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🙁 Aw
It's a really tough situation, and moreover you seem like a genuinely nice person
I think you should def subtly get some advice from a local service that can help you. Hopefully they are able to help with the legalities around the pets too
Don't wait for it to escalate further/to become more trapped. Nobody should put up with abuse like that
i know this sucks as i was in your position before but there is not much one can do if he isnt poly himself too. I am sorry but the relationship is over and the best thing is to end it right here on good terms and avoid it in the future.
Well today I feel like a lunatic to be honest. I’m Never taking to her again. I’m seriously so done right now. I’ve appreciated everyone’s comments so much. I know I have made mistakes and I think it’s time I corrected them.
This isn’t really about the cost of his gift, but the low thought and effort. If he wrote you a song or painted you a picture or made it a very thoughtful gift it would be meaningful. He’s not going to stop being frugal so you need him to understand you need the effort. Maybe you guys should have a set amount of money you spend on each others gifts.
No. From the title I thought he paid for it and then I would say you should even if it’s not legally required. It wasn’t his and it’s your family heirloom sooo hell no.
Stepmom from hell. What a bitch. As a woman, I’m on the look out for other women. What audacity. Your dad too, but shouldn’t atleast one of them had you in their minds??? What dix.
Honey, why have you spent 3 years “being patient” with this sexist nasty behaviour? Like….you know that’s not a good, generous thing you’re doing right? All you’re doing is massively fucking yourself over in service to a guy who clearly isn’t man enough to handle the idea that your whole life hasn’t revolved around him as his dick. It’s 2023, there are other dudes out there who won’t shame you just for being a normal human being.
do you work to support yourself? and is it a class you need a C or better in? if both answers are yes, im feeling like between picking up extra shifts, taking a needed and well known difficult class, and a 20 hour commute to your bf, you’re placing the blame on the wrong thing…
Honestly I would reconsider a relationship with someone who doesn't make you feel safe. For me personally finding someone who makes me feel safe and seen is one of the most important things. I wouldn't be with someone who doesn't do this.
Just to be straight, I get it that I have the responsibility to remember the things that she says , no denial.. what I was trying to say is that, yes we should always pay attention to what our partners says, but isn't it inevitable at times where we really made mistakes and forgotten about what our partners says ?
I mean do u really wanna jot down everything in the conversation such as the time that u had your breakfast and the time you sleep everyday ?
There is 0% chance that your relationship will continue after the 30 day break where you sleep with others.
Either you or him will find someone who they catch feelings for, or you or him will resent the other when you get back because of what you did during the break, causing the new relationship to implode.
So do the mature thing and end the relationship for good.
And stop spouting the BS about loving him, if you did you wouldn’t be wanting to fuck other people, because he would be enough for you.
Oh and in case you ignore everything else, remember that when you tell him about your idea, he is going to be angry, he is going to think (and it’s probably the truth) that you are already cheating on him in some way, and he is likely never going to want to see you or hear from you again.
No, this isn't an option. The only way I would ever except a buyout is if I lost passion in this business, and I haven't. It isn't about the money. I could retire right now and not have an issue, but I know that this business can continue to evolve. I've put in 13 years of hard work and dedication and I will continue to do so. I've gotten opportunities that I thought were impossible to reach because of my job and I love what I do.
I loved her, I really did, but we're allowed to move on with our romantic lives.
What do you think you will gain? Emotional satisfaction by telling her off? You might get some short term satisfaction, but all it will really do is prolong the process of moving on. Delete the text and forget about it
Your boyfriend indicated he wanted to spend alone time with you, and be intimate with you before leaving on a trip, where you won't be able to see each other. What it sounds like he said is that he wanted an evening home alone with just you and to be intimate with you. What you heard is “I only want sex.”
What he heard from you in response is “I don't want to be intimate with you or have sex before you have to leave.
His response is out of hurt, because he believes you don't want to intimate with him..
Your feelings are hurt because you think he said “I only want sex.”
You are both talking past each other, and likely hurting your own feelings. Talk to him about and be honest. I don't know either of you…but I sure as heck know a lot of unhappy people in bad relationships (including divorced)who let things fester and let communication break down.
It is ok to desire sex with your partner. There is nothing inherently wrong or bad with that.
It is also OK to not be in the mood for sex..but if you can't communicate about it without fighting, the relationship is doomed.
That’s not okay! You shouldn’t have to go through that after working so hard. She should be proud of you instead of shaming you. You deserve os much better!
🙁 Aw
It's a really tough situation, and moreover you seem like a genuinely nice person
I think you should def subtly get some advice from a local service that can help you. Hopefully they are able to help with the legalities around the pets too
Don't wait for it to escalate further/to become more trapped. Nobody should put up with abuse like that
i know this sucks as i was in your position before but there is not much one can do if he isnt poly himself too. I am sorry but the relationship is over and the best thing is to end it right here on good terms and avoid it in the future.
