You are crazy simply because you want to smash his gaming system, an expensive item he most likely worked hard for. When you feel so angry that you have to suppress the need to take someone's prized possession and break it then you are the one with the bigger issue you frickin loony toon.
I have mentioned this to him, he says that it is not true because he would not prefer porn over me, but since I am not available, he has no other option, I don’t know how much sense it makes to me
As a family lawyer for nearly 20 years I have never, nor would I ever, tell a parent to ignore their child. I would have an emergency petition before the court to request an expedited custody hearing, but ignore your child for 3 years …. YTA and you did abandon your son.
I used to be in relationships like that and eventually, I grew bitter from being sexually frustrated and neglected. If he refuses to work on the issue despite you expressing how you feel, you can only leave. Focus on yourself, the distance between you two is already growing and not because you didn't try. You deserve more than that, and he has to know this is unhealthy.
And don't let him rope you back in with promised of change. He's had plenty of time to change and he refused to do so.
If she doesn’t remember what happened it was NOT consensual! If she was too intoxicated it’s NOT consensual. Even making out while not consenting is still a big deal that can still be SA.
Anyone who refers to women as “bitches” or “thots” or any of the other derogatory names in general ARE NOT WORTH YOUR TIME OR YOUR LIFE. My bf did this when we first started dating until I started calling myself that In general conversation and he would always say “stop don’t call yourself that” to which I would respond “it’s no different to when YOU call me that.” After that he stopped. He’ll slip up sometimes but when he does we’ll stop the conversation. We’ll talk about why he feels the need to call woman these names, if it makes him feel better about himself when he does and why even if someone is acting a certain way you still shouldn’t call them these names.
for whatever her reasons are… thats what we are here to discuss really. a woman can make a sex joke around me and all i would think is she is comfortable around me to joke like that and if we just met i would know that she is comfortable talking like that to everyone. the reasons are what we are discussing.
My ex had one of those “younger sisters” too. In my case, he definitely wanted to be with her but she wasn't interested in a relationship with him so he settled for being her best friend. He would constantly go out of his way to do favors for her, buy her stuff, flirt with her inappropriately when I wasn't around, etc. He would tell her all of our private conversations, and she'd give her opinion and advice on everything. And if I said anything contradicting her, then I was the one who was wrong. Your situation could be different, but for me it was not worth the headache.
You know how she texts, you've been hoping she would change all this time and thats the problem. You really can't rely on someone changing for you. You both were very young when you started dating and it's very unlikely you have a future together you both grow into adults.
You're sabotaging the relationship by expecting her to do what she has never done, and expecting her to do it just because you want her to do it.
I don't see anything wrong in her giving short answers on the day to day chats, you're not so interesting all of the time that it requires deep long texts. This almost sounds codependent, which is not surprising because of how young you started dating, and how much you rely on her emotionally.
You are both adults now so if you want to make it work, try couples counseling. They should give tools on how to communicate and maybe what to expect in a healthy relationship. And consider talking to a therapist about your family situation, growing up in a neglectful home can make it hard to see what a healthy relationship looks like.
Nobody owes you to say yes or even respond in a manner that you are comfortable with It doesn't matter what her reasons are, if she didnt say yes then take it as a no but leave it at that. If you go down the road of you were rejected, she embarrassed you etc then you are going in the wrong direction Here's something to consider. If she responded in the way that you say she did. Maybe aomething about you shows her she is not comfortable in saying no, and then you really should reflect on your own vibe
Don’t EVER bring it up again. She’s probably going to avoid you now, anyway.
Don’t ask a woman out with that phrasing. Say something like “would you like to get coffee sometime? I think you’re an interesting person and I would love to get to know you better. I totally understand if you say no; no hard feelings”. Make it about being friends and don’t make it sound demanding or like she owes you.
There is no harm is letting them know what their mother has done. As they grow older they can then put this into context and if they decide they wish to have nothing to do with her, that is their choice.
She is a shit mother and a shit wife. No need to hide this fact from the kids.
Okay, you can stop acting stupid now and stop trolling now. There is absolutely no way that you don’t know what it means to be called a troll on the internet, can honestly think someone misspelling troll as “trill” was referring to Star Trek, not know that “Life finds a way” was said by Jeff Goldblum’s character Dr. Ian Malcom in the movie Jurassic Park, and think that anyone would believe that you would have a single “friend” offering to “boycott” this wedding for you, given the way you’ve been acting and stealing money they specifically gave for this specific bride. And your claims of writing a memoir for your PHd? No. You’re an internet troll and you need to get a life.
