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“He claims he would never cheat in person and only did it because she lived overseas and he couldn’t actually act on it.”- Bur he would see her in person at the wedding. He just told you that he couldn’t act on cheating with her because she’s too far away to get to. He will once she’s on his face. He is trying to have his cake and eat it too. Now he has to come up with an excuse to travel to get to his friend’s wedding to see her. He has a year to plot. He is showing you that he is hung up on his ex. Your relationship isn’t going to any further if you try to it would be under false pretenses. He already made his choice when he wouldn’t save his relationship by not going to the wedding. He had every intention to hook up and continue that inappropriate interaction in person. It’s time to let go of the relationship. He’ll sext you eventually since he has a habit of that with ex’s.
To clarify the found nudes (happened about 7 years ago) and I don’t know if I can trust the ex-wives sex timeline. It’s gone from recent, to months ago, to years ago. They both exhaust me and confuse me. I’m about to just hand him back and walk away.
No where near enough trust or honesty in this relationship for cohabitation. Get out of there. There's tons of way better men out there; give yourself some time to meet some of them.
I can’t that would be illegal. Trust me I would if I could. If I enter the US with the intent to stay then that’s misrepresenting yourself to their Customs and Boarder protection. The ‘loophole’ I’d guess you’d call it, is that because we didn’t know of this option and I was planning to return home, legally I haven’t misrepresented myself and can therefore stay and the proof of this is the loose ends I have at the moment and had on entry as I understand it from the lawyers explanation.
If what you suggested was legal I would do it that way, especially if it would only be 4 months apart after all the time we’ve already managed, but unfortunately it’s not.
I’m in two-minds. 1) you start your relationship off with a lie, which could mean your building something that could have been strong on a house of cards. So you should tell her.
2) You have really only just started dating, and it wasn’t official until a week before the trip (which doesn’t make it all that much better). If it was a year down the line, then I’d say you have to tell her, but you’ve only really just started to get to know each other. A month isn’t a long time.
It’s naked to say what you should do. I would want to know, but also, there’s a perspective that so long as you identify it and never do it again, and genuinely never get yourself into such an obviously stupid situation again, then you shouldn’t tell her. However, I truly doubt that you’ll never set up the dominos ‘by accident’ and then knock them over. You minimise your mistake a lot, like ‘I didn’t even like it’ and ‘she was talking to me, so I fingered her when she asked me to. I didn’t know what else to do!’ You can’t be that stupid, so don’t pretend to be. You don’t know yourself well enough to predict your actions, and so alcohol and other factors gets the blame.
Regardless of what you choose, you need to develop a stronger locus-of-control, and figure out what triggers these sorts of actions. You said you’ve never cheated, but maybe you just never had the opportunity without consequences before.
She probably doesn’t like it any more than you do.
But tattoo removal is expensive and painful, so I’d be empathetic that she hasn’t jumped at the chance. So ask about it, but don’t make this a massive obstacle to your relationship if she balks.
It sounds like he is saving up his money for himself and not helping you and then complaining when he can’t save all the money he wants to. It also sounds like he is petty and passive aggressive. This relationship sounds more tit for tat and counting who does what. A business transaction more than a loving relationship. He’s comfortable in the relationship, which is why he stays so long and continues to. He makes WAY more than you but expects you to pay MORE than 50/50 is also financial abuse. You can’t leave if you don’t have the money too. You’re a mother to a boy right now, not a partner.
You do all the housework and pay more in every other way including financially while he does little to nothing for your relationship in building a future. Is this really the life you want for yourself? Always being broke AND doing all the household work while working full time only to be broke at the end of the day?
I know you love him which is why he is able to do this to you and he knows it. Expecting more from you but doing less and then complaining. This is your future if you stay… broke, tired, and drained of all recourses? I know you love him but he isn’t showing you the love and support you need.
Talk to him one last time but I don’t think you’re going to get the results you expect because he is happy the way things are, you broke while he has total control over you financially. When you don’t get the outcome you want… make a plan to leave, so you can start taking care of yourself the way he is only taking care of himself. Relationships should be partnerships, not one taking advantage of the other because they make more money. A relationship isn’t 50/50 when one doesn’t have the means to make it happen.
“He claims he would never cheat in person and only did it because she lived overseas and he couldn’t actually act on it.”- Bur he would see her in person at the wedding. He just told you that he couldn’t act on cheating with her because she’s too far away to get to. He will once she’s on his face. He is trying to have his cake and eat it too. Now he has to come up with an excuse to travel to get to his friend’s wedding to see her. He has a year to plot. He is showing you that he is hung up on his ex. Your relationship isn’t going to any further if you try to it would be under false pretenses. He already made his choice when he wouldn’t save his relationship by not going to the wedding. He had every intention to hook up and continue that inappropriate interaction in person. It’s time to let go of the relationship. He’ll sext you eventually since he has a habit of that with ex’s.
If that’s what you want to do then do it. Do you need validation from us telling you to do it?
Obviously he’s wrong for not paying rent. He’s not playing his part. I would feel the exact same way as you.
To clarify the found nudes (happened about 7 years ago) and I don’t know if I can trust the ex-wives sex timeline. It’s gone from recent, to months ago, to years ago. They both exhaust me and confuse me. I’m about to just hand him back and walk away.
No where near enough trust or honesty in this relationship for cohabitation. Get out of there. There's tons of way better men out there; give yourself some time to meet some of them.
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I find it so funny that you mentioned this yet you continue to chase this fairytale. Good luck finding a way to trust that asshole again.
I can’t that would be illegal. Trust me I would if I could. If I enter the US with the intent to stay then that’s misrepresenting yourself to their Customs and Boarder protection. The ‘loophole’ I’d guess you’d call it, is that because we didn’t know of this option and I was planning to return home, legally I haven’t misrepresented myself and can therefore stay and the proof of this is the loose ends I have at the moment and had on entry as I understand it from the lawyers explanation.
If what you suggested was legal I would do it that way, especially if it would only be 4 months apart after all the time we’ve already managed, but unfortunately it’s not.
I’m in two-minds. 1) you start your relationship off with a lie, which could mean your building something that could have been strong on a house of cards. So you should tell her.
2) You have really only just started dating, and it wasn’t official until a week before the trip (which doesn’t make it all that much better). If it was a year down the line, then I’d say you have to tell her, but you’ve only really just started to get to know each other. A month isn’t a long time.
It’s naked to say what you should do. I would want to know, but also, there’s a perspective that so long as you identify it and never do it again, and genuinely never get yourself into such an obviously stupid situation again, then you shouldn’t tell her. However, I truly doubt that you’ll never set up the dominos ‘by accident’ and then knock them over. You minimise your mistake a lot, like ‘I didn’t even like it’ and ‘she was talking to me, so I fingered her when she asked me to. I didn’t know what else to do!’ You can’t be that stupid, so don’t pretend to be. You don’t know yourself well enough to predict your actions, and so alcohol and other factors gets the blame.
Regardless of what you choose, you need to develop a stronger locus-of-control, and figure out what triggers these sorts of actions. You said you’ve never cheated, but maybe you just never had the opportunity without consequences before.
Yeah I understand that, when I did it I didn’t think through, it was my bad but I didn’t do it with bad intentions
She probably doesn’t like it any more than you do.
But tattoo removal is expensive and painful, so I’d be empathetic that she hasn’t jumped at the chance. So ask about it, but don’t make this a massive obstacle to your relationship if she balks.
It sounds like he is saving up his money for himself and not helping you and then complaining when he can’t save all the money he wants to. It also sounds like he is petty and passive aggressive. This relationship sounds more tit for tat and counting who does what. A business transaction more than a loving relationship. He’s comfortable in the relationship, which is why he stays so long and continues to. He makes WAY more than you but expects you to pay MORE than 50/50 is also financial abuse. You can’t leave if you don’t have the money too. You’re a mother to a boy right now, not a partner.
You do all the housework and pay more in every other way including financially while he does little to nothing for your relationship in building a future. Is this really the life you want for yourself? Always being broke AND doing all the household work while working full time only to be broke at the end of the day?
I know you love him which is why he is able to do this to you and he knows it. Expecting more from you but doing less and then complaining. This is your future if you stay… broke, tired, and drained of all recourses? I know you love him but he isn’t showing you the love and support you need.
Talk to him one last time but I don’t think you’re going to get the results you expect because he is happy the way things are, you broke while he has total control over you financially. When you don’t get the outcome you want… make a plan to leave, so you can start taking care of yourself the way he is only taking care of himself. Relationships should be partnerships, not one taking advantage of the other because they make more money. A relationship isn’t 50/50 when one doesn’t have the means to make it happen.