the truth is you can refuse to be very hot around people who make you feel uncomfortable/usafe. you don't need to justify yourself to anyone. it's your body and your boundaries. your friends are a-holes for telling you to just get over your trauma and for pushing your boundaries.
i'd tell them to find their own transport because you're not a taxi.
i don't think it's worth trying to hold onto these friendships tbh.
I don't like to be touched generally speaking. A 2 year old who doesn't know better is very different than a random coworker who thinks that touching me is perfectly acceptable. At work, I immediately jerk back and yell “I need to go home and take a silkwood shower!”
I only have to do it once, and it NEVER happens again. As a female engineer, you may come across as slightly dramatic at first but people will leave you alone and then over time they just talk to you about work, which is a win-win.
the truth is you can refuse to be very hot around people who make you feel uncomfortable/usafe. you don't need to justify yourself to anyone. it's your body and your boundaries. your friends are a-holes for telling you to just get over your trauma and for pushing your boundaries.
i'd tell them to find their own transport because you're not a taxi.
i don't think it's worth trying to hold onto these friendships tbh.
This is what I do.
I don't like to be touched generally speaking. A 2 year old who doesn't know better is very different than a random coworker who thinks that touching me is perfectly acceptable. At work, I immediately jerk back and yell “I need to go home and take a silkwood shower!”
I only have to do it once, and it NEVER happens again. As a female engineer, you may come across as slightly dramatic at first but people will leave you alone and then over time they just talk to you about work, which is a win-win.