Well today I feel like a lunatic to be honest. I’m Never taking to her again. I’m seriously so done right now. I’ve appreciated everyone’s comments so much. I know I have made mistakes and I think it’s time I corrected them.
?. My best friend reminds me of that question when I’m having a guy problem
No need to be rude
This isn’t really about the cost of his gift, but the low thought and effort. If he wrote you a song or painted you a picture or made it a very thoughtful gift it would be meaningful. He’s not going to stop being frugal so you need him to understand you need the effort. Maybe you guys should have a set amount of money you spend on each others gifts.
A new-born is a 20 – 60 hour per week new job (depending on the baby). And it sounds like you're doing all the work, and he sees none of it.
No. From the title I thought he paid for it and then I would say you should even if it’s not legally required. It wasn’t his and it’s your family heirloom sooo hell no.
Get a restraining order.
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54 m and 33 f. Damn ur dad sounds like trash. Op I think you’re right and should let it be. It was his decision to let his wife do this.
Stepmom from hell. What a bitch. As a woman, I’m on the look out for other women. What audacity. Your dad too, but shouldn’t atleast one of them had you in their minds??? What dix.
Honey, why have you spent 3 years “being patient” with this sexist nasty behaviour? Like….you know that’s not a good, generous thing you’re doing right? All you’re doing is massively fucking yourself over in service to a guy who clearly isn’t man enough to handle the idea that your whole life hasn’t revolved around him as his dick. It’s 2023, there are other dudes out there who won’t shame you just for being a normal human being.
You have your answer bro
do you work to support yourself? and is it a class you need a C or better in? if both answers are yes, im feeling like between picking up extra shifts, taking a needed and well known difficult class, and a 20 hour commute to your bf, you’re placing the blame on the wrong thing…
Honestly I would reconsider a relationship with someone who doesn't make you feel safe. For me personally finding someone who makes me feel safe and seen is one of the most important things. I wouldn't be with someone who doesn't do this.
Just to be straight, I get it that I have the responsibility to remember the things that she says , no denial.. what I was trying to say is that, yes we should always pay attention to what our partners says, but isn't it inevitable at times where we really made mistakes and forgotten about what our partners says ?
I mean do u really wanna jot down everything in the conversation such as the time that u had your breakfast and the time you sleep everyday ?
If you guys love each other and put focus on open communication and honesty then cheating isn’t something that will just unavoidably happen
If you want to break up, just do it.
There is 0% chance that your relationship will continue after the 30 day break where you sleep with others.
Either you or him will find someone who they catch feelings for, or you or him will resent the other when you get back because of what you did during the break, causing the new relationship to implode.
So do the mature thing and end the relationship for good.
And stop spouting the BS about loving him, if you did you wouldn’t be wanting to fuck other people, because he would be enough for you.
Oh and in case you ignore everything else, remember that when you tell him about your idea, he is going to be angry, he is going to think (and it’s probably the truth) that you are already cheating on him in some way, and he is likely never going to want to see you or hear from you again.
No, this isn't an option. The only way I would ever except a buyout is if I lost passion in this business, and I haven't. It isn't about the money. I could retire right now and not have an issue, but I know that this business can continue to evolve. I've put in 13 years of hard work and dedication and I will continue to do so. I've gotten opportunities that I thought were impossible to reach because of my job and I love what I do.
I loved her, I really did, but we're allowed to move on with our romantic lives.
What do you think you will gain? Emotional satisfaction by telling her off? You might get some short term satisfaction, but all it will really do is prolong the process of moving on. Delete the text and forget about it
This is child abuse. People having children they can’t support need to be charged for child abuse.
If you have a pet you can’t feed, house or provide vet care for they charge you for animal abuse and remove the pet from that environment.
Bring a kid into the world do the same thing and it’s all good.
We are a F’d up society.
Sex in a relationship is very important.
Your boyfriend indicated he wanted to spend alone time with you, and be intimate with you before leaving on a trip, where you won't be able to see each other. What it sounds like he said is that he wanted an evening home alone with just you and to be intimate with you. What you heard is “I only want sex.”
What he heard from you in response is “I don't want to be intimate with you or have sex before you have to leave.
His response is out of hurt, because he believes you don't want to intimate with him..
Your feelings are hurt because you think he said “I only want sex.”
You are both talking past each other, and likely hurting your own feelings. Talk to him about and be honest. I don't know either of you…but I sure as heck know a lot of unhappy people in bad relationships (including divorced)who let things fester and let communication break down.
It is ok to desire sex with your partner. There is nothing inherently wrong or bad with that.
It is also OK to not be in the mood for sex..but if you can't communicate about it without fighting, the relationship is doomed.
That’s not okay! You shouldn’t have to go through that after working so hard. She should be proud of you instead of shaming you. You deserve os much better!