Oh I didn’t see the not part! I know him, he won’t like it. I only want to ask him that to get it through his skull how much this porn watching hurts me lol
Can you provide your sources on child custody? Its true that women enter poverty but the same goes with men. Men tend to recover in 4 years. Where as women take 8.
Genuine question, I honestly don't mean this in a mean way: what do you see in him? What qualities does he have that made you fall for him? What does he do on a daily basis to show that he appreciates and cherishes you?
How is she fighting exactly? By disrespecting you and your decision to go no contact? By pushing you to do something against your will? By trying to keep you as her spare tire? By not letting you move on with your life? By playing with your head and heart?
She's fighting against you and not for you! Her “fighting so hard” is not because she loves you..
She's also “fighting hard” for her ex and at the same time sleep with you.
Her “fighting hard” will not make anyone feel loved coz she doesn't know what love is!
Try to unravel some of this. Clearly bio mom has issues and always will. You know that so expecting any kind of change with her is pointless. But you also can't cater infinitely to your girlfriend's own version of “issues”. Unless she's in heavy treatment for her alleged PTSD it's not going to get any better. You seem to view yourself as the hero standing up for the frail maiden against the evil dragon. In fact you're trapped between two difficult women, each of whom has mental illness. Maybe understanding that so you're not so on-sided on this will help you rationalize it. You have little leverage over your mother to force her to get into treatment. But your girlfriend is someone who's in your life at your pleasure and therefore with her you can insist that she work on her problems rather than just expecting the world to accommodate them. Mom might a monster but your girlfriend is going to encounter all kinds of challenging people in life. So she's going to need to become more resilient. Maybe focus on that.
I would’ve been like “It’s funny! I always saw you as a 5 and your friend an 8 too! that’s so crazy like it’s enough to break up!” Then I would’ve broke up with him. No way I’m dating someone who thinks my friend is hotter bc he must’ve checked her out
Honestly you should drop her. N understand that while you’re coming from a good mindset, you can’t force people to stop doing things and ya can’t just force whatever good intended action on them. Let me say ion think you were wrong per say, also this type of action is heavily dependent on how king you’ve known this woman.
Tell him to grow up and that pouting like a little bitch after a regular season loss is super unattractive and unacceptable. I get if a fan has a couple of rough days mentally after losing the Stanley Cup or equivalent in other sports, but come on dude. I (35M) watched the Phillies lose the World Series and Eagles lose the Super Bowl in a 90-day span; it sucked, but talking to my GF on the phone afterwards made me happy. There are 8 preseason, 82 regular season, & up to 16 potential playoff games each year and only one team wins in the end. Tell him to grow up, but also be aware if this pattern of behavior in other situations unrelated to sports because it's problematic af.
You have every right to be upset if you communicated that you'd like that sort of stuff to remain private. If you've done that, and she's still gone ahead and told her friends, I'd just end the relationship since she clearly doesn't respect you or your boundaries.
If you haven't had that conversation, then you need to.
It is controlling though because it’s being used to stalk you. I’m willing to bet that her showing up at the gym is her wanting to keep track of you and see if you’re cheating/flirting. My ex did the same thing and after a while it turned into fights about me just going to the gym/lunch to meet up with other guys and it became easier to stop doing those things even though they were things I enjoyed, just to avoid the fights. Of course you’re drained, relationships with people like this kill your mental health over time. Please don’t normalize any of this behavior.
What would possess you to go to the wedding of the two people who betrayed you the most? That’s absurd. Go book yourself a massage, grab a mimosa and forget about them. There’s no coming back from this.
You’re not wrong dude. She’s trash. Her mom is trash. Time to focus on your next steps and figure out how you can eliminate her from your life while being a great Dad. But if I’m you, I’m doing my best to never say more than a few words to her ever again and only discussing the kids.
Someone who fucks their boss
Oh I didn’t see the not part! I know him, he won’t like it. I only want to ask him that to get it through his skull how much this porn watching hurts me lol
Fun fact: in the U.K. it’s called TK Maxx
It makes a lot of sense if you want children. Conceiving and carrying to term are pretty indispensable aspects of having kids.
Can you provide your sources on child custody? Its true that women enter poverty but the same goes with men. Men tend to recover in 4 years. Where as women take 8.
Genuine question, I honestly don't mean this in a mean way: what do you see in him? What qualities does he have that made you fall for him? What does he do on a daily basis to show that he appreciates and cherishes you?
He is slow dumping you. Dump him now and kick him out.
How is she fighting exactly? By disrespecting you and your decision to go no contact? By pushing you to do something against your will? By trying to keep you as her spare tire? By not letting you move on with your life? By playing with your head and heart?
She's fighting against you and not for you! Her “fighting so hard” is not because she loves you..
She's also “fighting hard” for her ex and at the same time sleep with you.
Her “fighting hard” will not make anyone feel loved coz she doesn't know what love is!
Yes, that was just added, long after I posted.
thank you for the kind words
Personally, especially with her comments about the relationship, I think she was expecting this to be a proposal.
We originally met on a sugar dating website
I feel disrespected, not only as a partner, but as a woman
Honestly, you sound like a big hypocrite. What the faq did you expect from a sugar dating website?
Reddit has taught me that when people show you who they are, believe them. He has, not what he can be but what he really is.
You deserve so much more than can be's. You deserve always is.
Try to unravel some of this. Clearly bio mom has issues and always will. You know that so expecting any kind of change with her is pointless. But you also can't cater infinitely to your girlfriend's own version of “issues”. Unless she's in heavy treatment for her alleged PTSD it's not going to get any better. You seem to view yourself as the hero standing up for the frail maiden against the evil dragon. In fact you're trapped between two difficult women, each of whom has mental illness. Maybe understanding that so you're not so on-sided on this will help you rationalize it. You have little leverage over your mother to force her to get into treatment. But your girlfriend is someone who's in your life at your pleasure and therefore with her you can insist that she work on her problems rather than just expecting the world to accommodate them. Mom might a monster but your girlfriend is going to encounter all kinds of challenging people in life. So she's going to need to become more resilient. Maybe focus on that.
” he came home upset because apparently the transduction didn't work properly,” context?
I would’ve been like “It’s funny! I always saw you as a 5 and your friend an 8 too! that’s so crazy like it’s enough to break up!” Then I would’ve broke up with him. No way I’m dating someone who thinks my friend is hotter bc he must’ve checked her out
Honestly you should drop her. N understand that while you’re coming from a good mindset, you can’t force people to stop doing things and ya can’t just force whatever good intended action on them. Let me say ion think you were wrong per say, also this type of action is heavily dependent on how king you’ve known this woman.
Tell him to grow up and that pouting like a little bitch after a regular season loss is super unattractive and unacceptable. I get if a fan has a couple of rough days mentally after losing the Stanley Cup or equivalent in other sports, but come on dude. I (35M) watched the Phillies lose the World Series and Eagles lose the Super Bowl in a 90-day span; it sucked, but talking to my GF on the phone afterwards made me happy. There are 8 preseason, 82 regular season, & up to 16 potential playoff games each year and only one team wins in the end. Tell him to grow up, but also be aware if this pattern of behavior in other situations unrelated to sports because it's problematic af.
You have every right to be upset if you communicated that you'd like that sort of stuff to remain private. If you've done that, and she's still gone ahead and told her friends, I'd just end the relationship since she clearly doesn't respect you or your boundaries.
If you haven't had that conversation, then you need to.
Where in my post did it say anything about paying for sex?
I hope that for them too.
It is controlling though because it’s being used to stalk you. I’m willing to bet that her showing up at the gym is her wanting to keep track of you and see if you’re cheating/flirting. My ex did the same thing and after a while it turned into fights about me just going to the gym/lunch to meet up with other guys and it became easier to stop doing those things even though they were things I enjoyed, just to avoid the fights. Of course you’re drained, relationships with people like this kill your mental health over time. Please don’t normalize any of this behavior.
You can’t change other people.
So is he not done?
What’s her point that he’s fine?
So your daughter gets to suffer for your decisions? Bad dad.
Talk to the store manager, tell him what's going on.
Then go to the police. Have the store manager back you up.
You can do the paperwork for harassment and stalking.
Have a cheap camera on the perimeter of your home/apartment. Footage of them bothering you can land them in jail.
What would possess you to go to the wedding of the two people who betrayed you the most? That’s absurd. Go book yourself a massage, grab a mimosa and forget about them. There’s no coming back from this.
how about she moves and solves all these problems at once, then a 30 year old man wont have to yell at a 70 year old woman in her own home.
what reason, can you give me, where she doesn't just move out?
Its been 8 months, I can pay rent, with one month at a minimum wage job,
the mom is FED UP to be taking care of a grown woman, with a boyfriend who is always around, buying dildos and bathrobes.,
at age 30 I had enough money saved to pay 10 years rent in any city, what's her problem, whats yours, why are you so mad, i suggest moving out,
I havent been a professor in 10 years, I havent worked either, I am rich now, from investing, whats your problem.,
I understand, and I’m working on that part of myself. I will be better.
So did you send her some money?
You’re not wrong dude. She’s trash. Her mom is trash. Time to focus on your next steps and figure out how you can eliminate her from your life while being a great Dad. But if I’m you, I’m doing my best to never say more than a few words to her ever again and only discussing the kids.
His vice is alcohol. He’s drug free. Alcohol is a tricky subject because it’s legal and normalized.