It's not to judge you. It's for sexual safety. Nobody wants STD's. Even in committed relationships people get STD's. Wouldn't be fair you'd infect one or multiple guys without ever even informing them you were sleeping with others. Just be safe.
Also this is 100% the kind of guy who does any household task and thinks he’s doing his wife a “favour” and not just doing his part as a member of the household.
Some things need to remain a fantasy, you pushed him into it and now killed the relationship. Be the better person now and let him go. Accept your fault and let him find someone with who he can be happy with.
I've ridden motorcycles and motor scooters for over 20 years without any serious accidents. Honestly, I wouldn't date anyone who will prevent me from riding a motorcycle.
Just take a safety class, buy the motorcycle, and save money to go to work.
So your ‘girlfriend’ bought a house and moved out and you’ve never once been to her place and she got pregnant by another man who she still sees…but you too still love each other?
Wtf did I just read?
Dude that’s not your girl…you really should sit down and talk with a professional because this is toxic AF
Thank you for your honest opinion I definitely agree therapy is needed particularly at this point in my life. My parents have been telling me to stop giving her my time for years but I keep holding on?
First of all, did she tell you what to do in order to please her? If yes- you shouldn't have stopped trying unless she specifically asked for that. If not- she needs to work on her communication skills.
Second, it is for the best that you told her you are unhappy. The relationship is obviously not good and you need either some time apart or to have a lengthy constructive conversation.
No matter what you choose it will bee tough in the beginning, so I wish you luck ?
She was addicted to pot in the past. She smoked a lot of pot. I believe she is clean now, but not sure.
You are crazy simply because you want to smash his gaming system, an expensive item he most likely worked hard for. When you feel so angry that you have to suppress the need to take someone's prized possession and break it then you are the one with the bigger issue you frickin loony toon.
I have mentioned this to him, he says that it is not true because he would not prefer porn over me, but since I am not available, he has no other option, I don’t know how much sense it makes to me
As a family lawyer for nearly 20 years I have never, nor would I ever, tell a parent to ignore their child. I would have an emergency petition before the court to request an expedited custody hearing, but ignore your child for 3 years …. YTA and you did abandon your son.
I used to be in relationships like that and eventually, I grew bitter from being sexually frustrated and neglected. If he refuses to work on the issue despite you expressing how you feel, you can only leave. Focus on yourself, the distance between you two is already growing and not because you didn't try. You deserve more than that, and he has to know this is unhealthy.
And don't let him rope you back in with promised of change. He's had plenty of time to change and he refused to do so.
If she doesn’t remember what happened it was NOT consensual! If she was too intoxicated it’s NOT consensual. Even making out while not consenting is still a big deal that can still be SA.
This is ridiculous. Every time he burps tell him to shove that butt plug down his throat.
I'm married and my husband and I have separate bedrooms for 17 years. Girl, he's married or that's his girlfriend. Period.
Anyone who refers to women as “bitches” or “thots” or any of the other derogatory names in general ARE NOT WORTH YOUR TIME OR YOUR LIFE. My bf did this when we first started dating until I started calling myself that In general conversation and he would always say “stop don’t call yourself that” to which I would respond “it’s no different to when YOU call me that.” After that he stopped. He’ll slip up sometimes but when he does we’ll stop the conversation. We’ll talk about why he feels the need to call woman these names, if it makes him feel better about himself when he does and why even if someone is acting a certain way you still shouldn’t call them these names.
Unfortunately there’s no way to combat the farmers since the whole point is to be anonymous.
for whatever her reasons are… thats what we are here to discuss really. a woman can make a sex joke around me and all i would think is she is comfortable around me to joke like that and if we just met i would know that she is comfortable talking like that to everyone. the reasons are what we are discussing.
she does it for a reason is all.
My ex had one of those “younger sisters” too. In my case, he definitely wanted to be with her but she wasn't interested in a relationship with him so he settled for being her best friend. He would constantly go out of his way to do favors for her, buy her stuff, flirt with her inappropriately when I wasn't around, etc. He would tell her all of our private conversations, and she'd give her opinion and advice on everything. And if I said anything contradicting her, then I was the one who was wrong. Your situation could be different, but for me it was not worth the headache.
