Ahh, that makes sense! She is trying to match her responses to the good things you do, instead of the bad things she is used to. We are familiar with that too. It takes time to break out of the habits you have as a victim of abuse (often we build them as protection). If someone is always telling you your words mean nothing and devalues your opinions, you aren't going to be very communicative in general. That's the instinct she is talking about.
It sounds like he broke up with you, went no contact so you wouldn’t be strung along, but still wished you well. Once you were firmly set in a new relationship he let you know he was happy for you.
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In my experiences pregnancy makes a lot in the head and heart. Also the first time after giving birth she will need time to sort things out. I would take her seriously, always but at the moment you should not follow that through till you three are settled with each other.
It can be! In this case, however, it’s just sad.
Ahh, that makes sense! She is trying to match her responses to the good things you do, instead of the bad things she is used to. We are familiar with that too. It takes time to break out of the habits you have as a victim of abuse (often we build them as protection). If someone is always telling you your words mean nothing and devalues your opinions, you aren't going to be very communicative in general. That's the instinct she is talking about.
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It sounds like he broke up with you, went no contact so you wouldn’t be strung along, but still wished you well. Once you were firmly set in a new relationship he let you know he was happy for you.
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In my experiences pregnancy makes a lot in the head and heart. Also the first time after giving birth she will need time to sort things out. I would take her seriously, always but at the moment you should not follow that through till you three are settled with each other.
i’m sick of you ignoring me. call me(: