I can conceive of a situation where it wouldn't be break up worthy, but maybe I'm too trusting. Maybe her friends spent too much, and she needed to make a snap decision to cover them. And, in this scenario, her friends, as well as her,would pay him back ASAP. Maybe the intent wasn't to defraud him. However, in the event the intention was to defraud him OP needs to GTFO.
He told me it was because he expressed to the therapist that he felt suicidal, but that he didn’t have any plans to actually harm himself. And they decided that was enough to admit him involuntarily.
Seems to me it goes way deeper than him being insecure, bitter and threatened by your success. Seems to me he's misogynistic. If you're earning money, are active and basically have a life outside of your home too you make him feel less than/threatened and his woman shouldn't be better than him/above him in any capacity that matters. On the other hand, if you were at home, taking care of kids, cooking and cleaning his view of you being less worthy would be reinforced which would make him despise you as a less worthy human being. Whatever you do, you cannot really win in this relationship.
This is what you get for not setting boundaries to children when they were growing up. And yet, some people will think is the weird one and sexualising everything.
I understand where the anxiety is, I really do. But working remote makes it really difficult to connect with your coworker. And you said she’s new to the company. Maybe she just wants to make friends and network connections. And after 11 years together, it shouldn’t be a new idea to want a night with friends and without your partner.
If this guy does try to make a move, do you trust her to lay down the boundary? Maybe you just need some reassurance from her that should something develop, she will clearly and swiftly stop it.
Yep you just need to tell him. Show him this post.
You can say add, “ Iove that you want to meet them and I’m excited to introduce you, but I plan to be with you a long time, so let’s do that on another occasion!”
Because one he doesn’t have to and why are you still with him ??♀️
He doesn't care for giving. He only wants to take. You said it yourself -he just lays there.
He has ZERO interest in pleasing you. You need to ask him why he feels this way.
I can conceive of a situation where it wouldn't be break up worthy, but maybe I'm too trusting. Maybe her friends spent too much, and she needed to make a snap decision to cover them. And, in this scenario, her friends, as well as her,would pay him back ASAP. Maybe the intent wasn't to defraud him. However, in the event the intention was to defraud him OP needs to GTFO.
Uh that isn’t cheating you got assaulted. Go to the police and then tell your girl before the “best friend” twists the story on you.
Are you asking for advice, or validation?
It seems like you're trying to find a way to make him stop worrying about you when you're out drinking that requires no effort on your part.
I don't know about you, but if someone I care about is an hour late I worry. Because it's a simple thing to send a text. Unless they just don't care.
He told me it was because he expressed to the therapist that he felt suicidal, but that he didn’t have any plans to actually harm himself. And they decided that was enough to admit him involuntarily.
Seems to me it goes way deeper than him being insecure, bitter and threatened by your success. Seems to me he's misogynistic. If you're earning money, are active and basically have a life outside of your home too you make him feel less than/threatened and his woman shouldn't be better than him/above him in any capacity that matters. On the other hand, if you were at home, taking care of kids, cooking and cleaning his view of you being less worthy would be reinforced which would make him despise you as a less worthy human being. Whatever you do, you cannot really win in this relationship.
He's the kind of guy who thinks getting raped is still a form of cheating.
This is what you get for not setting boundaries to children when they were growing up. And yet, some people will think is the weird one and sexualising everything.
Exactly. Then they wonder why she was with someone so controlling.
I understand where the anxiety is, I really do. But working remote makes it really difficult to connect with your coworker. And you said she’s new to the company. Maybe she just wants to make friends and network connections. And after 11 years together, it shouldn’t be a new idea to want a night with friends and without your partner.
If this guy does try to make a move, do you trust her to lay down the boundary? Maybe you just need some reassurance from her that should something develop, she will clearly and swiftly stop it.
Lord, get a lawyer fast. You can probably get full custody. WTH is she thinking?
Do what feels right to you. Your feeling comes first, sort them out then decide
n I didn’t really feel comfortable with her keeping in contact with him
this is weird.
are you allowing them at your wedding?
Yep you just need to tell him. Show him this post.
You can say add, “ Iove that you want to meet them and I’m excited to introduce you, but I plan to be with you a long time, so let’s do that on another occasion!”