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Unfortunately, this is not going to end well for you. Either they will both come, or neither will. That is simply the nature of abusive relationships. And don't be surprised if both don't come, despite an invite, either. That is also the nature of abusive relationships.
I wouldn't bother worrying about invites though, let's be real here. The issue is your concern for her, and you are long past a point where you should have sat her down and tried to help. You need to sit her down, approach her with love and kindness, ask her if she's happy, discuss how worried about her you are, offer help in any way you can, and remind her how loved she is. That is the only thing that is going to help her get away from this guy.
Bluntly, if you have to put up with him at your wedding to get her there…my thoughts are that it's worth it, to avoid isolating her. I certainly would for anyone I love enough to be my MoH. (But hire security) not everyone will agree with me, the top comment is definitely worth reading to see the other perspective, but having helped both of my sister's escape abuse before, I personally think no asshole is bad enough to stop inviting the people I love along. (Obviously, if there are concerns of physical violence, this stance would change, but you do not indicate that.)
But I don't think you can have this as your line in the sand, when you haven't drawn any lines before now. I think that if you do, it will end the friendship, and push them closer together.
Unfortunately, this is not going to end well for you. Either they will both come, or neither will. That is simply the nature of abusive relationships. And don't be surprised if both don't come, despite an invite, either. That is also the nature of abusive relationships.
I wouldn't bother worrying about invites though, let's be real here. The issue is your concern for her, and you are long past a point where you should have sat her down and tried to help. You need to sit her down, approach her with love and kindness, ask her if she's happy, discuss how worried about her you are, offer help in any way you can, and remind her how loved she is. That is the only thing that is going to help her get away from this guy.
Bluntly, if you have to put up with him at your wedding to get her there…my thoughts are that it's worth it, to avoid isolating her. I certainly would for anyone I love enough to be my MoH. (But hire security) not everyone will agree with me, the top comment is definitely worth reading to see the other perspective, but having helped both of my sister's escape abuse before, I personally think no asshole is bad enough to stop inviting the people I love along. (Obviously, if there are concerns of physical violence, this stance would change, but you do not indicate that.)
But I don't think you can have this as your line in the sand, when you haven't drawn any lines before now. I think that if you do, it will end the friendship, and push them closer together.