You’re not Proud, you’re deeply insecure. You clearly don’t make enough money to put such lopsided rules on your partner. Had you been a millionaire with over flowing extra wealth, the rule that, your partner shouldn’t spend anything, would make sense. It would still be controlling and mildly abusive. But at least it would make sense for super wealthy guy to have that kind of pride. You on the other hand are demanding a status which you seem to be very far from, since you couldn’t even afford an unplanned meal for her happiness. This isn’t pride – it’s insecurity that’s making you act like this.
You can pleasure her other ways without penetration
You’re not Proud, you’re deeply insecure. You clearly don’t make enough money to put such lopsided rules on your partner. Had you been a millionaire with over flowing extra wealth, the rule that, your partner shouldn’t spend anything, would make sense. It would still be controlling and mildly abusive. But at least it would make sense for super wealthy guy to have that kind of pride. You on the other hand are demanding a status which you seem to be very far from, since you couldn’t even afford an unplanned meal for her happiness. This isn’t pride – it’s insecurity that’s making you act like this.