Your dad was way out of line, but so was your boss.
I would start looking for another job!
You know how she texts, you've been hoping she would change all this time and thats the problem. You really can't rely on someone changing for you. You both were very young when you started dating and it's very unlikely you have a future together you both grow into adults.
You're sabotaging the relationship by expecting her to do what she has never done, and expecting her to do it just because you want her to do it.
I don't see anything wrong in her giving short answers on the day to day chats, you're not so interesting all of the time that it requires deep long texts. This almost sounds codependent, which is not surprising because of how young you started dating, and how much you rely on her emotionally.
You are both adults now so if you want to make it work, try couples counseling. They should give tools on how to communicate and maybe what to expect in a healthy relationship. And consider talking to a therapist about your family situation, growing up in a neglectful home can make it hard to see what a healthy relationship looks like.
Nobody owes you to say yes or even respond in a manner that you are comfortable with It doesn't matter what her reasons are, if she didnt say yes then take it as a no but leave it at that. If you go down the road of you were rejected, she embarrassed you etc then you are going in the wrong direction Here's something to consider. If she responded in the way that you say she did. Maybe aomething about you shows her she is not comfortable in saying no, and then you really should reflect on your own vibe
Don’t EVER bring it up again. She’s probably going to avoid you now, anyway.
Don’t ask a woman out with that phrasing. Say something like “would you like to get coffee sometime? I think you’re an interesting person and I would love to get to know you better. I totally understand if you say no; no hard feelings”. Make it about being friends and don’t make it sound demanding or like she owes you.
There is no harm is letting them know what their mother has done. As they grow older they can then put this into context and if they decide they wish to have nothing to do with her, that is their choice.
She is a shit mother and a shit wife. No need to hide this fact from the kids.
Okay, you can stop acting stupid now and stop trolling now. There is absolutely no way that you don’t know what it means to be called a troll on the internet, can honestly think someone misspelling troll as “trill” was referring to Star Trek, not know that “Life finds a way” was said by Jeff Goldblum’s character Dr. Ian Malcom in the movie Jurassic Park, and think that anyone would believe that you would have a single “friend” offering to “boycott” this wedding for you, given the way you’ve been acting and stealing money they specifically gave for this specific bride. And your claims of writing a memoir for your PHd? No. You’re an internet troll and you need to get a life.
Well, Thanks for your concern but can you please keep your strident opinions to yourself.
It's not to judge you. It's for sexual safety. Nobody wants STD's. Even in committed relationships people get STD's. Wouldn't be fair you'd infect one or multiple guys without ever even informing them you were sleeping with others. Just be safe.
Also this is 100% the kind of guy who does any household task and thinks he’s doing his wife a “favour” and not just doing his part as a member of the household.
Some things need to remain a fantasy, you pushed him into it and now killed the relationship. Be the better person now and let him go. Accept your fault and let him find someone with who he can be happy with.
OP, if I found out my SO was settling for me and didn’t love me, I’d be so incredibly hurt. And I’d break up on the spot.
Have you talked to him? Do you know what his feelings are?
He’s 22
We were not getting along and she was moving away for school soon so we decided it was best to end things.
You're def right
I've ridden motorcycles and motor scooters for over 20 years without any serious accidents. Honestly, I wouldn't date anyone who will prevent me from riding a motorcycle.
Just take a safety class, buy the motorcycle, and save money to go to work.
He’s had the exact same amounts saved up as me and he makes 7 times more then me…..
So your ‘girlfriend’ bought a house and moved out and you’ve never once been to her place and she got pregnant by another man who she still sees…but you too still love each other?
Wtf did I just read?
Dude that’s not your girl…you really should sit down and talk with a professional because this is toxic AF
Thank you for your honest opinion I definitely agree therapy is needed particularly at this point in my life. My parents have been telling me to stop giving her my time for years but I keep holding on?
Learn from this experience and be honest going forward.
First of all, did she tell you what to do in order to please her? If yes- you shouldn't have stopped trying unless she specifically asked for that. If not- she needs to work on her communication skills.
Second, it is for the best that you told her you are unhappy. The relationship is obviously not good and you need either some time apart or to have a lengthy constructive conversation.
No matter what you choose it will bee tough in the beginning, so I wish you luck ?
Yup, get out while you can.