I [F32] was cheated on by partner [M40] while pregnant, no condom, I’m called drama
3KAbout 9 months ago I [F 32] was 6 months pregnant, when my partner [M 40] told me he had recently cheated on me without a condom with a 27 year old woman with herpes. She is the girlfriend of a band mate of the band he is in. The bandmember knows and doesn’t really care as they have an on/off relationship I guess.
He and I have been together for five years.
I had hyperemesis gravidarum my whole pregnancy. I was in the ER several times, I lost 20 pounds. I am still underweight, with an underweight BMI.
He won’t block her he won’t stop playing with the band. He won’t give me any access to money except a little here and there to get by. He lives in my house that I own and pays the gas bill and things for our son. I will be returning to work soon as I have no money now. I am a realtor so I hope I will be able to get work soon.
I am high functioning, I workout, cook, keep this house clean. I breastfed exclusively for months even when I desperately needed a break, he wouldn’t let me have a break to give him organic formula even once until he was 4 months old. He hates me and I don’t know why. He literally tells me my tears are fake.
I have literally done all of the sleepless nights except maybe ten times, I sleep alone with the baby and he sleeps in a separate room, and I worked retail during the holidays and Black Friday to make money for gifts. It’s never enough.
This morning he called me crazy and psycho for again sobbing about everything.
I finally broke down for real and called his sister who is 45 and has kids and recently went through a difficult divorce and she is understanding and supportive and doesn’t think I am crazy. I am not trying to put her in the middle of this but she knows we are struggling and said she would talk to him.
He still goes out, plays music. I haven’t socialized once basically in a year and a half. My self respect is gone. But he’s a good father.
TLDR; my partner cheated on me when I was pregnant, won’t block her on instagram, and tells me I am crazy for my emotional reactions. I am also without any access to money and he lives in my house.
He thinks I am immature about the instagram stuff. Why won’t he block her? He cheated on me when I was pregnant. How is that just jealousy? Of course I am jealous. I feel desperate.
submitted by /u/Ok_Zebra9569
[link] [comments]
">
This man has clearly never had a dick in his mouth nor understands the throat gymnastics it takes to even put one in one’s mouth
I'm not saying this is your situation, but I have several friends whose boyfriends expressed interest in men while they were dating, it was kind of put away until after they got married, had kids, mortgages, etc etc, and then the husbands have come out as gay or trans & the marriage has exploded.
Is it possible your boyfriend is from a family, region, religion or culture where it's not easy to come out as gay? Is it possible he's trying to break up to explore his sexuality & you're trying to be accommodating & stay together, but that's not really what he wants? You owe it to yourself to get answers before you get too much further down the commitment road & honestly he owes it to himself to figure out if he's gay/bi & just been going through the motions because it's expected of him.
I basically told her I am open to the strip club but im not sticking my penis in any holes while im there.
Maybe tell you bf that it felt like a courtesy thing and not a real invite since he never bothered to follow up or make actual plans.
No need for him to have a big confrontation with him. And if he still feels like he doesn't want to be friends with him, that's fine too. He can simply ghost him gradually and no need to mention this instance.
I think you should definitely review that guy and say how super fun it is when he “pranks” the groom by telling him he fucked the bride. So fun! Bet he gets ALLLLLLL the gigs after that!