Sounds like you have matured past her. You are completely correct, too. Who wants to go thru life complaining, who wants to hear people complain?
If you don't think this will change and you don't want to be around it, move on. There are plenty of young women who are grateful and happy with what they get. This is a mindset that your girlfriend does not have.
You are less likely to find a partner that is grateful and happy if you are with your current girlfriend and it is not kind to look for someone else while you are with her.
Clorox wipes??? Jeez that’s gross and creepy at the same time. I wouldn’t worry about it, just freshen up once you get ready to hook up and you’ll be fine. She probably has some weird sense of smell or taste because she uses Clorox wipes as a baby wipe.
This sounds so weird. Is this person your girlfriend? Why are you referring to her as date. She has a spare key. It seems like you’re downplaying your relationship. If this person is your friend for so many years why don’t you know their birthday. Why would they need to lie to you to get you out of the house. It’s all very strange and I wouldnt stick around either. Why couldn’t you wait to deliver this gift yourself. It doesn’t add up.
Ok no, this is not normal. This is physical abuse. You are being abused. You need to put a stop to this right now. Get out and never interact with this person again.
First break the news to yourself that you want to be single, then let him know… and it’s not anyone’s fault nor does it need to be viewed as a negative thing, but as we grow and change who we are, it isn’t guaranteed that we will still be compatible with our partner later on. Not enough info to make the call for sure but generally speaking, you’re language is such that you want freedom. He may be open to a relationship where you live separately, and maybe that works for you guys, but it sounds difficult and relationships are already plenty difficult without unnecessary hurdles
My family was also like this with my ex after I kicked him out for emotionally cheating on me multiple times. He even lived with my dad for a year after we broke up cause he had nowhere else to go. My dad had asked if it was okay before he moved him in but my dad didn't try pressuring me to get back with him. But the rest of my family said I was over-reacting and that he was a good guy and I shouldn't have broken up with him because the cheating wasn't physical. I went off on them all and they finally accepted it for the most part.
I’m not sure if you’re ready for this plot twist but I’m actually the extroverted one believe it or not, Atleast relative to us. When I’m out I don’t really mind talking to people and I’m even pretty outgoing. I just don’t really look out for people to talk to or anything. She’s not outgoing she’s just very energetic and excitable and loud and what not. She tends to say things that are kinda cringy sometimes, or she’ll breakout into a song or something and I’m just like “what are you doing?”. I don’t really know how to explain this dynamic properly.
Oof yeah I’m not a porn girl either. Not really because of the comparison with other women or anything but because of the ethics.
I also think men watching lesbian sex has a certain…gross aspect to it because you’re sexualizing a relationship that theoretically shouldn’t involve you. It kinda implies imo, that you see all women as sexually consumable, even the ones that don’t even like men. I get that most men don’t think that deeply about it; it’s just “2 women is better than 1 yay!” But from a woman’s perspective — it’s upsetting that you sexualize wlw relationships.
From your gf’s perspective, she can never be 2 women. She can never perform what you were watching. It’s easy to see how that would lead to insecurity/inadequacy.
Agreed. Dating sucks for most people. It just is very hot to find the right people for your wavelength and where you are at in life. It sounds like OP's friend is in a really toxic mentality and he's only going to attract people who agree with him or women with no self respect that are desperate for any and all attention.
Yeah we have, we’re both not feeling kids in the future as of now, and have talked about his job relocating him either out of the country or to other states since we’re both born and raised in our hometown. He’s getting masters on-line rn, and part of me also thinks he’d do it when finished, but who knows !! trying to not stress myself out i guess and remind myself to not get to ahead of myself
Whatever, Karen, I'd recommend getting a hobby instead of spending your days trying to break up strangers on Reddit. Jesus, your post history reads a textbook spinster.
There is something wrong without if it’s a clear boundary. I don’t want my girlfriend dancing with other men (who aren’t her family).
He's projecting. I bet he's cheating and feeling guilty. At least it's how these stories usually go.
Sounds like you have matured past her. You are completely correct, too. Who wants to go thru life complaining, who wants to hear people complain?
If you don't think this will change and you don't want to be around it, move on. There are plenty of young women who are grateful and happy with what they get. This is a mindset that your girlfriend does not have.
