I(33F) asked my husband (31M) to wear a condom and he freaked out

In the last few months my husband had some doubtful behavior, enough that I needed to ask him if he previously cheated. Even though he denies it, I’ve asked your pet to start wearing condoms whenever we have sex, just until we work some things away with a therapist. I’m truthfully conflicted about whether or not a believe him and I want to give him the benefit it from the doubt so I felt like him wearing a condom would allow all of us to move forward in our relationship while still keeping myself “safe”. It would take a wide range of anxiety away for me.

When I asked him to get this done he freaked out. He or she said he believes a person shouldn’t have to wear a condom in a marriage which it takes away all the enjoyment for him to do this. He told me if I’m worried about pregnancy I should get on birth control (we have talked about this in the past and I explained which i am not able to be on birth control for a variety of reasons and that I had tried). He is been super mean toward me for the last couple of days and pretty much told me he won’t have sex with me if he has to wear a condom. He or she told me he needs time for you to mentally process my demand. He’s making me feel as if I am asking him to perform something horrible and i really don’t know how to respond.

I explained very truthfully why I was asking for this particular and that it would just be until we got through a few therapy (not forever) great response and reaction made me feel like I am simply an object HE OWNS to have sex with however he or she wants. My feelings did not seem to be relevant at all. I am really confused.