or body language significantly, I doubt it would dawn on me how upset you actually are.
Wait.. Is this a thing? I highkey struggle with this as well but never realized what it might be.. I've only recently been thinking I might have adhd but I haven't gotten it tested officially yet..
Good. Block her on everything
You watch porn, right?
If you’re still going to watch porn, only watch stuff that looks like your wife and hold yourself accountable. Over time, I think the problem will fix itself.
I'll be asking for a paternity test from my wife if I ever have kids, and yes, she knows this. I'm not projecting anything. I'm not a cheater and I don't think she is either. I think it should be mandatory for everyone, women too, considering accidental baby swaps happen in the hospital. I would also be more than OK with my wife asking me to get a DNA test to verify I have no other children out there.
Bingo!!
I give you credit for admitting that much. But wow…. Was he having sex with you while the wife was pregnant, or dealing with babies?
Sometimes we need to initiate even if at the time we don’t really feel horny. That’s the effort you gotta put into it and that, if the roles were reversed, you’d expect from him.
BC side affects can be brutal. Approach is from the POV that she seems less like herself etc DONT MENTION THE WEIGHT.
I've met a few who made it work, never any that were happy. And they were all much uglier than anyone with multiple partners had any right being.
It’s cheating if the two of you discuss it and she views it as cheating, or if you do something inherently sexual without telling her. Basically, it’s cheating if you’re sneaking around-either because you’ve discussed it and she said no, or because you’re afraid to discuss it because you think she will say no.
Just talk to her, man.
ive told him if this doesnt end we cant be together because i wont let him disrespect and embarrass me like this. but nothing has changed.
You have your answer. Stick to your guns. Don't let him disrespect and embarrass you. He clearly does not respect you or your relationship together. Time to follow through.
The first time it’s not harassment. If it continues when it’s obvious she doesn’t want to talk to her, then yes.
I’m addicted to sex.. I need sex 2-3 times a day.. and that’s still not enough for him so he has to look online and in person for whatever girl he is looking for.
Get therapy. Seriously. You are getting hostile because someone else is happy? If they crash and burn from running too hot, that’s their business, but you are basically INSISTING on being offended because of a term of endearment which has absolutely nothing to do with you, and it upsets you due to jealousy issues. You should NOT be having that kind of reaction. It’s way too intense and completely maladjusted given the circumstances.
He doesn't want to have a LDR, which is fine.
You want to progress in your career which is fine.
Sorry this is the end. 1 month is nothing.
Asking strangers what your girlfriend would like is silly. How TF would we know what your gf likes? We've not met her and weirdly, different people like different things.
What does your girlfriend like? Send her that stuff.
BS about not being able to eat certain foods on your period is exactly that. BS. Just send her stuff she likes.
I mean, I think this is about taking a step back and trying to, as objectively as possible, look at what constitutes a reasonable happy medium.
I think it's unreasonable to expect you to no longer be friends or even best friends with your ex. If you had had a wonderful romantic connection, you would still be partners, so it's fair to assume that there's no reason to be jealous or assume that there's anything inappropriate going on. But also, you had enough in common that you had a relationship in the first place, and those commonalities didn't disappear when you broke up. In fact, it says lovely things about you that you are able to navigate the end of a romantic relationship and come out of it still having a good friendship with a former partner, seeing positive things in each other rather than focusing on resentments or the romantic side not working out.
BUT . . .
I don't think it's unreasonable for a partner to be hesitant about monthly visits, particularly when they involve staying over at his place. Most people I know in their 30s don't visit their long-distance best friends monthly, even if they AREN'T former romantic partners. That's really often – way more often than one would take for granted even in a close friendship between adults. And even without jealousy, it IS fair to recognise that he is a former partner, and that going to visit him every single month, even if it isn't indicative of anything romantic, is you making a lot more time for him than the average adult makes for their bestie who doesn't online locally. A new romantic partner is allowed to feel some kind of way about it. At the very least it's worth a conversation.
Could those visits happen a little less frequently, like every 2-3 months? Could you maybe not stay at his place? And if your new relationship starts to get more serious, would you consider including your new partner sometimes, so they can get to know the guy who is now your best friend, and the three of you hang out together?
I definitely don't think you should have to end the friendship, and anyone who insists on that is being unfair. Some of my most valuable friendships are with exes. But it IS fair to be thoughtful of a new partner's feelings, and to discuss reasonable boundaries around how much time is spent with a friend who is also an ex, and in what context.
You may not be the right person for her.
30,000 pictures is a problem, regardless of the content. That’s an addiction, not a kink. Most people have nowhere near 30,000 liked pictures of EVERYTHING total, on all websites and phone pictures combined. That’s more than just a kink. Just like watching hours and hours of s&m porn every week is more than just a kink, it’s an addiction. Overconsumption of porn is a massive contributing factor to sexual dissatisfaction in relationships everywhere.
13yrs is a pretty big age gap. i was 19F and got with 33M and the guy was totally immature and we were at different stage in life. he also tried to make me into what he wanted.
from my experience dating a much older man i have to be suspicious of your reasonings for getting with someone who’s basically still a baby. i’m in my 30s now and i avoid relationships with 20yos like the plague – i’ll play with them, sure, but anything beyond that hell tf no.
Not to mention he told me he was going to a bar and is see on his friends story they went to a club.
I do accept it, I really hope she gets everything she wants, it is over for good.
I just wanted to know if that behavior is the standard/normalized. Because on this end it feels weird.