Tips on how to tell my (33f) companion (35m) that I want to have the baby adopted

Apologies for almost any bad spacing, on a cellular.

I' ve created and rewritten this several times, hopefully it' s very clear and to the point.

I am 33f and my companion 35m, we have 3 incredible children from 10 in order to 4. We' ve already been together nearly 14 many years

I found out two years ago I was pregnant and both agreed it was something that we couldn' t perform for various reasons so I ended the pregnancy.

I was a SAHM intended for 8 years, getting back into work when our most youthful started nursery, loved being back. Finally felt like i used to be a person again, not just a mother. We both decided after I finished the pregnancy that I ought to get my tubes linked, and I was on a wait list.

In August I discovered I was pregnant. We used 2 types of contraceptive but it happened anyway. I actually discussed ending the pregnancy again and he was, just for lack of better word, inappropriate. Said that after I murdered the last child he' deb hoped I' d associated with grown a heart. That he managed to forgive me for the things i did last time, yet didn' t know what he' d do if I achieved it again.

I' meters currently 24 weeks expecting, but I don' big t want this baby. I love my children, I love our partner, I love our lifetime. But I spent so long being just " the mum", I can' capital t go back to it.

I had a phone call 2 days ago from the hospital to discuss a scheduled appointment for sterilisation, but certainly couldn' t. So I' m back on the wait around list for who knows how long.

I tried to discuss adoption with him, but he refuses. Says I' mirielle not allowed to give his infant away, that I' ve done it before so I can do it again. I asked if he would take some time off and be a SAHD but he said number When I kept trying to speak with him, he just required himself to bed and it has refused to talk about it given that.

I' ve spoken to his sister, (SIL), who has had previous reproductive problems and she is more than happy to take the baby on through birth, but I don' t know how to talk to my partner about it.

The OUR baby, and he is really a really amazing dad, We can' t just say " this is happening"

Any help would be appreciated. Thank you

UPDATE: I' meters going to go to bed now as it is late, so I won' big t be replying anymore. Thank you for your comments, you' ve all given me a lot to think about.

I will check the condoms when my partner is at work and then talk to your pet in the evening. I think therapy is essential for us both, at minimum.

Thank you all once again