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This is entirely the point. He is allowed to have a past. She can be upset that she saw it. She can request that he delete it. Then she can move on, or tank her relationship because of it.
That sounds super toxic. I wouldn’t be upset with my girl about that. You shouldn’t be made to feel insecure about yourself like that.
in the US this is true. And she would be well and good away, time to set up their lives away from these maniacs before he ever got her into court for any custody.
Looking back, I can see how he was comparing me and her. I didn’t know what he was doing at the time but she knew about me so I guess she was telling him everything he wanted to hear and I was questioning him so he went her way. It’s so messed up to be compared and thrown away this way. But, she believes that has always wanted to be with her and was just biding his time with me until she was ready and that’s what it’s looking like. I hope they don’t work out because it’s such an injustice.
I'm sorry?? Why would you even start a romantic relationship with someone if you're….aromantic? The entire structure and point of relationships (outside of platonic or sexual ones) is for romance and romantic love. I'm not sure why you would even enter that relationship in the first place knowing how you are.
You cannot avoid hurting her feelings. Theres no way of telling her and no way of breaking up with her without hurting her. She loves you, and her being told that you don't feel anything romantic toward her is going to hurt her feelings no matter how you phrase it.
You need to break up with that poor girl and let her go find someone that gives her the love that she deserves. She sounds like she has a looot to give with the long letter, so PLEASE let break up with her and let her find someone that will love that love as well as love her the same. Maybe don't tell her Christmas day, but you NEED to break it off with her asap. Don't let her stay in a relationship where the give and take of love is unequal and what she gives isn't received well. Truly, staying in a relationship with her would be a huge dick move
Didn't even try. Just sent her that lame ass text after, probably hearing a rumour. Or not enough balls to break it off. Sounds like the kinda guy to bring his mom on first date, to pay for his food.
Does he think you will be saving yourself for 30y for him, before you even knew him? That's illogical and ego-centrical.
You are describing my ex. He was younger but he actually seriously told me he expected me to have saved myself for him – at which point I was 20 years old and had known him for 3 months…
Advice to the OP – there's a good reason you're not there yet with him, just leave… You don't need his insecurities.
Well, you can let her down pretty easily by being kind.
The incompatibility is not with who she is as a person and you can still be friends.
She just has to understand, that you’re not into vaginas.
Maybe you're right. It's just a hot pill to swallow since I didn't do anything wrong, and I feel like she did (breaking promises).
Should I hold any hope that we might get back anything we once had. We live in a small town so seeing each other is pretty much inevitable. I still want to be civil i.e. I'm having a party and want to invite her hopefully she would do the same for me.
Yeah actually that makes sense.
I think the first guy definitely did. I wouldn't say more than a few words to him (social anxiety sucks) and he would still try to talk to me, when most people give up and I don't blame them. Very his personality to do so. Initially I would only ever speak to him through email about customer related problems and I would be ruthless in my emails (still professional but would call shit as I saw it and it was all directed at his manager anyway but he was cc'd in to every single one of them) but speak to me in person and I would be mute, except for when I'd bump into him after I'd had a lot to drink and I wouldn't hold back shit talking the manager and the company in general
I think second guy did to but in a different way, we talked a lot about mental health at the start and he mentioned I'm quite similar to how he was at my age. And has probably noticed that I'm more sociable and have come out of my shell a lot more since talking to him.
She understands. She just doesn’t care
You don’t need to justify your point of view. Neither does he, you’re both adults to make your life choices.
You say it’s the only relationship in your life where you’re treated normally, but he talks about “the lord” with you and constantly asks you to go to church. This doesn’t sound normal to me. You could both be into the lord and church or not, but him trying to change you isn’t good.
Sounds like you finally shared your true feelings and good for you. If you feel trauma, deep unease or discomfort in any situation you SHOULD tell your boyfriend and be honest. There is a book called The Gift of Fear and encourages us to trust our instincts and not fall into a situation bad for us.
He wants a girlfriend all into church who wants to revolve her life around church, have a church wedding, have church babies and baptize the kids In church and bring them to church until they’re 18.
You want a boyfriend that… when you tell him you have trauma and struggle about something (in this case religion) .. you want a boyfriend that listens to your struggles and sympathizes with you. Who doesn’t try to make you something you aren’t. A boyfriend that doesn’t always try and make you do something you have trauma over is a caring and understanding person.
Despite knowing you have issues and struggles with religion he STILL badgers you to go all the time, preaches to you and wants you to schedule your life around church. He’s not listening to you. He doesn’t have interest in supporting you, and he wants to mold you into something you’re currently not.
If you want to stay with him and be his church wife you might be fine or it might all become too much for you and you feel suffocated.
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It’s the lack of compassion about your trauma that most concerns me about the boyfriend. You say you’re stressed about it and he doesn’t care, he just keeps doing it. A person who loves and respects you would stop doing something immediately if they knew it causes you guilt, harm, trauma or stress.
I'm a semester away from my bachelor's in the same. You're full of shit.
Ah the classic all women are hoes. You seem charming.
Thanks for taking the time to leave a response. I definitely don’t have an issue with drinking. I am more trying to be mature and not involve myself in the situation for the sake of bride and groom. There would be lots of drinking at any wedding and I wouldn’t if I attended but more from other guests making comments to me (guests attending know what has happened) or even from her approaching me. I definitely don’t blame her, I just don’t want to be in the same room as her. Despite all of this I do not want to attend which I think really is fair despite what he does. I understand it’s a difficult situation hence why I am asking the question.
If he’s intentionally hiding her from you then something shady is going on. What could a 41 year old man have in common with a girl half his age? And he’s having lunch with her, “hanging out” with her in his car, and buying her things. Boot his ass out.
Oh. Wow. Um. Thanks (?) for sharing.
I didn’t even need to read past the first few sentences to realize OP’s GF was just using him to take care of her and her son. Sorry it happened to you OP.
Just let the man get the occasional tug. It's all good.