You are less likely to find a partner that is grateful and happy if you are with your current girlfriend and it is not kind to look for someone else while you are with her.
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Clorox wipes??? Jeez that’s gross and creepy at the same time. I wouldn’t worry about it, just freshen up once you get ready to hook up and you’ll be fine. She probably has some weird sense of smell or taste because she uses Clorox wipes as a baby wipe.
If she can lie about her age so easily….what else can she lie about?
Definitely not the side chick.. Only recently LDR. But I stayed at his and met his mum many times.
This sounds so weird. Is this person your girlfriend? Why are you referring to her as date. She has a spare key. It seems like you’re downplaying your relationship. If this person is your friend for so many years why don’t you know their birthday. Why would they need to lie to you to get you out of the house. It’s all very strange and I wouldnt stick around either. Why couldn’t you wait to deliver this gift yourself. It doesn’t add up.
You seem to be projecting a lot.
How would you know their reasoning and why would you assume that all these individuals are the same?
Why the hell is this even a question she literally tried to cheat on you leave
Ok no, this is not normal. This is physical abuse. You are being abused. You need to put a stop to this right now. Get out and never interact with this person again.
First break the news to yourself that you want to be single, then let him know… and it’s not anyone’s fault nor does it need to be viewed as a negative thing, but as we grow and change who we are, it isn’t guaranteed that we will still be compatible with our partner later on. Not enough info to make the call for sure but generally speaking, you’re language is such that you want freedom. He may be open to a relationship where you live separately, and maybe that works for you guys, but it sounds difficult and relationships are already plenty difficult without unnecessary hurdles
Annoying. It’s annoying behavior.
I do not know what to do anymore
You…. leave?
Like, why would you even think of staying in this toxic shitstain of a relationship?
My family was also like this with my ex after I kicked him out for emotionally cheating on me multiple times. He even lived with my dad for a year after we broke up cause he had nowhere else to go. My dad had asked if it was okay before he moved him in but my dad didn't try pressuring me to get back with him. But the rest of my family said I was over-reacting and that he was a good guy and I shouldn't have broken up with him because the cheating wasn't physical. I went off on them all and they finally accepted it for the most part.
I’m not sure if you’re ready for this plot twist but I’m actually the extroverted one believe it or not, Atleast relative to us. When I’m out I don’t really mind talking to people and I’m even pretty outgoing. I just don’t really look out for people to talk to or anything. She’s not outgoing she’s just very energetic and excitable and loud and what not. She tends to say things that are kinda cringy sometimes, or she’ll breakout into a song or something and I’m just like “what are you doing?”. I don’t really know how to explain this dynamic properly.
Oof yeah I’m not a porn girl either. Not really because of the comparison with other women or anything but because of the ethics.
I also think men watching lesbian sex has a certain…gross aspect to it because you’re sexualizing a relationship that theoretically shouldn’t involve you. It kinda implies imo, that you see all women as sexually consumable, even the ones that don’t even like men. I get that most men don’t think that deeply about it; it’s just “2 women is better than 1 yay!” But from a woman’s perspective — it’s upsetting that you sexualize wlw relationships.
From your gf’s perspective, she can never be 2 women. She can never perform what you were watching. It’s easy to see how that would lead to insecurity/inadequacy.
How do you know what she's posting?
yup i didnt confess to her but im taking a 2-4 week break from her rn to work on myself
Agreed. Dating sucks for most people. It just is very hot to find the right people for your wavelength and where you are at in life. It sounds like OP's friend is in a really toxic mentality and he's only going to attract people who agree with him or women with no self respect that are desperate for any and all attention.
Yeah we have, we’re both not feeling kids in the future as of now, and have talked about his job relocating him either out of the country or to other states since we’re both born and raised in our hometown. He’s getting masters on-line rn, and part of me also thinks he’d do it when finished, but who knows !! trying to not stress myself out i guess and remind myself to not get to ahead of myself
I hope your balls fall off you creep
Whatever, Karen, I'd recommend getting a hobby instead of spending your days trying to break up strangers on Reddit. Jesus, your post history reads a textbook spinster.
You think your worse days are because she has male friends? That seems like a strange conclusion to me.
A lot of these comments are just advice to op so he can make his girlfriend happy, y’all are so biased